Singing And Studying

Living the soft life doesn’t have to come with a trust fund.

You can still live beautifully, slowly, and intentionally — even without a car, fancy memberships, or weekend getaways. The truth is, “that girl” energy isn’t about what you have — it’s about how you carry yourself, what you do with your time, and how you nurture your mind and body.

Here are hobbies for the girls who want to level up their lives quietly — from right where they are.

▪ Reading free eBooks or library books I'm obsessed with my Kindle books lately, so explore literature, feminine classics, or self-growth reads.

▪ Learning etiquette & posture via YouTube Posture tutorials, table manners, walking gracefully — it’s free charm school.

▪ Studying languages Learn small French, Italian, or Japanese for that elegant-girl aura; YouTube make it easy. I detest Duolingo however.

▪ Learning finance or investing basics This is a big thing I have been into lately. Understanding money is the most underrated soft-skill. Start with free beginner YouTube channels.

▪ Learning to write or blog Learn to express yourself, share your story, or build your digital diary (you never know where it’ll lead).

▪ Practicing skincare and bodycare routines Consistency makes luxury out of simplicity. Focus on habits, not products.

▪ Doing your own nails or minimal at-home facials Self-care as a ritual, not a chore.

▪ Creating “home spa” moments Get those candles out, have music playing, soothing face masks, warm water!

▪ Practicing slow mornings & romanticizing your day Make your tea like it’s a ritual, journal like it’s therapy, dress like it’s self-respect, because it is.

▪ Walking and exploring your local area Take your earbuds and your thoughts for a walk; it’s grounding and free. I've been doing this during my lunch breaks.

▪ Cooking or baking with cheap ingredients It's always so good to have 2–3 “signature dishes” that make you feel capable and put-together.

▪ Practicing stretching Gentle movement, soft music, no gym required.

▪ Meditation and breathwork Reset your energy; it’s free luxury for your mind.

overall: this is some of her best work. definitely not taking reputation's #1 as my favorite album, but it's def fighting for the #2 spot from midnights. this album has some of her best vocals, max and shellback really brought it out and their production is unmatched. lot's of versatility that's been missing for a while. so many catchy melodies that'll stick around for many many months to come.

not sure why people don't like this album when this is literally the pop album people have been asking for. this is also her fully embracing the fact that she's taylor fucking swift and she really doesn't gaf anymore and i love. top 4 as of right now: cancelled!, opalite, actually romantic, the fate of ophelia.

the fate of ophelia: love love love the references to ophelia and it being used as a metaphor/comparison for her current life/love with travis. i love when she uses shakespeare as inspo for her music. the post chorus is beyond catchy. the production on this song is absoulte perfection, max and shellback really bring out her best vocally and her best overall vibe. pledge allegiance to your hands, your team, your vibe (oh HELLLL yes.) one of her best opening songs to date.

elizabeth taylor: production. WOW. the lyrics are so beautiful and the beat drop was phenomenal. "be my NY when hollywood hates me, you're only as hot as your last hit baby." scratches that part in my brain soooo well and the meaning behind that is tooooooo good.

opalite: omfg this is a career highlight. the production is soooo so so good. this makes me want to sit on a beach in italy with my man and just sing and dance and be in love. it's def an infectious pop melody and the lyrics are so travis. it's so beautiful. the slight shade in this made me giggle...like yeah girl. yeah. her vocals are so freaking good. i missed this lively feeling in her music so much.

father figure: this is so father of her. so like dark and mysterious, corporate ceo energy. and yeah, get bruchetta and 🛴's asses girl. the little interpolation of the GM song is toooo good. love it.

eldest daughter: "when I said I don't believe in marriage, that was a lie." << lavender haze found dead in a ditch. this is so sad and relatable even though i'm not the eldest daughter. love the slow vibes and the guitar matches this song perfectly.

