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i was talking to someone irl about radqueer stuff and how it's sorta gotten worse (more pro contact, more anti consent, less philosophy / interesting discourse, more focus on stuff i find personally disinteresting like dating / transharm transitioning, less focus on other transIDs and paraphilia education/advocacy).

i was talking about how the radqueer space has got 'more and more groomers', he was saying 'they always weasel their way in when people don't kick them out'. on one hand, radqueers are notably uncaring when someone is pro contact or anti consent. but on the other hand - it's partly Tumblr moderation's fault - i've tried to report anti-consent people, people literally identifying as being 'pro rape and not in a roleplay sense', and they don't do much. Or if they do ban the account, the person just makes another the next day.

also he agreed that being 'uncaring about contact discourse' is weird and i feel validated right now. (yes! it is good to care about bestiality and child-adult sex being abusive!! someone else can see the obvious thing!!)

he brought up (paraphrasing here,) "maybe there should just be a community that like, radqueer but specifically not letting pro-contact and anti-consent people in" and i was like yeah... why isn't there just an "anti contact radqueer" community... i feel like this could be a thing.

brainstorming about "anti contact radqueer" being a thing:

a tag/space/ideology/community for radqueers who want to stop being in 'the same community' with people advocating for sex between adults and children, and bestiality

it feels a lot more simple than making Another blankqueer stance. it's just... radqueer but anti contact. so much more simple, and not tied to a specific aesthetic or person.

i think the "anti contact" part should be specifically about MAP & zoo. it's kinda irrelevant to bring up stuff like "what about objectophilic contact" (we all think that's fine), or "what about necrophilic contact" (i think the community generally agrees that you should just respect someone's wishes for what happens after they die. and if they donate their body to necrophiles, then its their right to do so)

branding:

could be abbreviated to something like "ACRQ", so it's easier to type/tag. i don't think anyone else is heavily invested in using this acronym

cat mascot would be fun

emoji combo could be ❤️🌈🍓. (anti contact red heart plus radqueer rainbow-strawberry). it looks pretty but is maybe not colorblind accessible? (for red-green colorblindness especially, since the pro contact symbol is a green heart). alternatively, there's 🔒🌈🍓 (anti contact closed padlock) but the closed and opened padlocks are hard to differentiate for me. also there's 🌳🌈🍓, but people don't often use the plant emojis to indicate contact stance. (my reference for the emoji codes)

the flag:

there's vocalux's anti c para radqueer flag. tbh i dont like this flag very much - no hate to the creator, i don't want this to sound mean - but i would design it differently. the semi-transparent Xs are hard to replicate. i don't really like the colors. i would like a flag that is more obviously radqueer… like with a spectrum like the popular one maybe? maybe i'll try to design my own someday if i feel like it

the pre-radqueer flag is very swag and aligns a lot with what i'm thinking, but "pre-radqueer / not radqueer enough (ironic)" is slightly different in concept to an "anti contact radqueer" flag

where we make "pro para" mean "supportive of people who have non-normative attractions that they can't ethically/physically/literally act on", and "pro contact" mean "thinks it's ethical to act on minor attraction and/or zoophilia"

(i am in the "pro para anti contact" quadrant, statements in the other quadrants are just for example purposes and i may not agree with them)

a type of paraphile i see sometimes that i've started mentally referring to as "anti para pro contact":

typically are found among pro-c zoophiles on twitter, or sometimes pro-c maps on some kind of MAP-specific place

thinks their sexuality is only valid because they can act on it.

isn't accepting of attractions that they think can't be acted on ethically, and so are only accepting of paraphilias they are pro-contact about.

for example, if they are pro-c for zoophilia but anti-c for MAP, they would accept zoophiles but not MAPs. and vice versa for pro-c MAP anti-c zoo.

another example is pro-c zoophiles hating anti-c zoosadists

radqueer things i personally like to see

art!!

discourse, to some degree

activism

education

talk and discussion about transIDs and paraphilias

things i am a bit tired of seeing

excessive horny posts in the radqueer main tag. i get it, you (hypothetical hornyposter 'you' not reader 'you') "want to be abused sooo bad", but i really don't care? there are so many posts like that. just so many. and a lot of them arguably don't really have much relation to being radqueer

pro contact stuff

people who think pro contact stuff doesn't matter, or are like 'im complex contact cause i think you can act on kinks!!'

pro abuse (as in, people literally identifying as being "pro abuse" and such). i feel like this wasn't such a thing before.

phrases like "consensual abuse" and "consensual rape" and "nccnc / non consensual consensual non consent" becoming common-ish terms that people use even though we already have words like bdsm and rapeplay and cnc. it's needlessly oxymoronic and i find it annoying. personally "consensual rape" is the one i find the most annoying, "nccnc" is second, and "conabuse" is only slightly annoying (subjective opinion, just my immediate gut reaction).

mixed feelings:

hyperspecific mini-labels. on one hand i am not really interested in a lot of them... but when i see one i like, i am very happy. this one is more positive.

i feel like some radqueers see 'programming' (in a cult/RAMCOA context) to primarily be a kink thing when it was directly taken from cult survivors. i am not really sure how to feel about this. on one hand i think it's ok to be kinky about (and to have transIDs related to) dark topics, but it's also.. weird to see a bunch of posts like "uwu i want a sexy hot transharmful MAP to program me uwu im so abusable"