Oct 16, 2025
Being afamilial and an adoptee (estranged from adoptive parents due to abuse) is really funny because you open up to people about the trauma you have from being an adoptee and 50% of people go "we can be your family now/we'll adopt you/we can be a found family" (said to me as an adult) and you just have to stifle the rant you have saved up about how being continually "adopted" against your will really fucking hurts and you wish people wouldn't say that.
It's just, good grief, read the room, will ya?
#afamilial#afamiliarity#adoptee#adoptee rights#adoptee voices#adopted#I love my friends but hate the concept of found family. Thankfully my friends Get It but I continually meet people who cannot fucking read#the room or realise offering (even jokingly) to adopt a person traumatised by being adopted isn't appropriate#I'm newish to IDing as afamilial but it's been really helpful in working through the difficult feelings and trauma I have around family#aspec#tertiary attraction