ruin the friendship: was not expecting that twist :( this feels connected to forever winter and it breaks my heart. but the beginning of the song feels so nostalgic and adorable. very original taylor energy. also very taylor like of her to write a song about an unexplored love that passed away in the midst of healing from her situationship and settling down with the love of her life 😭

actually romantic: this is my song, no questions asked. drag her ass taylor. it's been a long time coming. and ugh the concept of someone having one sided beef with you but you're just here like idgaf it's so romantic how you're so obsessed with me, it makes me feel so loved because you put in so much effort into hating me. perfect.

wi$h li$t: this is so romantic and i'm obsessed with how the wish list part sounds. a great insight into how she actually feels, like yeah leave me alone i just want kids with my hot future husband and a basketball hoop in the driveway. she's just a girl your honor. i also like how it kind of explains the struggles of fame and how you really just want to be normal sometimes and the "yacht life" isn't as appealing as it sounds. so so cute.

wood: taycomedian. i like how it started off as talking about superstitions and went to...other things. idk why this one is so disliked, like it's so fun 😭 also i love the production on this one, so different for her and sounds like a jackson 5 song. the vibes here are so good, and it is track 9 sooo ;) the new heights name drop caught me off guard LMAO

CANCELLED!: this is my favorite song on the album, and we all know why. MAJOR reputation energy. the production is SO fucking good, this is peak max/shellback/taylor. this is the sound i have been missing. the whispering in this song is so sultry and almost like she's mocking them. im so obsessed. im hearing some IDSB in the third verse production. this is an album standout.

"tiny violin to a knife fight?" >>> "i brought a knife to a gun fight."

honey: this is so adorable. the concept of a word people used in negative connotation towards you having a different meaning because of your lover is so 🥲 this is simple, sweet, so in love taylor energy, and one of my favorites. this feels very gorgeous/KOMH adjacent in terms of energy.

READ: On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And considering that 2025 is precisely these many days away, why not start with our glow up plan already?

Physical Glow Up-

BODY

— 5-10K steps a day.

— 7-8 hours of sleep.

— workout everyday for 1 hr atleast- yoga/stretching/pilates/cardio. a workout may take one hour, but your mood will be boosted for the next 12 hours.

— posture training.

— sunlight exposure after waking up for at least 10 minutes.

NUTRITION

— 2-3 liters of water every day.

— limit your caffeine intake.

— avoid sugars as much as you can.

— high protein diet, pre and probiotics.

— more fruits and veggies (+ green smoothies if you like).

— no junk/processed food/trans fat.

— no eating after 8 pm.

SKINCARE

— be clear on your skin type (oily, dry, combination, sensitive).

— once you're clear, use these accordingly- cleanser, toner, targeted serum, eye cream, moisturizer, sunscreen (≥50 spf).

— keep your bedding clean as well.

— no picking of skin on your lips, cuticle etc.

— gua sha to help improve blood circulation and lessen toxins.

— cold therapy may take three to five minutes of being uncomfortable, but your energy levels will be boosted for the rest of the day.

— remove makeup before you go to bed.

BODY CARE

— shower every day.

— exfoliate 2x a week.

— use body lotion (shea butter/aloe vera gel/coconut oil).

HAIR CARE

— wash hair 2-3x a week

— oil your scalp 2x a week, at least 3 hours before shampoo.

— hair mask 1x per week.

— never brush wet hair.

— use silk pillow case.

HYGIENE

— brush your teeth 2x a day, clean tongue and the roof of the mouth daily.

— floss daily.

— cut your nails 1x a week, never remove the cuticles.

— glycolic acid under arm for odor and discoloration.

— never use soap on your coochie.

Mental Glow Up-

MINDSET

— set clear goals- define and breakdown your aspirations.

— start your mornings with positive affirmations.

— surround yourself with uplifting content and people.

— be shamelessly selfish to your career and mental health, remove anyone or anything that doesn't align with your priorities and wellbeing.

