~(Slang) Term of the day~
Def. a single, typically older woman who owns (usually multiple) cats. She lives alone with her house full of cats, no husband or children, and a bottle of regret stuffed in her head that is often subconscious to them (seemingly), because they commonly act happy, however, the majority of them aren't.
Ladies, please, don't be a Cat Lady.
Nobody likes an idea or person that is common among many. Unless it is an admired subject or idea that many people adore, but generally, nobody really likes a recurrent person that follows the usual trends. In short, no one pays attention to the sheep.
Turns out, the vast majority of women who are aging past the dating market are currently single, non-married, and have no children. If you are a female, and you want to follow a career path as an adult, you are selfish.
Being selfish is fine, if that is what you want to do with your life. But when you hit your mid-thirties to 50's, without a family, don't blame society and men for your poor decision.
Children. Family. Those two things are what most woman (and men) will (at least at one point in their lives) wish they had after they have already live most of their lives.
The Cat Lady is lonely and sad
Ever wonder why the Cat Lady has so many cats? Just look at her environment. No husband to cook for and kiss after coming home from work. No children running around, playing, to look after and tend to.
The Cat Lady earns her name for her main solution. Cats. Lots of them (usually). She utilizes furry feline friends as a comforting tactic to feel better about her bad past decisions that led to her current situation.
Like I said before, the majority of women actually love children (sometimes subconsciously). If you are a woman, and you believe that your career/business, where you work daily and all you gain is money and maybe some social interactions with your co-workers/business partners, is genuinely more important than to start a healthy family with a healthy husband, I am sorry for you.
Ladies, when you have lived your whole life, working for a boss, trying to make profit to maintain your own livelihood, what do you think is going to happen when you retire?
You will be retired, infertile, sorrowful, lonely, and regretful (maybe even jealous). Although you can adopt a child, that is truthfully a terrible decision, because (1. You are elder now, and your just emotionally and mentally damaging the child by bringing them into your life, just to pass early of old age. (2. The chance of you being as happy with an adopted child compared to a biological child you created with your husband are not near equivalent. The bond with your adopted child may be seen a bit alienated to you because you might always subconsciously note that the child was birthed by someone else. Also, not having a father around is a big no-no in itself, which should have been number one. When there is no father figure, you will probably feel desperate to be wanted by a man, but high-value men, worthy of fatherhood, don't want to get into a relationship with an older woman with an adopted child in hopes of a fatherly figure. (3. Chances are, you don't know how to be a proper mother. That is the uncomfortable truth, I know, but it needs to be spoken. If you have focused and dedicated yourself to being a business woman, rather than a mother, then, I think we can all agree that you likely don't have the appropriate knowledge of being a mom. You reap what you sow from the things you devote yourself to: You study hard, work hard to be a career-focused individual, you earn the knowledge and rewards of a career-focused individual. You commit to learning how to be a mother, you learn how to cook, to sew, to clean, you earn the understanding and treats of being a mother. Unfortunately, vice versa doesn't function correctly here.
High-value men DO NOT find the Cat Lady attractive
The high-value man works hard to be the bread-winner, he wants a family, with a loyal, loving wife AND mother! Unfortunately, the Cat Lady fits none of those standards.
Previously, I stated how the Cat Lady will take the career path, rather than the family path, which is the Big Why for why a high-value man wouldn't tolerate her B.S. Either the career path, or she just chose to do nothing with her life and had 0 self-esteem for herself, restraining her from doing something beneficial and avoid the self-deprecating actions, in which, doing nothing would have the same effect in what types of men she attracts.
By the way, there is nothing wrong with being a woman and choosing a career path. I am simply saying that most men (specifically high-value men) desire families, to have children with a woman and support a family. Yes, you are selfish for it, because women are specifically built to make babies, and that's how it has always been since historic, native times, but you aren't a terrible person.
Now, these are why high-value men typically avoid the Cat Lady:
1.) They want a family, not a lecture.
Since prehistoric times, men have been structured with high levels of testosterone (sex drive hormone + muscle-building hormone), which women are commonly noticed to hold less of this hormone than men. Because of the substantial amount of this sex hormone men have, they are constantly driven to have sex with as many women as they possibly can. This is why men desire procreation. All men NEED sex in a way.
Procreation is satisfying to a man because he is not only releasing his tension, but also creating a family with a woman, and it makes him feel worthy of creating something.
When a high-value man is stuck with a Cat Lady, it is a nightmare waiting to unfold.
When he attempts to set traditional values and gender roles into the relationship, she will likely get hostile or just ignore his wishes. Let's admit it, Cat Ladies are customarily feminists. But ignoring that, if she wasn't a feminist and we played into role with her business skills.
It would be anticipated that she would try to steal the financial-providing role in the relationship, which is definitely intolerable. There have been gender-based positions rooted from the start of time, from our ancestors, which explains our humanly behaviors and nature. Some minor, others more noticeable, everything we do has in one way or another stemmed ancestrally.
It is simple: She has to have traditional values (to cook, clean, sew), have feminine attributes (emotional, kind, loving, empathetic, motherly, reserved). He has to be financially stable (enough to support the family), he pays the bills, the mortgage, and pays for the material necessities (food, hygienic products, handiwork tools, etc.), and most importantly, he protects the family.
