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"I’m not giving you up, I’m letting you go.."

Giving up would mean stopping whatever something beautiful you both have just because things are hard, stopping your happiness just because it is stormy now, stopping things just because it seems like the hardships are never-ending. I personally think that giving up is one-sided. You know you both love each other and you're both willing to fight no matter how hard it is, no matter how much pain it ‘causes you both. But one day, you just decide to give things up just because you can’t take the pain anymore. But here’s the thing, if you give up on the person you love, wouldn’t it be more painful to watch him go on with his life without you? To watch him achieve the dreams you’re supposed to have together, alone. Giving up means throwing away all the beautiful things just because you’re too blinded by the pain you’re feeling right now. Giving up means throwing it all away just because it seems like the world doesn’t want you to be together. I’m telling you, it should never be an option to just give up. As long as you know what your heart wants and as long as you know that it’s worth all the pain and hardships, then giving up should never be an option.

"Pwedeng mapagod pero bawal bumitaw."

Letting go means knowing what’s best for the two of you, it’s knowing that it is not meant to be. When things aren’t the same anymore and you can feel the other person slowly losing their grip on you, when you can feel that you’re the only one who’s fighting, you’re the only one who wants to make it work. You can actually feel it, you can actually feel when the other person is drifting away from you. And when you do, then I’m sorry darling, then I guess that’s the time to let go. Letting go comes when you learn how to love yourself. Let go of all the heartaches and all the happiness. Let go of all the dreams you’ve made together. Let go of all the stupid and beautiful little things. Let go and let God. I know it’s hard but maybe just maybe, greater things will come your way when you learn to let go of the things that’s not meant to be yours.

"You need to learn to let go of whatever it is that makes you think you’re not good enough. Because that’s how you’re gonna beat this. When you learn that you matter."

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Letting go. Dinaman kasi lahay ng nag lelet go eh nag gi-give up na. Kasi letting go means freeing yourself sa bagay na alam mong wala na. Pagtanggap sa mga bagay. Selfcare, Kasi i-le-let go mo yung mga bagay na di ka na nasasatisfy, di na nag fu-function or hindi ka na nase-serve ng maayos.

Giving up. Pagsuko, yung nilimit mo na yung kakayahan mo sa bahay na pwede pa. Nililimit mo yung opportunities dahil sa mga struggle and fear. Nagpapatalo ka nalang sa mga bagay kasi ayaw mo na or pagod ka na.

Lahat tayo may iba't-ibang choice kung "giving up" o "Letting go" May iba gustong gumive-up, yung iba gustong mag let go. Yung iba naman gusto parehas gumive up at mag let go. Pero ako mas gusto kong lumet-go kaysa gumive up. Bakit? Kasi Kung lelet-go ako mas magaan pa sakin yun. Eh kung gumive up ako tas mahal ko pa yung tao mas mahirap para sakin kasi may "Move-on" pang tinatawag at pipilitin at pipilitin mo yung sarili mong mag move-on. Tsaka ayokong pagsisihan na gumive-up ako at pinabaayan ko na ganon lang yung nangyari. Sa let-go di mo naman kelangan mag move on just let go hahayaan nalang na makamove on ka. Maiisip mo nalang someday na nakamove on ka na pala. Pero mahirap ding lumet-go sa taong ayaw mong iwan pero kailangan, Mas mabuti naman lumet-go kaysa gumive-up kasi alam mo sasarili mong lumayo ka pero di mo sya sinuko. Lumayo ka di para isuko sya, lumayo ka kasi kailangan at the same time lumalaban ka para sakanya. Lumet-go ka kasi maraming tao ang hadlang, lumayo ka para protektahan sya. Pero di ibig sabihin nun ay gumive-up ka. Lumalaban ka kasi umaasa ka balang araw magtatagpo ulit kayo at pag sinabi nyang "Bat ka gumive-up satin, Bakit di mo ko pinaglaban" 

i. Kung mahal mo ipaglaban mo! Lagi na lang yan yung sinasabi, pero ipaglalaban mo pa ba kung masaya na siya? Siguro dapat ipaglaban mo naman yung sarili mo, at mag-let go.

If you love him/her, fight for him/her.

If you love yourself, let him/her go.

ii. Sa relationships nandiyan yung break-balikan-break-balikan. Parang tanga no? Pareho lang kayong naglolokohan. Siguro dapat kailangan niyo nang mag-let go sa isa't isa? Kasi...

Never naging solusyon ang break-up... Sumuko na kayo pareho o! Pati nagawa niyo nang maghiwalay, kayang kaya niyo na ulit gawin ulit yon.

Parang exam lang yan na na-postponed e. Oo, hindi ka nakapag-exam, pero alam mong mage-exam pa rin kayo. Edi, imbes na i-prolong niyo lang yung agony at brokenheart niyo, magbreak na kayo sa lalong madaling panahon. Odiba, at least pag dumating ang panahon masaya ka na at nakamove on. 

iii. Kung nahihirapan ka na, panahon na para bigyan mo ng pansin ang sarili mo. Stop giving a fuck, let go, and be happy!

Para saken, nagkakaiba yang dalawa na yan sa aura na ibinibigay nila.

Pag giving up, negative ang ambiance nya. Giving up, sumusuko ka na sa isang bagay, tao, pangyayari, o gawain na hindi mo na kayang ipagpatuloy kasi either nakakasakit to, nasasaktan ka na, mali to, masama to, pagod ka na, di mo na kaya at kung anu ano pang dahilan ng pagsuko. Ang paggive up ay kadalasang nakakabit sa salitang “surrender”, isusuko mo na yung isang tao, bagay, gawain o pangyayari, di mo na ipaglalaban pa at di mo na ipagpapatuloy pa. Suko na e, white flag raised.

Pag naman letting go, parang positive siya. Maglelet go ka na kasi yun ang kailangan, yun ang mahalaga at yun ang makakabuti sayo, sa iba, sa mga bagay bagay. Ang paglelet go ay parang kasingkahulugan ng “pagpaparaya” at pagpapakawala, hahayaan mo nang mawala yung isang bagay o tao sayo para sa ikabubuti niyo. Hindi ka na kakapit dito at pag aaralan mo nang mabuhay nang wala ito.

One can give up and yet still not let go. Giving up is the easy part. Completely letting go, that's another story.

There is a fine line between the two. Almost always, giving up signals hopelessness. When we give up without letting go, we are often embittered, angry or frustrated. You stop caring, or at least try to convince yourself you don’t care as a means of wall-building and heart-guarding. In an essence, giving up is defense mechanism to block the assault of pain. When you give up, you’re simply releasing your desire or your problem to chance. Or fate. Or destiny.

Letting go, on the other hand, is freeing yourself from something, or someone that doesn't make you a better person anymore. It is accepting the fact that there are things that you do not have control over. It takes a lot of courage to completely let go. But it is worth it. After the process, there will be no regrets for the decision you've made, just acceptance and freedom.