— boost your brain health by these 4 neuroscience tools:

difficult first: start your day with the most difficult task (cortisol and dopamine are high in the body meaning that your body/mind is primed to work).

rest your eyes: introduce a micro-pause after learning by resting/closing your eyes - will help retain information better.

tomorrow's worries: write tomorrow's to-do list before bed as it is proven to be effective in helping you fall asleep.

find time to play: engage in low-stake play. can be anything you find fun but where the outcome doesn't matter (induces neuroplasticity + reduces stress).

MIND

— meditation might take as low as ten minutes, but your focus will be improved for the rest of the day.

— no social media after waking up and at least an hour before bed.

— keep aside 1 hr of time to read daily! reading a new book may take five hours, but you will keep the knowledge forever.

— journaling, gratitude.

— digital detox once a week or for 12 hours.

— limit unnecessary screentime, unfollow or cut off people you don't want to see.

JOURNALING

— choose a regular time each day to journal, making it a part of your routine.

— find a quiet, comfortable place free from distractions. light a candle if you want.

— allow your thoughts to flow without censoring or editing.

— write about your feelings and emotions to understand them better. write about things you are thankful for to boost your mood. write about your short-term and long-term goals. identify what triggers certain emotions or reactions

— set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write continuously during that time.

— reflect on both positive experiences and challenges.

— make lists, journal your thoughts on these questions.

— journal at night to clear your mind before bedtime, because emotions and thoughts lose their power once we acknowledge them.

— a gratitude practice may take five minutes, but your mindset will be shifted for the rest of the day.

AFFIRMATIONS

— customise affirmations to your needs.

Personal Life-

WEEKLY TASKS

— initiate small changes: begin with small, manageable tasks such as making your bed or cleaning your room every sunday.

— celebrate your success: reward yourself when you achieve your goals or have a consistently productive week. consider treats like buying flowers for yourself or watching your favorite show.

DAILY WORK

— set achievable goals: establish realistic goals for the day, week, or month ahead.

— track your progress.

— organise your work space, declutter your shelves etc.

— embrace the power of lists: keep a list of tasks to be done and their deadlines. this way, you start each day with a clear plan. to make it visually appealing and motivating, consider using productivity apps like evernote, habit tracker, or notion.

PRODUCTIVITY TIPS

— wake up early.

— plan ahead everything, do scheduling. you can use:

google calendar / notion / tasks .

— if the task takes less than 2 minutes to finish, do it immediately.

— countdown rule, if you are procrastinating, count 1-2-3-4-5 and jump.

— start slow, don't rush and try to do everything at one time.

— follow a proper routine, use app locks based on screentime.

— pomodoro technique, 25 min work, and 5 min break.

— schedule longer break times as well e.g 30 min nap.

disney meme (favourite couple 1/2):

You bleed too much darling, gather up your flesh, drape it around your abysmal void. Nothing is seldom worthy to be mourned over till it turns you into a shrine of ghosts gulping tears of every mortal. Love yourself enough till you carry yourself to the grave, my love!

The Secret History by Donna Tartt

Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

The Picture Of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

And Then There Were None by Agatha Christie

Circe by Madeline Miller

To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

Recitatif by Toni Morrison

The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath

Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman

The Book Thief by Markus Zusak

The Lord Of The Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien

Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë

Wicked x Frozen: Crossover

A list of actresses that have performed a leading role in both ‘Wicked’ and ‘Frozen’:

Caissie Levy: Elphaba in Wicked (Los Angeles) and Elsa in Frozen (Broadway)

Patti Murin: Glinda in Wicked (US Tour) and Anna in Frozen (Broadway)

Alyssa Fox: Elphaba in Wicked (US Tour, Broadway) and Elsa in Frozen (Broadway)

McKenzie Kurtz: Glinda in Wicked (Broadway) and Anna in Frozen (Broadway, US Tour)

Caroline Bowman: Elphaba in Wicked (Broadway) and Elsa in Frozen (US Tour)

Courtney Monsma: Glinda in Wicked (Australia) and Anna in Frozen (Australia)

