The best piece of advice I ever got was not meant as advice, but as an edict. If I was going to threaten people as a joke, it had to be so far out of proportion with what happened that it would be obvious I was joking. This changed how I expressed frustration with others. It then changed how I expressed frustration with myself.
Not โIโm going to hit youโ but โI am going to buy a tuna sub from the gas station and hide it under the seat of your carโ
Not โIโm going to kill myselfโ but โI am going to walk into the desert and let the scarabs take meโ
The other side then happened. When I mess something up, instead of saying itโs bad and perpetuating negative thoughts, swing hard the other way.
Not โthis art is terribleโ but โthis shall be framed and mounted on the wall in my museum exhibition as testament to the suffering I had to overcomeโ
Have been doing this since high school. It was my drama teacher who asked me to please stop scaring the actors. The other half of the edict was that I had to say it in a polite tone, and end it with either please or thank you.
Life changing. 10/10 Mr Muรซller. Highly reccomend.
