Seduce.

That’s my little baby at the Mondrian Hotel Sky Bar pool. She lives a very luxurious life with mommy :)

It’s just that simple…yet you give him options so that his fragile male ego doesn’t think you are backing him into a corner or being greedy. “Oh Honee, what do you mean? What the hell are you talking about today?” I’m so glad you asked ! Lol

Him: I like my women shaved, airstrip, etc down there.

You: Awesome! European Wax Center offers a great package where you buy 9 and get 3 free or you can pay monthly which is more expensive of course. Pretty much takes care of that for the entire year. They even offer ones for students! 

Would you like to add that to our monthly allowance or should I give you the number so that you can call and take care of the cost?

Him: I love a woman that can go from t-shirts and jeans to a nice sexy dress/evening gown and heels, etc.

You: I can definitely do that! I have plenty of jeans and tshirts in my wardrobe, however, I’d love a few new dresses/evening gowns that you’d love to see me in.

 Would you like to  set aside a shopping date to take care of that, add a shopping allowance, or buy directly from my wishlist?

Him: I love lingerie with a garter belt and stockings. Do you have any you can send me pictures in?

You: I’m so glad you asked! I was just looking at a few sets on the Agent Provocateur/ La Perla website that I really liked. Here’s the links to them, Check them out and let me know what you think (…checks out links tells you how much he’d love see you in them) I love that you and I have the same taste. 

Would you like to purchase them directly for me or purchase the gift-card so that I can purchase them myself?

Specific things that he wants should not come out of your agreed upon allowance. Find his most prized possession and compare the two if he ever tries you.

Example:

Him: Babe, doesn’t your allowance cover that?

You: Babe :( you know my allowance covers my necessities first. I love how you’re so manly about your desires that require a little more extra work on my part which is certainly not problem. It makes me feel great to make you happy. Kind of like when you bought your Porsche last week. You could have brought the regular manufactured one, but you also added the premium package, tinted windows, and better tires which cost a little more then you intended to spend.

 I’ve seen the happiness in your face when we ride in it.

 I’m not one to compare myself to cars because I can do things for you that your Porsche can’t :), but that wax is my premium package, tinted windows is that dress/shoes, and those new tires is my lingerie. 

Don’t you want to experience the happiness of all that too?

You’ll thank me for this long ass post later,

(these are all from my personal experience. i’m indie, mid-range, work incall out of my home, and am in a country where sex work is not illegal. ymmv.)

decide on an image you want to have. this is on every list for a reason. it’s easier to keep up a persona if it’s always basically the same, and you can adjust your image to attract the type of man you want as a client. i’m a natural blonde and lazy when it comes to my looks, so i went for what’s easiest to me: a fun, down-to-earth, easy-going student girl next door.

adjust everything to fit that image, from clothing to services to pictures to general behavior. my ad isn’t overtly sexual and my photos aren’t what a client would think of as “slutty”, but i mention that i’m bisexual (spoiler, i’m actually lesbian) to have something special to attract a client’s attention. during a booking, i don’t wear heavy makeup, and i dress in relatively casual clothing on top of my lingerie. i obviously try to behave as if i enjoy what we do, but never overdo it in a way that would shake my innocent-but-into-it persona. if a client asks, i don’t do this often, just for some extra gift money every once in a while. clients will notice if something doesn’t seem like it “fits” your persona, and that includes looking like you’re bored or too “professional”/etc.

demand money up front, and learn to never compromise on terms/safety. if you give in a little bit, douchebags will take advantage of that and press for more. “i’m sorry, but i don’t haggle about our safety / how much my time is worth / what i’m comfortable with. :)” tends to work just fine. be firm, but not rude unless warranted. you don’t want hobbyist gossip to be another thing to deal with.

if you work incall, hide everything with your real name on it, whether it’s first or last. don’t just close the bathroom cabinet door, hide prescription bottles in another room/closet/etc. make sure all mail is hidden or thrown away. got a trophy/medal/notebook/sticker with a name on it? HIDE IT. i don’t even keep my mom’s jewelry box out, bc it’s got her first name on it, and i don’t want a client to have to think about any names not matching the one i’ve given him. clients know it’s not real, but i don’t need to remind them.

again for incalls: get separate bedspreads and towels for use with clients (and sheets, if you take the bedspread off during bookings). no unpleasant mental associations during your free time, and you won’t mind possibly having to throw them away if things get too gross.

