#aqproblems

I’m going on a limb and assuming this is either about coming out or confessing so1. Coming outIt’s really terrifying to come out to anyone. But if it goes well, gosh, it feels euphoric. Also, when people come out to me the look on their faces when they get that I’m accepting them is wonderful. But if it isn’t safe for you to come out it’s okay not to especially if it’s your family. Tough it out, it’ll be okay. A lot of people think that you gotta tell others for you to be queer, but you don’t. If you know you’re queer, then you are. Also, if you don’t feel like you’re ready to come out then it’s also okay not to, just do it in your own time and to people you trust. Whatever the case, there will always be people there for you (like us. hi) 2. ConfessingAhhhhh, crushes. Tough stuff. It’s pretty frightening, ‘cause like everything there’s pretty much always a chance things go sour. But hey, you can do it. I think an advice that I’d give is to like really discern about what you do and if you really like that person because there’s a really blurry area between infatuation and loving someone. So yeah, try to figure out the difference (a personal thing i have is if it lasts for more than 3 months it’s more likely to be a crush). There’s pretty much 3 scenarios that could happen (3 generals ones anyways…crushes are v weird) a)You confess, the person likes you back. great!  b)You confess. the person doesn’t quite like you like that. It’s alright, take the no and continue with life  c)You don’t confess. You’ll never know if they like you back or not.  

Oh dear, child c’mere you need a hugBut uhm, can i pry a bit and ask why/how? I really wanna help but it’s much easier to do so when we get what’s up But i guess a general answer would be:I find it really admirable how you aim for the happiness of others possibly over  your own but  yeah that can be a double edged sword. You owe it to yourself to be happy, everyone deserves it. If your batchmates don’t help you become happy find your own happiness. It could be in another group of people, a really good book, a hobby, etc. But don’t go into a hermit-mode or overdo something ‘cause happiness can be in the little menial stuff too. 

Same. But there’s an oddly large queer community in our school so there are people who’ll understand. Also, for an all girl catholic school there’s a lot of gay.But yeah, there’ll always be a sort of jealousy from the minority towards the majority .For one reason, they’re (for the most part) assured that society accepts them, they don’t go through the same stigmatizing that the queer community receives. But that’s not to say that all straight people don’t feel the wrenching of questioning their sexuality, there are quite a lot of straight people who have at one time or another in their life questioned. They also do receive their own fair share of stereotypes and aren’t exempt from pain or suffering whoever they are so there’s also that to remember I guess. So uhm back to topic. It’s still pretty good that there’s a growing majority of people who though straight still support the lgbt+ community. Though there are also times I find it annoying when very very straight people are like “oh ik the feel… i’ve been through___. I have the same pain as you”. The sentiment is very much appreciated and allies are much much needed, however, not all pain’s the same. To quote a spoken word(which I know is about discrimination of African-Americans and Women but I think it can still speak of any type of discrimination/pain),“ It is not a problem that you want to sympathize but to tell me you know my pain, is to stab yourself in the leg because you saw me get shot. We have two different wounds, and looking at yours does nothing to heal mine.”  So yeah, they don’t super know what it feels like to be gay but still appreciate that they are trying ‘cause it still takes courage to at least attempt to understand others. 

Yeah, that happens a lot. If you’re gay- and i won’t assume you are- I think it would feel weird at least a little it’s like you’re undercover. Like, you can be gay and have nobody ask about your sexuality or be straight and have everyone ask if you’re gay. Either way just be comfortable with yourself