Urgh anorgasmia advice is just so. Useless for me. I'm not on antidepressants or anything else, I don't have an issue with anxiety or pressuring myself to come, I've tried different things and vibrators, I'm even on T now.
Still, nothing.
And it's just incredibly frustrating when you're just horny all the time, and even moreso if all of society seems to focus on orgasms being the ultimate goal of sex/masturbation. I can't even read smut without being reminded of it. :/
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It's impossibly frustrating anon.
A lot of anorgasmia advice is literally just "try different meds", "don't pressure yourself", "do therapy", but if you've done all of that already or none of that applies to you, then what?
Nothing.
There's no advice for those who just are anorgasmic without any outside factors. It's annoying and it's just plain stupid. Like people just CAN'T be anorgasmic on their own there MUST be some other reason (sarcasm).
And don't even get me started on smut. You'd think in this day and age of fanfic there would be SOMETHING for anorgasmic people, especially when it affects almost 5% of people with female reproductive organs. But nope. Everyone is always having mind blowing orgasms with each other and most of the fics you can find on sites like ao3 are about magically curing a character's anorgasmia because the power of love or something. It's extremely disheartening and discouraging, especially if you're in something like the selfshipping space or try to read x reader fics.
