#8ofcups

Eight of Cups

Another tarot piece, this one back from May 2019. I was working on another piece at this time but the Eight of Cups suddenly became much more relevant.

Previously I had gone no contact with my father, who did not accept my genderfluid nature and would continually misgender and deadname me. We reconnected late 2018 for his father's funeral, where I deadnamed myself and accepted she/her pronouns because I "didn't want to cause a fuss." I didn't want to "detract" from my grandfather's death, and wanted to be there for my father, who was a son mourning his own father. He wept in my arms and I was overcome by how much I wanted a relationship with him again.

Fast forward to only a couple months later, in which he would disappoint me yet again. I had given my father chance upon chance, far too many, and he disappointed me at every turn. The Eight of Cups, about letting go of disappointment, suddenly became more than prevalent as I went no contact with him again, and have remained so till this day.

Sunday, April 9, 2023 Good Morning! Today’s card is about Boundaries, Personal Growth and Change Tarot of the Day: Eight of Cups

You may find, or have recently found, that you have been investing energy and emotion into someone or something that is not what you originally thought. This is the moment when you are free to make a choice to change direction, to stop over-giving to something that does not work for you; even when that decision is difficult or painful.

This Eight signals a time of introspection and personal development; a change in your lifestyle, a broadening of your experience, or a resetting of boundaries. It asks that you look at your focus, your relationships, your job, etc., acknowledge what isn't working for you, and then commit to redirecting your efforts to what you really want, for your highest good.

💚In work, Eight speaks to being in a stable job that is no longer appropriate for you. Whether you are feeling bored, unfulfilled, or under-appreciated, the time is right to make a plan. Do not let the stability keep you in a job that makes you feel this way. You deserve and can have more; start looking.

💙 If you have been considering ending your long term relationship, Eight shows that you need to consider all aspects and decide. If you see that the time is right, then commit and end it; there is never going to be a "good time" to tell your partner sad news. If it can be repaired, be strong, have the hard conversation. The sooner you do it, the sooner things will improve. 💙If you have been looking for a relationship, consider using this time to review what you truly want. Strengthen your boundaries, and be sure that you are looking for the ‘right’ person. Resist any urges to use a new relationship to end an old one.  

Thursday, April 21, 2022 Good Morning! Today’s card is about Boundaries, Personal Growth and Change Tarot of the Day: Eight of Cups

You may find, or have recently found, that you have been investing energy and emotion into someone or something that is not what you originally thought. This is the moment when you are free to make a choice to change direction, to stop over-giving to something that does not work for you; even when that decision is difficult or painful.

This Eight signals a time of introspection and personal development; a change in your lifestyle, a broadening of your experience, or a resetting of boundaries. It asks that you look at your focus, your relationships, your job, etc., acknowledge what isn't working for you, and then commit to redirecting your efforts to what you really want, for your highest good.

💚In work, Eight speaks to being in a stable job that is no longer appropriate for you. Whether you are feeling bored, unfulfilled, or under-appreciated, the time is right to make a plan. Do not let the stability keep you in a job that makes you feel this way. You deserve and can have more; start looking.

💙 If you have been considering ending your long term relationship, Eight shows that you need to consider all aspects and decide. If you see that the time is right, then commit and end it; there is never going to be a "good time" to tell your partner sad news. If it can be repaired, be strong, have the hard conversation. The sooner you do it, the sooner things will improve. 💙If you have been looking for a relationship, consider using this time to review what you truly want. Strengthen your boundaries, and be sure that you are looking for the ‘right’ person. Resist any urges to use a new relationship to end an old one.  

Saturday, August 7, 2021 Good Morning! Today’s card is about Boundaries, Personal Growth and Change Tarot of the Day: Eight of Cups

You may find, or have recently found, that you have been investing energy and emotion into someone or something that is not what you originally thought. This is the moment when you are free to make a choice to change direction, to stop over-giving to something that does not work for you; even when that decision is difficult or painful.

This Eight signals a time of introspection and personal development; a change in your lifestyle, a broadening of your experience, or a resetting of boundaries. It asks that you look at your focus, your relationships, your job, etc., acknowledge what isn't working for you, and then commit to redirecting your efforts to what you really want, for your highest good.

💚In work, Eight speaks to being in a stable job that is no longer appropriate for you. Whether you are feeling bored, unfulfilled, or under-appreciated, the time is right to make a plan. Do not let the stability keep you in a job that makes you feel this way. You deserve and can have more; start looking.

💙 If you have been considering ending your long term relationship, Eight shows that you need to consider all aspects and decide. If you see that the time is right, then commit and end it; there is never going to be a "good time" to tell your partner sad news. If it can be repaired, be strong, have the hard conversation. The sooner you do it, the sooner things will improve. 💙If you have been looking for a relationship, consider using this time to review what you truly want. Strengthen your boundaries, and be sure that you are looking for the ‘right’ person. Resist any urges to use a new relationship to end an old one.  

Life as a tween is complicated, messy, and sometimes terrifying — but also full of small victories.

PRE-READING THOUGHTS

I’m expecting honesty, humour, and that sharp awareness of how unfair life can feel when you’re twelve. Hoping for a story about faith, friendship, family, and figuring out where you belong.

POST-READING

As I thought…

Mariam’s voice is authentic, observant, and quietly hilarious. The challenges of navigating a new school, family expectations, and personal faith are handled with warmth and nuance. The book doesn’t shy away from the tough parts of life, but it’s full of supportive adults, friendships, and moments of joy.

It surprised me by…

The depth of empathy woven throughout. Mariam’s struggles with identity and belonging resonate far beyond her age, and the story subtly celebrates interfaith understanding without being preachy. It’s tender, clever, and deeply human.

MUSIC PAIRING

🎵 Featured Song: “Put Your Records On” — Corinne Bailey Rae (light, hopeful, authentic)

🎶 Vibe Album: Annie Lennox – Medusa (soft, reflective, emotive)

🎧 Artist Recommendation: Norah Jones

VIBE CHECK

🎨 Colour Palette: Soft blue, warm beige, gentle greens

🎧 Soundtrack: Whispered classroom chatter, pages turning, soft laughter

🍁 Season: Winter, with small lights in the dark — hope amidst challenge

😶‍🌫️ Mood: Honest, contemplative, tenderly resilient

🌿 Scent: Warm bread, paper, faint incense

TAROT PULL — 8 of Cups (Unfolding Path Tarot)

The 8 of Cups depicts a solitary figure walking away from a lopsided stack of cups, back turned to the viewer, stepping toward the unknown. It embodies Mariam’s journey: leaving behind comfort and certainty to navigate new spaces, balancing faith and friendships, and embracing personal growth. The card speaks to quiet courage, resilience, and the tender steps of self-discovery that define her story.

FOR FANS OF…

📚 Judy Blume classics