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dick grayson in every episode — lex luthor

Useful advice for people in their early 20’s for instance and useful advice for people who are...older than that, can be quite different.

The one main thing I wish I’d known at 20 is: chances are your first relationship isn’t going to be a life long relationship, and the advice Dear Abbey gives to married couples (see a counselor, relationships take work, talk it out) is not advice for you, a young person who’s 2 months in to her first relationship ever. Advice for you is: you look for reasons to leave, or to see this as “for now while it’s still fun” only, not reasons to stay.

You expect to have a few relationships that had some good aspects but weren’t long haul relationships. You’re learning what you can expect in a relationship and what’s normal and what you like and don’t like. It’s good to spend some time figuring that out. Learning. It’s good to not commit to spending your life with the first person who ever expressed interest in you.

People romanticize high school sweethearts and so on. That’s bullshit. I mean, sometimes it works, you shouldn’t end a functional relationship just because of some abstract idea that dating experience with different people is good. But: if your life course involves dating many different people and having several short lived relationships before settling into a LTR, that’s good. That teaches you so much about yourself and about relationships in general.