#acquaintances

Hello, my internet friends.

I am a young artist and I dream of making money from my work and loving what I do..

I don't speak English and I write through a translator. I really like the game school girls, a musical group Msi,I am also a member of such fandoms as:

Ranfren, Hannibal,Adventure Time, My Little Pony, Frenbow, Night in the Woods, Little Nightmares (all 3 parts)

I really want to find friends among foreigners! I'm very embarrassed to write here and I don't understand a lot of things because I don't know English....

My boyfriend and I moved for his residency program almost over 2 years ago. My boyfriend is friends with several of his colleagues, but he has a very close friend with someone who we will call Henry. Henry's wife, who I will call Sarah, seemed polite enough. She's never engaged in anything more than small talk with me, but we've been to each others places, I've given her flowers when she and Henry invited us to their place. I've even invited her and Henry to my bday party, because I genuinely wanted to get to know her more, but they were out of town. I've even dog sat for them. I suppose I'm just setting the scene to explain that I'm not a complete rando to Sarah. Everytime I'd bump into Sarah at various events with mutual friends, she'd always comment on how we need to "hang out." Eventually it started sounding disingenuous to me because she would never actually follow through. She's never asked for my number. Well the last time we bumped into each other, she made that comment again, and I finally just took the initiative, asked for her number, and texted her to plan a hangout. I asked her if she wanted to go hiking and get coffee, but I was down to anything she wanted. She only replied with "I'm free Tuesdays in the evening." It struck me as a little odd. Then I suggested we should get ice cream instead of coffee since most coffee places close after 5pm. She ghosted me after I said that, and hasn't replied in 3 weeks. To mine and bf's knowledge, she's in good health so I did check first before I assumed she ghosted. My boyfriend and Henry are close friends, but honestly, I'm not interested in pursuing a friendship with Sarah at this point. How do I best navigate this when I inevitably have to face her in the future? My bf is suggesting I just ignore what went down and don't acknowledge it. But it feels icky to continue inviting them to our place, or have dinner together, when I've been blown off by her.

Just be polite??? Like consider it a professional interaction and handle accordingly.

That is assuming they care at all in the first place and aren't just fair weather friends which there are plenty of out there IMHO

BTW this isn't a judgemental post just a post to try to convey that I understand something.. This is because I've felt that way myself.. I wish I could do more for my friends and acquaintances than I could sitting thousands of miles away on the internet.. but it's just not feasible..