#06302020

06.30.2020

Well, this is a bit of a tricky one considering that in my situation there are two guys going on the date together so in a facetious way, yes the guy should pay because only a guy could pay.

But my theory is this: If I am asked out by someone on a date, then I would think they would pay for the date, especially if it’s the first one. After that we can spilt or take turns or come to some agreement. If I ask someone out, I anticipate paying for the entirety of the date, especially if it's the first date. I find combativeness towards this to be very unattractive, because 1) I like to do nice things for people. It’s how I was raised and for me, 2) it's a way of showing love and respect. Just let me do it.

With that being said, my personal policy makes me think I’m kind-of old fashioned. And maybe I am a little in the way I think about dating and money and how it all comes together.

I know that in a relationship I am somewhat of a traditionalist, I am definitely a monogamist and I am not afraid of commitment. These things are becoming extremely rare in heterosexual relationships and even more rare in homosexual ones. However, if I was in a serious-committed relationship and it was to the point where we were living together and paying bills together and all the other things that go along with that, I don’t know how I would feel about combining all of our financial resources into a joint banking account.

I feel what money I make should be mine, especially if I make more than my partner but I’d be willing to share that excess with them if they needed assistance. As long as we split expenses 50/50 and can meet the needed obligations in life between us then your excess money should be in each person's own custody. I wouldn’t be opposed to opening a joint savings account or something so we could both fund it towards our future, with the agreement that if our relationship ended we would each receive the money back we put into it, less any withdraws or joint decisions we made together to spend money.

With this new normal, I must keep my focus only to You Jesus.

PUTANGINA NAKAKAGALIT! ANONG UTAK BA MERON TO??!!