#acespectips

Hi Anon!

May I interest you in queerplatonic relationships? You can read more about them by searching the term on Google.

And if they're not of your interest that's alright. Platonic relationships are really, and I mean REALLY, common. Since it's the attraction that you have when you're close to someone, but not necessarily romantically or sexually. Say, if you have friends, you experience platonic attraction.

Platonic relationships can be as deep as romantic/sexual ones.

And about the thing of you being ace, well I never identified as ace, I've been a pan since I was 12-13. So you might be ace(-spec), but I'm not you to tell ya about that.

Sure! If 14-year-olds can id as gay, lesbian, bi, pan, etc, then they can also probably determine whether or not they’re ace.

Hi Anon!

Mmm tricky question. But I'd say it isn't. Some aces do that and they're still ace.

It's like "I'll have sex with you, but because I love you and I want to make you feel good", yes? Then it shouldn't be sex. attraction :)

Hi Anon!

It isn't a dumb question, it's actually good to be confused and asks.

Since I don't experience sex repulsion but romance repulsion (sometimes), I'll compare it to that. It might not be the same situations, but it is a way to help you.

See, when I'm watching a movie (or whatever that has a story) and the MC has a love interest in less than 20 minutes, it cause me to sigh, want to stop watching it and throw a whole ass discourse as to why the movie is bad. But why? Because 1) I'm tired of love being used for marketing and as a way to sell more, making the story rely ONLY on that; 2) C'mon nobody falls in love so quickly, and 3) I want to punch the MC, their love interest and the people who made this horrid thing.

And in my normal life, when I see people cuddle and being overly romantic, I wanna tell them to stop, look away, go home and wash my eyes with soap.

Now replace the romance stuff with sex.

... See? It's similar, just different types or repulsion. If you feel all of this you might have sex aversion/repulsion.

Yes, you can experience repulsion only when seeing it irl but not in fiction and viceversa. Or in both too why not.

Hope I helped you :)

Hi Anon ;)

This what you're describing is arousal, it's a normal feeling we get when seeing sexy stuff. You can say that it is comparable to sexual attraction, but not the same. It's alright though, you're as ace as an ace symbol.

Hi Anon!

Sexual attraction is when you wanna do That™ to a person, you are attracted to them physically.

If you don't wanna do stuff with them but think they're beautiful, then it's probably aesthetic attraction.

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This account ( @arospectips ) and @acespectips were started thanks to an idea by @kyanitedragon, who proposed an account where curious or confused aromantics and arospecs ask people who aren’t aromantic (alloromantics, arospecs, alloaces) about romantic attraction (that’s what @arospectips is for), and then an accounts here curious or confused asexuals and acespecs ask people who aren’t asexual (allosexuals, acespecs, alloaros) about sexual attraction (that’s what @acespectips is for).

On both accounts, you’re encouraged to send in asks (anon feature turned on) asking about anything you’re confused about, maybe some tips, maybe you just had no one else you could ask about something so you come to us. Whatever it is, whoever’s behind the account at the time will be more than happy to answer all your questions!

If you don’t want to send in an ask but still have questions, you can skim through the blog to see if someone has answered it yet, or you can use the search feature for the blog and type in key words about what you’ve got questions about, like “romantic attraction” if you want to know how to figure out if you experience it or “quoiromantic” if you’ve been questioning the label but want to know a little more about it.

@acespectips is currently run by two other mods, Mod Slav and Mod Emily, since although I’m the owner of both, I’m asexual, so I can’t really answer asks about sexual attraction. @arospectips (this account) is currently run just by me (Mod Will (she/they)). At the end of the month (December 2020), applications to be a mod close and we’ll get some more people managing these accounts. Depending on how large these accounts get by then will impact how many new mods we’ll accept. If you’re interested in becoming part of either account, just scroll through either of these blogs to find the application form, it shouldn’t be too far down.

Although there are a lot of asexual ask blogs out there run by asexual people and aromantic ask blogs out there run by aromantic people, the purpose of these two blogs are for them to be run by people who actually experience the type of attraction the people looking at the blog don’t so that they can be of more help. Both accounts definitely do have people behind them currently who are arospec or acespec, so although they’re not allosexual or alloromantic, they can still provide different (but still helpful) perspectives on whatever type of attraction their account focuses on.