rambling again (radqueer getting worse, "ACRQ"?)
i was talking to someone irl about radqueer stuff and how it's sorta gotten worse (more pro contact, more anti consent, less philosophy / interesting discourse, more focus on stuff i find personally disinteresting like dating / transharm transitioning, less focus on other transIDs and paraphilia education/advocacy).
i was talking about how the radqueer space has got 'more and more groomers', he was saying 'they always weasel their way in when people don't kick them out'. on one hand, radqueers are notably uncaring when someone is pro contact or anti consent. but on the other hand - it's partly Tumblr moderation's fault - i've tried to report anti-consent people, people literally identifying as being 'pro rape and not in a roleplay sense', and they don't do much. Or if they do ban the account, the person just makes another the next day.
also he agreed that being 'uncaring about contact discourse' is weird and i feel validated right now. (yes! it is good to care about bestiality and child-adult sex being abusive!! someone else can see the obvious thing!!)
he brought up (paraphrasing here,) "maybe there should just be a community that like, radqueer but specifically not letting pro-contact and anti-consent people in" and i was like yeah... why isn't there just an "anti contact radqueer" community... i feel like this could be a thing.
brainstorming about "anti contact radqueer" being a thing:
a tag/space/ideology/community for radqueers who want to stop being in 'the same community' with people advocating for sex between adults and children, and bestiality
it feels a lot more simple than making Another blankqueer stance. it's just... radqueer but anti contact. so much more simple, and not tied to a specific aesthetic or person.
i think the "anti contact" part should be specifically about MAP & zoo. it's kinda irrelevant to bring up stuff like "what about objectophilic contact" (we all think that's fine), or "what about necrophilic contact" (i think the community generally agrees that you should just respect someone's wishes for what happens after they die. and if they donate their body to necrophiles, then its their right to do so)
could be abbreviated to something like "ACRQ", so it's easier to type/tag. i don't think anyone else is heavily invested in using this acronym
emoji combo could be β€οΈππ. (anti contact red heart plus radqueer rainbow-strawberry). it looks pretty but is maybe not colorblind accessible? (for red-green colorblindness especially, since the pro contact symbol is a green heart). alternatively, there's πππ (anti contact closed padlock) but the closed and opened padlocks are hard to differentiate for me. also there's π³ππ, but people don't often use the plant emojis to indicate contact stance. (my reference for the emoji codes)
there's vocalux's anti c para radqueer flag. tbh i dont like this flag very much - no hate to the creator, i don't want this to sound mean - but i would design it differently. the semi-transparent Xs are hard to replicate. i don't really like the colors. i would like a flag that is more obviously radqueer⦠like with a spectrum like the popular one maybe? maybe i'll try to design my own someday if i feel like it
the pre-radqueer flag is very swag and aligns a lot with what i'm thinking, but "pre-radqueer / not radqueer enough (ironic)" is slightly different in concept to an "anti contact radqueer" flag
i'm thinking we should have something very obviously radqueer, but distinguishable from the general radqueer flag.