get gyno-approved intimate wash and cream to use between clients. don’t use regular soap! baby wipes are a godsend for boob sweat etc. 

write & save copies of your ad and standard response to inquiries that you can just copy and paste whenever needed. save them on your phone as well for easy on-the-go replying.

take notes on clients. name/nicknames, email, phone number, dick size (for choosing the right condom next time), what they wanted to do, if they used up the entire time they booked, if they tipped, if they wanted to shower (to know to have a towel ready next time), what you told them about “yourself” (to keep your lies straight next time)… anything you can think of. the fact that you “remember” all these things about a client will make them think they’re special, and want to come back.

(i use evernote for all my hoeing notes! i’ve got separate folders for ads/responses, clients/flakes/blacklist, and a basic calendar spreadsheet so i don’t need to mark sw into my rl planner.)

HOLY SHIT GIRLS! You need to get your asses to the Maxim party next year!!! It was freaking sugar daddy GALORE!

I got invited by some gfs and I went. The most expensive table was $50,000 and the cheapest table was $10,000. If you’re a guy you have to be someone important or rich to attend this party. Floyd Mayweather, DJ Khalid, Jamie Fox and a bunch of other celebrities were there. You can just smell the money when you walk in.

Tonight I got invited to Jamie Fox’s house party for the BET event. My friend that treated us to Roku, SLS, and Waldorf Astoria invited us. I seriously love this guy. I wanna buy him a gift.

My billionaire messaged me again tell me that he loves me. He really wants to marry me. I asked him for $10,000 and a $14,000 Hermes Birkin bag. We’ll see if he comes through. He’s going to Hong Kong on a business trip and will be back.

I have cancelled all my online dating accounts. I have enough money for my bills and enough guys taking care of me. I hate it but my bf really has my heart and its hard for me to date other guys. Like that guy offered me $8000 to go to Chicago and I don’t want to leave my bf for the weekend. I go to all these events with rich guys and no one looks good to me. Maybe if someone buys me a car or something big but I’m just not interested in anyone.

I’m still keeping an open mind. I’ll go to the highest bidder 😂

Note: From now on I’m going to use the phrase “honey relationships” to differentiate spoiled girlfriend relationships from SB/SD relationships - just for the sake of clarity. I’ll also be using the phrase “honey boyfriend” to differentiate spoiling boyfriends from sugar daddies.

One of the biggest differences between a sugar relationship and a honey relationship is the time that you are “behind the scenes.” What I mean by that is the real time and effort that we expend looking fabulous, maintaining our appearance and health, and doing the personal things we need to do to keep our minds and emotions right. 

As a sugar baby, the time you spend with an SD tends to be limited. Sure, you may have a night out - but how much time do you spend getting ready for it? A few hours doing your hair and makeup, all of the exercise and careful eating you do beforehand to maintain your physique, the careful shopping to find the perfect outfits, shoes, lingerie. It’s a lot!

What an SD sees is your final product: opening night. He doesn’t see what’s behind the curtain. 

A honey boyfriend has more access to you, and therefore he’s going to see a lot more of those behind the scenes moments. This can cause problems! It can ruin the mystique and excitement. It can take away your magic as the prize that he’s worked so hard to attain. 

So what’s a girl to do when you live with your honey boyfriend or you spend so much time together that him seeing you behind the scenes is inevitable?

How to Make Behind the Scenes an Intimate Experience

1. Channel your inner glamorous goddess. Find yourself some beautiful dressing gowns/robes (on his dime of course)! I personally love kimono style robes because I think they’re flattering on everyone and since they’re floor length, you can literally be completely naked underneath and if you need to run out and grab the newspaper or change the laundry, at least you will look damn good doing it. 

2. Lounge in style. Girls, I do not know of nor have I ever seen a single woman who did not look bomb in yoga pants and a slouchy, off the shoulder top. Get rid of your ratty around-the-house clothes and get some flattering, sensual lounge clothing. My go-to is The Limited - I really like their Lounge collection. Some athletic wear that’s more designed for yoga and pilates is also great for just hanging around the house, but the booty is poppin’ and your shape is lookin’ lit. 

