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again it all comes off as seeking cookies from trans women and seeking to feel righteous

and like, absolutely, address misogyny and transmisogyny and trends thereof.  talk about how dfab non-binary folks often have a lot more in common with trans men than with dmab non-binary folks or trans women, in terms of privilege and perhaps of experience.  but can you please remember to disclaim, that this is not always the case, that there are in fact dfab non-binary folks who in no way id as men but who are absolutely not women and to ignore them is intensely cissexist and binarist (cough julia serano. cough) and just because YOU a non-binary dfab person experience male privilege it doesn't mean categorically we all do?

i mean quite honestly i'm just tired of the jostling for "most oppressed" within trans circles and the way it seems to constantly return to "dfab non-binary people face nothing special compared to trans men, certainly not compared to trans women" which. does not feel productive, to me. can we even say what dfab non-binary folks face? can you as one person represent the whole? have sufficient studies been done that you can back up your claims? are analogies of all your friends sufficient? do we really think we already know the """average""" experience, and that it doesn't need to be separated out from that of trans men? what about the nb folks who are constantly out? who are battling to be correctly gendered by their employers? who refuse to use a men's or women's restroom, be it on principle or due to dysphoria or other reasons?