Reminder that plurality has two criteria:
1) The experience of being more than one
The point is self-determination, that you have the authority and agency to recognize and claim your subjective truth. Possibly the only way to do plurality wrong is attempting to override another in their own process.
It makes sense that very different experiences register as threats. It makes sense to be angry, frightened, disgusted. Those emotions carry valuable messages that should be read and honored. Critical thinking is still good and right, and can be applied to current contexts and past events.
If you find you cannot be safe in plural spaces without attacking a threat or hiding yourself to be accepted, it’s okay to leave.
If you prefer a smaller umbrella to make your place, it’s okay to find or make one.
If you need to step back to decide what would work best for you, it’s okay to take some time and distance to think.
You have choices. Discourse should never take that away. Don’t be the one to try.