#ace support

How did you guys figure out you were somewhere in the ace spectrum? (What is the correct terminology here??) It would be nice and so validating to hear different kind of experiences.

I think I might be asexual. It’s taken me a long time to figure this out and I’m not sure about it, I think I’ve sort of tried to deny it for a long long time now. All I know is that the thought of not having to have sex ever again feels more like a relief? I dunno. I’m kind of struggling here. 

I came out as bisexual when I was 13 and then later I’ve labeled myself a lesbian, and while that’s still a work in progress (I think I prefer just being unlabeled right now?), it’s sort of brought me to a place where I have decided to wholeheartedly accept myself and refuse to think I’m broken or some other shit that the society tells us. I have great friends who accept me for me but I’ve never spoken to them about possibly being asexual. It feels so difficult when surrounded with people who are so naturally constantly looking for and thinking about sex. That’s just never been me. And I reckon if I talked to them the response would be somewhere along the classic lines of “you just haven’t found the right person, I felt that way before too but...” “never say never” “are you sure though?” “Hmmm I think sexuality can be fluid and maybe it’ll change...” . That’s what I’m terrified of hearing, at least.

Anyways, if you read this far please respond maybe? Or send me a private message. I could probably use someone to talk to and I would love to make friends? xxx

Have just recently figured there sexuality out

Have identified as ace for years

Are questioning

Enjoy sex

Are neutral about sex

Are sex repulsed

Have had sex

Have never had sex

Masterbate

Don’t masterbate

Are alloromantic

Are aromantic

Are in a relationship

Are single

Are trans/non-binary

Are nerodivergant

Are religious

1) you are amazing and perfect the way you are

2) you don’t need to do anything you don’t want to today (or any other day). You don’t owe anyone something your uncomfortable with.

3) don’t let the pressures of the day get you down.

4) just remember tomorrow is half off chocolate day so hold tight!

The online February 2021 Madison Acespace Support Group meetup will be Saturday, February 20th, 12:30-2:30pm!

The online meeting will occur simultaneously with the chat in the Madison Acespace Discord support group channel for attendees to post comments, questions, resources from the discussion, and more. Join the Discord server through the Wisconsin Aces meetup group: meetup.com/Wisconsin-Aces/