#abuse probably

I shall refer to them as Mr & Ms B

Ms B had asked us to come pull weeds and we told her Friday was open and she said "that'd be fine and dandy!"

We get there around 7:40a and. Just start pulling weeds there's not much, about half an hour in Mr b comes out and I tell him good morning. He responds with "this isn't a come as you will job. I'll call you." And proceeded into a dressing down like he's my dad.

I'm mortified and embarrassed cause I'm me and I don't responsed well to negative inforcement at all. Normally. I'm shifting to incendesent Fury and I just turn to grandma as he's talking and ask her basically why are we here?

Grandma chimes in with "Oh Ms B asked us to come." I look at him and storms inside for 5m comes back out and gives a short and very sour "sorry for the mix up let me pay you."

The thing is we work by the hour, we don't know how much to charge till we're done. So I just quote 1 hr work $26 cause I'm just done with all of this let me just work.

And as I start working again he starts on how he's supporting his son who took on an unpaid internship ("to get his feet wet"), how he got in a car accident and survived (full disclosure here folks he stepped on his gas pedal instead of his break and nearly went through a House. His car has some front bumper damage all cosmetic) and how he has no money and this and that.

Finally head heads inside briefly and then come back out with ms b who just whispers so quietly "I'm so sorry for this. I forgot to tell him"

My body went Arctic cold she looked so small and submissive. it was frightening. The phrase 'property' popped in my head.

My grandma said he acts that way causes he was a judge at some point and he's just "" too set in his ways"" like his wife called later saying she was so embarrassed cause of his actions and apparently he controls ALL of the finances I don't thick she even has a car.

He's controlling and my brain says abuse and everyone keeps just waving it off as 'he's who he is and their married so obviously they love each other'

I shall refer to them as Mr & Ms B

Ms B had asked us to come pull weeds and we told her Friday was open and she said "that'd be fine and dandy!"

We get there around 7:40a and. Just start pulling weeds there's not much, about half an hour in Mr b comes out and I tell him good morning. He responds with "this isn't a come as you will job. I'll call you." And proceeded into a dressing down like he's my dad.

I'm mortified and embarrassed cause I'm me and I don't responsed well to negative inforcement at all. Normally. I'm shifting to incendesent Fury and I just turn to grandma as he's talking and ask her basically why are we here?

Grandma chimes in with "Oh Ms B asked us to come." I look at him and storms inside for 5m comes back out and gives a short and very sour "sorry for the mix up let me pay you."

The thing is we work by the hour, we don't know how much to charge till we're done. So I just quote 1 hr work $26 cause I'm just done with all of this let me just work.

And as I start working again he starts on how he's supporting his son who took on an unpaid internship ("to get his feet wet"), how he got in a car accident and survived (full disclosure here folks he stepped on his gas pedal instead of his break and nearly went through a House. His car has some front bumper damage all cosmetic) and how he has no money and this and that.

Finally head heads inside briefly and then come back out with ms b who just whispers so quietly "I'm so sorry for this. I forgot to tell him"

My body went Arctic cold she looked so small and submissive. it was frightening. The phrase 'property' popped in my head.

My grandma said he acts that way causes he was a judge at some point and he's just "" too set in his ways"" like his wife called later saying she was so embarrassed cause of his actions and apparently he controls ALL of the finances I don't thick she even has a car.

He's controlling and my brain says abuse and everyone keeps just waving it off as 'he's who he is and their married so obviously they love each other'

I shall refer to them as Mr & Ms B

Ms B had asked us to come pull weeds and we told her Friday was open and she said "that'd be fine and dandy!"

We get there around 7:40a and. Just start pulling weeds there's not much, about half an hour in Mr b comes out and I tell him good morning. He responds with "this isn't a come as you will job. I'll call you." And proceeded into a dressing down like he's my dad.

I'm mortified and embarrassed cause I'm me and I don't responsed well to negative inforcement at all. Normally. I'm shifting to incendesent Fury and I just turn to grandma as he's talking and ask her basically why are we here?

Grandma chimes in with "Oh Ms B asked us to come." I look at him and storms inside for 5m comes back out and gives a short and very sour "sorry for the mix up let me pay you."

The thing is we work by the hour, we don't know how much to charge till we're done. So I just quote 1 hr work $26 cause I'm just done with all of this let me just work.

And as I start working again he starts on how he's supporting his son who took on an unpaid internship ("to get his feet wet"), how he got in a car accident and survived (full disclosure here folks he stepped on his gas pedal instead of his break and nearly went through a House. His car has some front bumper damage all cosmetic) and how he has no money and this and that.

Finally head heads inside briefly and then come back out with ms b who just whispers so quietly "I'm so sorry for this. I forgot to tell him"

My body went Arctic cold she looked so small and submissive. it was frightening. The phrase 'property' popped in my head.

My grandma said he acts that way causes he was a judge at some point and he's just "" too set in his ways"" like his wife called later saying she was so embarrassed cause of his actions and apparently he controls ALL of the finances I don't thick she even has a car.

He's controlling and my brain says abuse and everyone keeps just waving it off as 'he's who he is and their married so obviously they love each other'

I shall refer to them as Mr & Ms B

Ms B had asked us to come pull weeds and we told her Friday was open and she said "that'd be fine and dandy!"

We get there around 7:40a and. Just start pulling weeds there's not much, about half an hour in Mr b comes out and I tell him good morning. He responds with "this isn't a come as you will job. I'll call you." And proceeded into a dressing down like he's my dad.

I'm mortified and embarrassed cause I'm me and I don't responsed well to negative inforcement at all. Normally. I'm shifting to incendesent Fury and I just turn to grandma as he's talking and ask her basically why are we here?

Grandma chimes in with "Oh Ms B asked us to come." I look at him and storms inside for 5m comes back out and gives a short and very sour "sorry for the mix up let me pay you."

The thing is we work by the hour, we don't know how much to charge till we're done. So I just quote 1 hr work $26 cause I'm just done with all of this let me just work.

And as I start working again he starts on how he's supporting his son who took on an unpaid internship ("to get his feet wet"), how he got in a car accident and survived (full disclosure here folks he stepped on his gas pedal instead of his break and nearly went through a House. His car has some front bumper damage all cosmetic) and how he has no money and this and that.

Finally head heads inside briefly and then come back out with ms b who just whispers so quietly "I'm so sorry for this. I forgot to tell him"

My body went Arctic cold she looked so small and submissive. it was frightening. The phrase 'property' popped in my head.

My grandma said he acts that way causes he was a judge at some point and he's just "" too set in his ways"" like his wife called later saying she was so embarrassed cause of his actions and apparently he controls ALL of the finances I don't thick she even has a car.

He's controlling and my brain says abuse and everyone keeps just waving it off as 'he's who he is and their married so obviously they love each other'

doing chores is fine, that’s just supposed to happen in a household. I don’t like the implication that she will take away things he needs/likes. Creating an incentive for doing chores is ok but id rather see a positive thing (yo do this thing and ill take you on a trip/buy you a thing/make ur fav food/idk whatever is feasible for budget reasons)

But then, these points:

5 – Be respectful and kind with your words—no back talking, no cussing at me.

6 – Keep good hygiene.

7 – Make eye contact when being spoken to, and be an active listener.

8 – Use proper manners.

like, ok you should probably not cuss at your mother but this comes across as really creepy. You should be able to talk back to your parents without them threatening to take your stuff, like wtf (yes i was raised in a non-abusive household and this is a great great privilege).