#and validation

"Kiddo"

"Darling"

"Kid"

"Buddy"

"You're still a kid"

"You remind me of my younger self"

*head pats*

*hair ruffling*

Or literally any other motherly term of endearment

I'm a very small creator, i know i don't have any reach, or any true voice on the internet but, I felt like I had to just- put this out there for someone, even if it's only one person who needed to hear this.

Quick warning, this might spiral a little long and it's most definitely a breakdown of thought processes. But. I can psychoanalyze things and I want to show people something they might've looked over.

I don't understand why we put down people who want likes/comments/reblogs or anything of the similar. People who come on here and see a small artist or a big artist or a starting writer or a professional writer and feel the need to tell them to knock themselves down a peg and that they dont need the attention.

I'll tell you what, I actually hate when I see this.

Because wanting attention is normal. Natural.

I'm not referring to content creators that are ragebaiting, posting porn for clicks, or anything of the sort, i mean just artists, writers, photographers, anything of the like on ANY site, not just Tumblr.

"You just want likes!" Yeah!! and? "Why do you want reposts/comments? Aren't likes enough?" Because it could just be a bot, not someone actually appreciating me. Or because a reblog or repost feels more thoughtful, like actual attention.

People WANT engagement

for money? sometimes. for attention? yeah probably.

But wanting attention is normal. It's as normal as distancing yourself from your parents during puberty because guess what? that's a deep engraved instinct.

Both wanting attention and distance during puberty are DEEP instincts.

You distance from your parents because you are physically changing to host/give children and some deep instinct is making sure you don't engage in incest.

You crave attention because humans are pack animals, social animals, since the dawn of time. You ever draw a stick figure in pre-k and show mommy and daddy because it looks so good? Yeah. Same thought process.

We have put VALUE on people outside our communities/families liking our work because it's true compliment, not sugarcoated by familiarity.

So why do we have value on something that we're putting people down for wanting?

Introvert, extrovert, ambivert, anyone wants attention no matter the scale they want it.

I find it sickening we're even putting people down for this.

Post that art. That skit. That writing. That building picture. Your 3D model. Your pottery. Want the attention.

Because I think you're as human as I am. And I want some recognition too.

It's only human to want likes and comments ! It's only human to want attention.

If you wanna ramble about your writing but are worried about posting it my messages (and askbox I can answer privately if that would be easier) are always open <3

No pressure of course, but the offer is there!