#4xd

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Trowa stands outside the door when Dorothy visits.

Quatre insists she’s not dangerous. That, in fact, she’s quite a nice asset to have around—someone with priceless connections and guts of gundanium. He speaks as the businessman that he has become, but Trowa was never interested in taking part in that world. He feels as the boyfriend that he is, and since he’s the one who has to see the scar on Quatre’s abdomen every night, he thinks he’s in his right to complain.

“Trowa,” Quatre calls him, “would you like to join us for tea?”

Quatre: Yes but do you stab?

Dorothy:

Lemony Shenanigans - Quatre and Dorothy by @alphaikaros​

Dorothy Catalonia/Quatre Raberba Winner, Smut, Missionary Position

It's finally here! 2nd part of my submission for Lemony Shenanigan's Lemony event! This time, it's my 2nd favorite Gundam Wing OTP - 4xD! I just love how they contrast each other's personalities.

I know some fans sees Dorothy as a lady that always has the top spot. But I'd like to play with fire, and picture Quatre as the one in the lead... I had a hard time deciding on how to display their "connection"... In the anime, they barely got screen time together other than the final episodes... that's sad.

Lavender Menace by @a-special-unicorn Chapter 5: personal increduality

Catherine Bloom/original Female Character, Dorothy Catalonia/Original Female Character(s), Catherine Bloom/Original Male Character, Dorothy Catalonia/Original Male Character, Dorothy Catalonia/Abdul Kurama, Catherine Bloom/Abdul Kurama, Catherine Bloom/Quatre Raberba Winner/Dorothy Catalonia, Catherine Bloom/Dorothy Catalonia, Dorothy Catalonia, Catherine Bloom, Original Female Character(s), Trowa Barton, Relena Peacecraft, Original Male Character(s), Abdul Kurama, Quatre Raberba Winner, Alternate Universe, Alternate Universe - Sex Club, Alternate Universe - College/University, Casual Sex, Computers, Computer Programming, I went to an Engineering School, Open Relationships, safe sex, Voyeurism, everyone comes, Stripping, Pole Dancing, I have no idea what I'm doing, Someone with an interesting sex life correct me, Threesome - F/F/M, Spanking, Femdom, Bad Sex, intimidated penis, Nobody comes, pretty sure I'm trowa in this fic, dorothy is a switch, because it amuses me

Hey Anon,

I’m sorry your family isn’t supportive of you trying to seek help. The stigma surrounding mental illness oftentimes causes us to suffer in silence because people are misinformed about what mental illness is and how we can’t really make it go away.

There are many ways how you can start the conversation so I’ll be giving you a lot of ideas and feel free to stick to the ones you like best or think are doable. You don’t have to talk to the entire family at the same time, you can talk to them separately or only with who you feel most comfortable with.

- Talking to them while they’re driving: This sounds like a stupid tip but is one of the most useful things my therapist suggested. Studies show that children have some of the most honest and meaningful conversations with their parents when they’re in the passenger seat/ backseat of the car and their parents are driving. In this way they won’t be able to stare at you because they’re driving  and you don’t have to stare at them either, which can make it easier.

- Practice what you’re going to say: In front of a mirror, record yourself, while you’re taking a shower. Rehearsing saying something out loud makes us more confident and in control for when we have to say it in front of a person. You can also think about the possible reactions your family may have and prepare yourself for them.

-Visualize: Cliche but it helps. Imagine yourself having the interaction with your family. Imagine yourself saying what you want to say confidently and everything turning out well. Think about any hurdles you may encounter and visualize yourself dealing with them.

- Have some resources ready: This is really helpful because resources can do some of the talking for you and can fill up any awkward/uncomfortable moments. Kati Morton has some excellent videos explaining certain mental health problems for parents and our helpful resources page is also worth a look. You could also print out some leaflets or fact sheets. 

- Writing them a letter: If you don’t feel like you can express yourself fully out loud, write them a letter. A lot of people, including myself, feel more comfortable expressing themselves in writing and that’s perfectly okay. It doesn’t have to be dramatic or super emotional, it’s just writing out what you want to say and giving it to them to read.

- Ask someone to help: The first thing that comes to mind with this tip is to ask your GP. They can not only guide you to the appropriate mental health resources but also explain what mental illness is to your family. When an authority figure says something parents are more likely to believe it. Other people who could help are teachers, school counselors, a pastor or religious figure within your community. 

- Tell them what they need to know: It’s difficult to share everything at one go and apart from draining us can leave our family overwhelmed and at loss for what to do. Especially if you think the interaction will be uncomfortable, tell them only what they need to know and what you need for them.Tell them what you’re feeling, why it’s bothering you and why you think therapy would be useful. If they ask questions and prompt you, sharing as much as you feel comfortable with at that instant is perfectly acceptable. 

Hope this helps, Anon. Take care!