If those standards cannot be met by both partners, it's not going to be a healthy family/relationship. If one of you can meet them, but the other can't, it is still not going to work. You two need each other, and you guys have to work together. You put yourselves in the position to be in a relationship with each other, so you have to help each other along the path to life if you want a healthy, stable, happy future together.
In this situation though, the Cat Lady proves unworthy of the high-value man, and so this relationship would never prove to successfully survive.
2.) High-value men admire and want virgin girls, not promiscuous girls
When healthy relationships are mentioned, body counts are very important to take note of.
To vet a woman, you have to eventually introduce the topic of body count. What is her body count? Quite a predominant question that calls for a nucleus answer. Her answer may be "2", but she might actually mean "5". Many women like to simplify their true answer to underplay and make herself feel a bit better.
It may be a comfort tactic for them, but either way, it is still lying. Of course, not ALL women do this, I don't shove the good people under the carpet with the wrong-doers. But I do find it a bit customary to see women trying to minimize their body count, and then add a follow-up by asking why the men are testing her for her body count, which just reveals that she is ashamed of the truth.
If she has little to no past sexual experiences, then why would she be offended for them asking her? Remember, what offends you reveals you. Some of these girls just make it too apparent of their past.
The problem involving body counts with the Cat Lady is that she likely has too many past sexual partners. This is probable because Cat Ladies typically relate lack of family and lack of proper traditional values with emotional baggage. Emotional baggage in women, when it comes to partnership, is commonly caused by too many partners she had in the past that hurt her.
Your body has a bonding mechanism, which is more prominent in women because of their emotional nature. When a woman has multiple past partners that she broke up with, since there is reasons as to why they broke up, she obviously wasn't content. Because of this, she will search for a better man than her previous, which means she holds higher standards for the next man after each split-up.
Once she meets you, after forming and then breaking multiple connections with her ex's, how high do you think her expectations will be for you? Quite high, but it all depends on how many ex's she has and how badly each emotionally hurt her. This is how the bonding mechanism works in women. However, in men, this function is quite diverse compared to the female's.
Perhaps one of the most important factor of what bonds a woman with a man, and in return, makes it harder for her bonding mechanism to cope, is sex. When a woman has sexual intercourse with her partner, she releases a love hormone, called oxytocin (OT). This hormone is why sex causes women to become emotionally attached to a man. According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), during sex, women release an additional amount of OT compared to men.
Sex-Related Differences in Plasma Oxytocin Levels in Humans
National Institutes of Health (.gov)https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov › articles › PMC6446474
This is why certain, smart men will focus on a woman's body count upon meeting her. This also explains why it was customary for historical men to have multiple wives/partners, and why men are supported and praised for it. Not to mention, the fact that men generally have to WORK for sex and earn it. From a woman's perspective, men are easy to get sex from, because they have higher testosterone levels (sex drive hormone), and will almost always take the opportunity to have sex with a woman, if possible.
The Cat Lady type is generally emotionally damaged, so she likely has lots of ex's. She substitutes a relationship with a human being by owning cats. Cats don't judge you and don't search for traditional values, physical attractiveness, and they can't emotionally harm you. This is a perfect artificial partnership, because she doesn't have to hold herself to any standards, and she doesn't have to worry about being held accountable. At the same time, her cats provide cuddles and fuzzy comfort. But, like I said, this is artificial, and in the end, you have a high chance of being unhappy with your decision.
While your female friends have already formed families, and have children of their own because they started early, you will be alone in your house, with your cats, no family, and no children. This is the moment where you would begin to regret your past mistakes and all of the poor choices you made that ultimately led you to where you currently are.
Let's be honest, nobody enjoys the feeling of regret. You have to be comfortable and do what you want in life. It is your choice. But, as a woman, when you choose career over family, the chances of regretful sensations and a sorrowful rest of your life are quite high.
Fulfilling your family's wishes, caring for them, kissing your husband when he gets home from work, playing with your children, spending time with your family as a whole is possibly one of the most generous, gratifying reward when you are a woman. You can disagree with me, but I believe that it is fulfilling from what I have seen. Eastern women talk about and share their experiences of being a loyal housewife and mother to their families, and the majority of those women describe it as worthwhile and pleasing to them.
Of course, I am fully aware that there are women who are abused by their partner/husband, and I do not condone that type of behavior. I do not pardon anyone who is toxic or abusive to their significant other and/or the people around them, whether the abuser be male or female.
In conclusion, ladies, learn your proper traditional values, stay virgins, and don't blame men if you make a bad decision, please. For both, ladies and gents, always try to self-improve, set standards for others but also yourself, and if you're in a relationship, put your lover's wants and needs into consideration. For example, a good routine is to ask the other daily "What can I do to serve you?", or something along those lines. Of course, this routine should be reciprocated between you two, or else you are just overly selfless and have no self-esteem.
Remember, every type of a relationship with someone must contain exchanges, reciprocation. If not, it can be unhealthy and unfair, and you two will likely end up hating each other.