3. Create a beautiful space where the magic happens. I have a vanity with my perfume, makeup, hair products, and a few pretty little tchotchkes to add decor (an expensive masquerade mask from a fetish event we attended, a small ring and bracelet holder, etc.) Play some sensual music while you get ready - jazz, classical piano, R&B, whatever your jams are. When you sit down to do your makeup and hair, your honey now sees you as not only a beautiful woman, but someone who has let him into your most intimate moments. 

4. Cut the ditz crap when you’re choosing an outfit. Every man I have ever dated has communicated to me the annoyance and frustration of dealing with my indecision in choosing outfits. It’s the equivalent of being in midtown traffic - start, stop, start, stop. Once you choose an outfit, stick to it! 

5. Make your health regimen Insta-worthy. This one requires some commitment, but try not to look crazy when you go to the gym if you know your honey is going to see you before, during or after. Yes, we know you’re there to sweat. But throwing on a pair of diamond studs and just making sure your hair is slicked back so you don’t have those random alfalfa frizzies doesn’t take much time. Having cute activewear is easier than ever because so many companies are entering the market. Some of my favorite coordinated activewear sets are from Old Navy! Just like you’d coordinate your bag and shoes to go to dinner, it doesn’t take much to just make sure your sneakers and headband are the same color - and it makes a huge difference. You go from “average attractive girl at gym” to “sugar baby at gym still looking fly as fuck.”

5. Some things should still remain behind-the-behind-the-scenes. Your bowel movements, hair removal methods, menstrual activities, pimple popping (don’t do it but if you do), face masks, foul smelling hair treatments all need to happen when he’s not around or behind closed doors. Nothing kills the fantasy of a dazzling sugar baby like the stench of a recently blown up bathroom - put that Febreze or Lysol spray within reach at all times. 

You may need to get creative with when these things happen, but trust me - it’s worth it. As for menstrual activities - I have been using Thinx for several months now and my life has changed infinitely for the better. If you have a light to medium menstrual flow like me, you probably won’t even need to buy tampons or pads anymore! I haven’t for at least six months. 

6. Limit the negative self-talk. You wouldn’t air your insecurities to your sugar daddy. Why? Because you are marketing yourself as someone valuable and worthy of investment. You don’t draw attention to flaws. The tendency and the habit is to share those feelings with your honey, but try to nip that as much as possible. When you harp on that little bit of tummy fat, those stretch marks, and other “flaws” of your physicality, you draw his attention to them. He may not even have noticed them until you pointed them out! Case in point: I am very insecure about my teeth. I have a crooked smile and I always have. I said this in passing once to an ex-boyfriend who was shocked “I never really noticed, I guess I just like that your smile is different.” Mind you, after I brought it up, several times he asked me if I would consider getting braces. He got the boot for other reasons, but you see what I’m saying.

7. Give yourself ample time to get ready and avoid the manic panic. We all know stress is contagious. If you know it takes you two hours to get ready, give yourself two and a half if you can! That way you are relaxing, your man is watching this beautiful transformation, and you’re not running through your house like a bat out of hell trying to get your life together.

Ok girls. Listen up….

I don’t know why you care how much your POT is worth, how much does he make, or what his occupation is. You need to be concentrating on HOW MUCH HE SPENDS ON YOU/HOW MUCH ALLOWANCE HES GIVING YOU.

I dated a billionaire and all he did was buy me food and waste my time. Don’t get stuck in this. Spenders will spend! They won’t “wait” to buy you stuff. Those guys are LIARS! Guys are either generous or not.

I also dated a guy that made $150k but gave me $5k a month. He doesn’t have a fancy job. He actually drives a Honda Civic!

I seriously am so annoyed with these guys in Ferraris and they get mad when you ask for gifts. “WHAT KIND OF GIRL DID YOU THINK YOU WOULD ATTRACT WITH THIS CAR YOU IDIOT!!!”

Then there’s guys like my bf… he has a lot of nice cars, $3M in watches and he loves to spoil his women. He’s a unicorn I get it but there’s more out there! Keep looking. I promise you he’s not the only one.

So stop wasting your time and only concentrate on guys that spend money on you!! Make them spend lots of money on you every time you go out so he’s invested in you. My nail lady told me my bf will never leave me because he’s already spend so much money on me he’s invested in me.

I once had this guy buy me 2 ugly ass dresses that I knew were marked too high. I had him buy it so he gets used to spending money on me. He knows if he wants to see me he better bring his wallet. We ate $500 meals every night and Uber Lux everywhere. He spend over $2000 a day on me, every date and treated all my friends too.