Jemma Rix: Elphaba in Wicked (Australia) and Elsa in Frozen (Australia)

Sarah O’Connor: Glinda in Wicked (UK Tour) and Anna in Frozen (Singapore)

Willemijn Verkaik: Elphaba in Wicked (Germany, Holland, Broadway, West End) and Elsa in Frozen (Germany)

Honorable mentions:

Sabrina Weckerlin: s/b Elphaba in Wicked (Germany) and Elsa in Frozen (Germany)

1. Social Media Detox

- Cut off toxic people

- Unfollow people who don't add any value to your life.

2. Prioritize Your Health

-Eat clean

- Get in shape

- Develop good habits

- Fix your sleep schedule

- No partying/drinking

3. Expand Your Knowledge

- Watch Informational YT videos

- Read Books

- Take notes

4. Take Action

- Start some side hustle

- Start an online business

- Take you social medias seriously

- Track your progess

the first step, be clear about what your best version would look like. questions to ask yourself.

what would my best version look like?

what habits would i have?

what would my life be like?

what would be my morning and evening routine?

what thoughts would i have?

what would i focus on?

what thoughts and habits should i leave behind?

how would i like to feel?

and lastly…

what can i start doing to connect with this version of me?

you can also add your own questions if they resonate with you, the important thing about this exercise is that you connect a little bit more with that better version of yourself.

from my experience, it is important to focus and work on these three areas of our life at the same time so that none of these areas are out of balance and we can flow to that version more easily.

it is important because i have realized from my own experience and from other people who send me questions that they only focus on one area, in most cases, the habits, and forget others, then when something happens or we go through a bad moment we feel lost and it seems that everything is "wrong" but if we work on these areas at the same time and we nurture them day by day we will have more control of our emotions and thoughts, then we will not stagnate in "bad times". remember, we can always go through bad times but these always bring us a learning experience.

✨ physical

daily movement, create an exercise routine

eating healthy food, for the sake and perfect functioning of our body.

create a daily routine that will help us reach our goals.

healthy habits

hobbies that help us connect with our best self.

focus on the well-being of our body

✨ mental and emotional

read about personal growth, psychology, and topics that will help us to improve our personal best.

journaling

keep a daily record of our emotions, as well as our habits.

focus on what we do want rather than what we don't want

detect what our negative thought patterns are and change them for - more positive ones according to how we want to think and feel from now on.

affirm positively

work on those areas of our life that we need to improve or are damaged

✨ spiritual

healing and balancing both your feminine and masculine energies

develop your intuition

have faith in yourself and in the process of creation (god, universe, energy…)

read about spirituality

meditate day and night

doing energetic cleansing

connect with your spiritual side

love yourself for who you are now

forgive the people who hurt us and forget the past

practice gratitude

practice compassion and tolerance towards yourself and others

connect with nature

this is what i believe brings us closer to becoming our best version, as i am always learning new things about the subject and evolving both personally and spiritually so i will continue to share this in future posts.

as always all questions related to the topic are welcome and if you have any doubts you can also ask.

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stay off of your phone for about 1-2hrs when you first wake up - to start the day peacefully, have some you time and allow yourself to think and have a clear mind

brush teeth | mouthwash | cleanse face

take medication (if you take any)

freshen up | shower or take a peaceful bath using relaxing bath oils or bath bombs, candles, rose petals, surrounding the tub with crystals (optional)

skin routine

get dolled up .. hair and makeup (optional)

put on clothes that make you feel pretty and comfortable

open windows for fresh air or go outside for a while to get some fresh air

romanticize your day by having the cutest breakfast. makes yourself something delicious, set the table with fresh flowers, eat from your favorite plates and drink from your favorite mug, have soft music playing in the background. eating outside or by a window is also a great way to romanticize your breakfast

make your bed | tidy up

journal | write in your diary | plan out your day

meditate ( about 10-15mins )

start your day with positive energy and good vibes