Great question, anon. I’m gonna hand this off to Levi.

“It’s always okay to not want to do something your partner likes. Whatever feelings you have for them don’t override your discomfort unless you’ve agreed to it. It doesn’t matter if I tell my submissive or my partner that he’s the only person who matters to me or whatever; if he doesn’t want to do one of my kinks, that’s perfectly alright. If your partner pressures you to disregard that for him, that’s not good, so watch for that.

However, let’s assume you have a small part of you that thinks you might want to do it. Restriction can be done very safely and gradually if you want to acclimate and show yourself that you aren’t in danger. You’re the only person who can decide if you want to give it a try, but if it were me in that particular situation, I’d start with scarf binding on my ankles. Something soft and not too restraining where I’m able to get out on my own, with a knot I can easily undo if I start getting scared. You can try this by yourself with no one around to influence you, and see if you can adjust.

But that’s if you want to give that a shot. You have NO obligation to “try it and you might like it” with any kink whatsoever. It doesn’t matter if that’s bondage or pain play or even kissing- if it makes you uncomfortable, then your partner should not be pressuring you. Your hard limits are not negotiable. Thanks for coming to us, anon.” 

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