unpopular opinion but I believe celibate people and people who choose not to date should be part of the ace/aro community.
Why is there a need for an ace/aro community at all? Well, it should be to support adults who struggle due to our societyâs demands of being in sexual and romantic relationships. It truly does not matter if someone wants sex/romance, if they choose not to have it then theyâre still going to have problems because of these demands.
Someone who wants to have sex but chooses not to for any reason, including trauma issues or religious practices or mental health reasons or whatever, theyâre still going to have the same issues of âwhat do I tell people who ask me outâ and âhow do I explain this to my friends who ask me about my sex lifeâ and âam I lacking something critical in my life because of thisâ and âshould I be embarrassed about this / am I childish for being like thisâ
These are things ace people and celibate people who arenât ace deal with.
This is why I always say âace/aro people and those who would benefit from ace/aro resources.â Because itâs not just about those who donât have sexual/romantic attraction. Itâs also about the people who struggle with their attraction, people who donât know what their attraction is, and people who donât want to act on their attraction.
Also see my post about how aphobia affects cishets more than LGBT people (and why itâs still important to talk about)