#ade squawks

CW: fatphobia, fatphobic jokes

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Be aware if you are going to watch Avengers Endgame, we received a report that there are horribly fatphobic scenes and jokes. Please be advised and take care of yourselves.

CW: Avengers Endgame spoilers in the article. DO NOT CLICK THE LINK IF YOU HAVE NOT SEEN THE MOVIE!!!

Again, this has AVENGERS ENDGAME SPOILERS. I don't want folks clicking on this and saying we spoiled the move for them by sharing it. You've been warned twice and the article even warns you before it goes into detail, the rest is up to you.

That being said, this is a really good follow-up to the CW post I shared a few days ago about there being fatphobic content in the new Avengers movie. It details why the media's treatment of fat people is so problematic and harmful, and why this movie is a prime example of how bad it is.

I still have yet to see it but I don't mind spoilers, and honestly this is making me not want to see it at all. :'/ I was already upset about the fatphobia, but I'm even more upset it's my favorite Avenger they're demeaning with it. I'm so disgusted and disappointed in Marvel, what the actual fuck? Biggest cinematic milestone of the year and of course it still blatantly advocates fatphobia.

That’s super fucked up. I feel that it stems from not only who society treats fat women, but also a combination of toxic heteronormativity culture and toxic masculinity. It’s a huge red flag and absolutely abusive for a person to restrict how another person looks or acts just to keep them under their control. And them projecting their own insecurities upon someone else is harmful.

I hear my coworkers all the time speaking about their partners or people they are dating, and I just can’t believe some of the things they’ve said that just seems completely normal and acceptable. And they cannot understand why I get up in arms about it. Recently my coworker in the morning was discussing how her boyfriend does absolutely nothing at the house, that she does all the cleaning, cooking, and errands on top of working a full time job. When I told her how gross and inexcusable that was, she countered with “oh well, he makes more money than I do so it’s okay, even if he really upsets me sometimes. Besides it’s not like I have many options anyways of people who would want me.”

I was aghast. She is a small fat in comparison to me, and when I told her that is not even remotely true, that I had two partners and we would never tolerate anything like that in our house and that she deserves far better, her response was just “well, you just got lucky then and I do love him so that’s all that matters even if it’s not ideal.”I...I have no words. Straight culture is an absolute trip sometimes.

I was browsing deviantart and found this. The description for “Skinny the pooh” reads: “After reflecting on his health, and ethical reasoning, Skinny the pooh decided to stop eating honey and choose a healthier diet" 

Which, wow. So many implications to unpack here. This artist also did something with Piglet [here] in which basically Piglets gets so fat he either cant run away from things or too big and can’t hide behind anything anymore. 

Eughh, I remember seeing this on Facebook in like a Buzzfeed article or something some time ago and it made me visibly cringe. What’s more disgusting is there are some others they have done that are very abelist too, like the Tigger one [here], who’s Trigger forms description reads: 

“Always doing the finger gun hand gesture, Trigger is an outgoing individual who likes to make everyone happy. He does have his moments when he gets cranky. When that happens, people give him the nickname ‘Triggered’.” Yikes. It’s a real shame too because they seem quite talented. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from also being an artist, it’s that just because someone is popular doesn’t mean that they’re not problematic. But it unfortunately does make a lot of folks who follow them give them a free pass just because their art is “good”, which is even more unacceptable. 

CW: Very minor spoilers warning!! I don't think it really spoils too much of anything, but just putting the warning here in case.

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A couple days ago, my wife Mod Dom and one of our friends took me to the movies for my birthday. We've been excited to see the new Spider-Man movie ever since we saw the trailer for it in Venom. LOVED it. Beautiful diversity and representation, gorgeously animated and wittingly funny, not really much to complain about here. Well written and voiced, the characters are memorable, interact smoothly with each other despite there being so many (take a lesson, Suicide Squad), and are a delight to watch. That after credits scene wins all of 2018. 10s across the board on this one, Marvel, great work.

But after the movie, there was one thing that stuck on my mind. All these different representations and interpretations of Spider-Folk but... where's the fat one? They literally say that anyone can wear the mask so, why not a fat depiction of Spider-Man?

There were a couple of things that did bother me about the movie, all of them relating to fatness. All of the Spider-Folk from different dimensions are skinny, except one. Which is of course Spider-Ham, the cartoon pig. Hmm, why am I not surprised. Older Peter Parker from another universe has a bit of pudge on his stomach (which several other characters continuously and unnecessarily comment on), but is still very much skinny passing. If he was getting picked on and shamed for that small amount of flab, I can't even imagine what someone my size at 300+ lbs. would be subjected to. Come on guys.

The only true big character in the movie is Kingpin, who is of course, the villain. Yawn. Same old song and dance, different media take. It gets exhausting after awhile, cinematic producers. The fat character is always the villain, but never the hero. We've seen it, we're tired of it, and it needs to end.

I am loving seeing all these new takes of classic characters with different diversity, being more inclusive of races, genders, and orientations. But we're still very much lacking in seeing fat folks and characters being brought into the protagonist and hero lights.

You're on the right track, big media. All we're asking is for a chance. Please give us the fat super heroes we want and need. And when you do get there, leave behind the fatphobic tropes too; don't make them all about food/constantly eating, don't admonish or make fun of them for their weight, don't make them lose weight just to get "success" by becoming skinny, etc. We have more than enough of that old outdated shit. Give us the good stuff and representation we deserve.

Fat people fighting to just exist and be themselves in a world that doesn't want them is by far one of the most heroic things to me. It's high time we got some recognition for it.

Playing around with the decorations at work cause they ain't nobody here but me and my gay self. lol I work the graveyard shift at a high end hotel and for Christmas Eve and Christmas day it is usually dead.

Happy Holidays, Merr Chrimmus, Joyous Yule, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Festivus, and a good Tuesday to you all. ❤️ I hope that your day is peaceful, restful, and safe. And if you are going through tough times, know that you are so loved and supported. We're almost there to the end of this year, you've come so far and I am so very proud of you. We're gonna get there ✨💖

Remember that you still need to eat at this time, and that if family members/party guests are shaming you and being fatphobic that you are still valid and they do not define you. The holidays are some of the worst time for fat folks, especially those of us that don't fit the gender binary or heteronormativity standard. Please be extra kind and gentle with yourself and remember that you don't have to make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of other's comfort. It's okay to not be okay during this time of season, it's not okay for others to make you feel that way.

Hey everyone! Mod Ade here and I will be continuing on the Fatspo Friday trend that retired Mod Guillermo had started in his stead. The only thing is the next couple of weeks are going to be hard for me to fully be invested in and managing it. This week I am preparing for a convention (I am an artist who tables there so I'm getting all my work ready to sell), and next weekend I will be at said convention with limited internet access, from the 17th to the 21st.

So! Y'all are still welcome to submit, participate, and enjoy Fatspo Friday this week and next, but just keep in mind I will be slow in getting around to looking at and posting things until after the convention is over on the 21st. This means there will be quite a delay between the time that things are submitted and when they will actually be posted on the blog. After this though, Fatspo Friday schedule will resume as normal.

Thank you in advance and I can't wait to see all your lovely faces! ❤️✨

Hey loves, Happy February!

Fatspo Friday is going to be interesting for a little bit until we can tame our Inbox. Since our asks are currently closed, that unfortunately has also closed down our submission box to new entries. However, you all are still more than welcome to post for Fatspo Friday and @ us! I once again have to sleep during the day to work tonight, but when I get back up late in the evening, I will check our notifications for posts tagging us and reblog them here. Have an awesome day and enjoy your beautiful selves!