#audhd parent

I saw an interesting video a while ago that’s something like envision a house. Your kid is in the house and you are outside. We like to go in the front door of the house to ask or direct the child. Please do this. What, when, who, why that, then, them. If they refuse, there’s another way this person called the side door. “Hey, wouldn’t you like to do this?” It’s nondirect. “I feel like doing…

Not a fan of celebrating myself in general. I don’t want a birthday party. I don’t want recognition for a promotion. For every positive someone could say, I have a dozen negative examples at hand. It feels disingenuous to celebrate myself when I know for a fact there’s no reason to do so. It takes all my masking ability to grin and bear it. I will be happier tomorrow when we stop talking about…

My daughter who refuses to let me watch futbol all of a sudden wants to watch it. O… K… ?

Of late, my daughter gets emotional at bedtime. She’s thinking about her day and getting upset about a particular bad choice. My wife is frustrated about it. I see it as a good thing. Kids develop ethics and morals by feeling guilt. We are careful to emphasize that the action was bad and feeling upset about that is good. We don’t want to feel we are bad. We stress thinking about how to achieve…

As a kid, I used to LOVE to play keepy uppy. We had an interior square hallway, and I would play it in there for hours. I indoctrinated my brother. It was competition rules where first hits, second hits, first hits. Plus it has to be and upward hit. Just now, my daughter played it with my wife and I. After a bit, my wife bailed as she hit her head earlier. And, my daughter told me to play on my…

So much about parenting is exhausting. Things intended to be fun are full of vigilance. Take us going to an indoor rock climbing facility. We sign waivers making any injuries our fault. My literal thinking takes responsibility to ensure we seriously consider safety. That’s counter to the dopamine needs of children and my ADHD wife. (I need to ponder why I fail to fulfill my dopamine when I shift…

The difficult part of marriage seems to be that I operate with a mask. Well, a husband/father mask around my wife and kid. Also, their need for socializing means more usage of my social mask. As a bachelor, I would just isolate myself when I felt exhausted from masking too much. It was easy enough to just disappear as needed. Well, not at work, but everywhere else. As an example, not quite a…

My kiddo is dysregulated due to our holiday! He’s having some..interesting moments that included launching milk onto the floor yesterday!