a sad 15 year old Lesbian

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honestly i find it mind-blowing that some people really think it’s not a big deal that 10 years ago a gender-nonconforming little boy playing with barbies or something was considered definitely gay and now he’d be considered definitely in need of psychiatric and medical intervention but like in a progressive way. 

Ditto for young girls who want to keep their hair short and who don’t show a large enough interest in the feminine uniform and beauty rituals meant to prepare them for and usher them toward a life of heterosexuality. 

op is a terf this is literally a terf post

This was a tag in a reblog of one of my posts.

It hurt me a lot and it’s hurt PLENTY of other SGA people.

y'all stomped in here and tried to split apart words and terms you have no understanding of

no one wants your word soup sexuality moon sign myerbriggs get-out-of-privilege free shit

Gisella Perl was forced to work as a doctor in Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust.

She was ordered to report ever pregnant women do the physician Dr. Josef Mengele, who would then use the women for cruel experiments (e.g. vivisections) before killing them.

She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz”.

wow “feminism ruins everything”. Says a lot.

pregnancy is not inherently female. when we are raped and forced to bear children and have our wombs be what they use to chain us, then pregnancy is female. You will never be pregnant

Biology? Pppffff social construct

I found this nice link that explains in depth about how to treat someone in a cult. Most of this information may not be necessary for casual arguments on the internet, but may be helpful for anyone dealing with this with a friend or family member.

https://www.culteducation.com/coping.html

It includes links to books for further reading if that’s what you want. I also encourage everyone to peruse Google for more information.

But in the end, when confronting people spouting out blatant lies and acting belligerent towards us, the BEST way to get to them is through empathy, compassion and calmness. I think this works better with females especially. And of course, you’re not obligated to use this with males as we’re not here to coddle them.

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In 1989, after two years working on the streets, Valisce visited the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective (NZPC) in Christchurch.

“I was looking for some support, perhaps to exit prostitution, but all I was offered was condoms,” she says.

She was also invited to the collective’s regular wine and cheese social on Friday nights.

“They started talking about how stigma against ‘sex workers’ was the worst thing about it, and that prostitution is just a job like any other,” Valisce remembers.

It somehow made what she was doing seem more palatable.

She became the collective’s massage parlour co-ordinator and an enthusiastic supporter of its campaign for the full decriminalisation of all aspects of the sex trade, including pimps.

“It felt like there was a revolution coming. I was so excited about how decriminalisation would make things better for the women,” she says.

Decriminalisation arrived in 2003, and Valisce attended the celebration party held by the prostitutes’ collective.

But she soon became disillusioned.

The Prostitution Reform Act allowed brothels to operate as legitimate businesses, a model often hailed as the safest option for women in the sex trade.

In the UK, the Home Affairs Select Committee has been considering a number of different approaches towards the sex trade, including full decriminalisation. But Valisce says that in New Zealand it was a disaster, and only benefited the pimps and punters.

The receptionist was yelling at her, telling her to get back to work - I grabbed my belongings and left

“I thought it would give more power and rights to the women,” she says. “But I soon realised the opposite was true.”

One problem was that it allowed brothel owners to offer punters an “all-inclusive” deal, whereby they would pay a set amount to do anything they wanted with a woman.

“One thing we were promised would not happen was the ‘all-inclusive’,” says Valisce. “Because that would mean the women wouldn’t be able to set the price or determine which sexual services they offered or refused - which was the mainstay of decriminalisation and its supposed benefits.”

Aged 40, Valisce approached a brothel in Wellington for a job, and was shocked by what she saw.

“During my first shift, I saw a girl come back from an escort job who was having a panic attack, shaking and crying, and unable to speak. The receptionist was yelling at her, telling her to get back to work. I grabbed my belongings and left,” she says.

Shortly afterwards, she told the prostitutes’ collective in Wellington what she had witnessed. “What are we doing about this?” she asked. “Are we working on any services to help get out?”

She was “absolutely ignored”, she says, and finally left the prostitutes’ collective.

That’s how she looked

I have PCOS, so this is normal, but I’ve seldom had bad mornings like this.

I can tell you that at that moment, I didn’t love my body. Crying in the shower as I rinsed blood off my legs and letting the hot water hit me to make the pain go away, it isn’t fun. Now I’m in fresh clothes, I have a warm cup of tea in hand and the painkillers are starting to work, my brain is still a little foggy, but I feel mostly like myself. I happened to remember through all of this that post by @rosedave wherein he admonished us so-called “terfs” for our period blood-guzzling ways. In that moment, crying in the shower, I might have been that “normal person who menstruates” who, in rosedave’s mind, deals with their period the correct way, with detachment and disgust at their body. 

What I think the biggest issue with that post is that it doesn’t realize how the mindset of period as this evil, monstrous thing has been used against women. My privileged self, sitting in 2017 with my husband who didn’t balk at cleaning blood out of my underwear, also has a hard time envisioning it, although a little less so than men who will never experience a period.

Because here’s the thing: for thousands of years, this bleeding has been used against women. Women were told by the men in their lives, men who would have claimed to love them, that this thing their body does, the reason they can promulgate the human race, is what makes them inferior, what justifies their subjection, what makes them less in the eyes of their god than men. And these women had no choice but to believe these lies. 

In some places in the world, this still happens. Young girls and women are barred from school, and sent to period huts because they are seen as impure. Even in the west, echoes of this inheritance persist. You can see this when advertisements for period pads will use a blue liquid instead of actual blood to demonstrate a point about absorbency. These ads with highlight discretion rather than comfort and practicality.

This is why radical feminists try so hard to love our bodies and our periods, even when it is difficult. The entire world is telling us we mustn’t, even progressive liberals who claim to be women themselves. We have to remove the shame and stigma around our bodies ourselves, because not even our supposed allies will help us in this task. It’s not out of (what you think, rosedave) our supposed hatred toward transwomen, but because our bodies, our selves, are made to be a source of shame. We need to reclaim our periods so we can stop being made to feel ashamed of them. So we continue the work started by women in past who risked everything that we might be able to open declare our love for our bodies and our periods.