#angelicallyafrican

The "that girl" trend was something that I recently came across on TikTok. That girl is described as that one girl we all know that seems to have her entire life together, has the perfect work-life balance, prioritizes her health, has this calm aura around her that just makes you hope that even a fraction of her essence will rub off on you. I like the that girl trend because it's like the hot girl summer trend, but it's more focused on wellness and becoming your best self.

Becoming "that girl" is something I think is attainable if you're willing to be dedicated to the lifestyle. It will involve breaking some pre-existing bad habits, and adopting some newer alternatives, but I believe it will overall benefit and enhance your life. So here's @angelicallyafrican's guide to becoming ✨that girl✨

Create a morning routine

A ✨that girl✨ morning routine would look something like:

Waking up early (between 6-8 am)

Making the bed

Opening the blinds/curtains to let the light in

Doing a page in your Five Minute Journal

Doing some sort of intentional movement (weight lifting, going on a walk/run, doing yoga or pilates, etc)

Having a healthy breakfast that nourishes your body

Drinking LOTS of water

Spraying a beautiful fragrance

Getting dressed in an outfit that makes you feel good

Going over your to-do list

Starting your work or school day

So this is what I've got from most of the ✨that girl✨ videos. They emphasize that how you start your day is crucial to feeling and actually having a more put-together life.

A few days ago, I got an anon request asking me

To share tips on how to be elegant as a black woman, so here’s my take on being elegant as a black woman.

𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤

Have and maintain your boundaries. Over extending yourself isn’t self satisfying, and rarely if ever, you’re able to actually be there for others. Saying no isn’t a bad thing and it is t rude. Don’t feel bad or guilty to where you add a bunch of excuses after respectfully declining.

Become more self aware. Know what your likes and dislikes are, what your boundaries are, what you’re passionate about, your style, all the things that make you who you are. Nobody should be able to know you better than you know yourself. Self awareness comes with a confidence and ease that makes moving through life easier, and love the person you are to the fullest.

Be kind. Being firm and self aware is a necessity, but it should always be coupled with kindness. Be a listening ear or a helping hand to those who need it, but remember your boundaries. Be warm towards all. Elegance ≠ being a snob, being catty, being mean, or being rude.

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Identify your own personal style. Clothes should never look like they’re wearing you, you should always look like you’re wearing the clothes. Not only should you be concerned about your clothes, but accessorizing in a way that’s almost natural. Once you find your style, you’ll find that any outfit you put on will feel right on you, and you’ll be able to move with much ease.

Find your signature scent. I think nothing is more beautiful than a well dressed woman with a beautifully paired fragrance. Go to Sephora, Macy’s , or Saks and have an associate help you. Think about what scents you like, such as like edible scents, florals, fruity, woody, etc. Once you discover it, wear it all the time. This scent is what people will remember of you whenever they smell it. It’s powerful!

Keep in my mind your body language. The way you walk, talk, smile, and move are all indicative of an elegant woman. When you walk, keep your chest up, shoulders back, and chin slightly lifted. Smile genuinely. There’s nothing more beautiful than an authentic, warm smile. When you speak, speak clearly so you can be understood. Listen actively.