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THIS SHIT WORKS OKAY, I AM DEAD SERIOUS.

The last time I saw this on my dash, I didn’t think it would happen, so jokingly I wished I could go to a fun. concert.

AND GUESS WHAT, I WENT TO A FUCKING FUN. CONCERT.

I SAW THIS ON MY DASH THE OTHER DAY AND THOUGHT “ITS WORTH A TRY” SO I WISHED I COULD GET A 3DS

LITERALLY LIKE 4 DAYS LATER MY DAD SENT ME A PICTURE OF THE 3DS XL HE BOUGHT FOR ME WHILE I WAS AT SCHOOL

GUYS.

HE FUCKING CALLED ME 20 MINUTES LATER

20 FUCKNG. MINUTES. LATER.

(these are all from my personal experience. i’m indie, mid-range, work incall out of my home, and am in a country where sex work is not illegal. ymmv.)

decide on an image you want to have. this is on every list for a reason. it’s easier to keep up a persona if it’s always basically the same, and you can adjust your image to attract the type of man you want as a client. i’m a natural blonde and lazy when it comes to my looks, so i went for what’s easiest to me: a fun, down-to-earth, easy-going student girl next door.

adjust everything to fit that image, from clothing to services to pictures to general behavior. my ad isn’t overtly sexual and my photos aren’t what a client would think of as “slutty”, but i mention that i’m bisexual (spoiler, i’m actually lesbian) to have something special to attract a client’s attention. during a booking, i don’t wear heavy makeup, and i dress in relatively casual clothing on top of my lingerie. i obviously try to behave as if i enjoy what we do, but never overdo it in a way that would shake my innocent-but-into-it persona. if a client asks, i don’t do this often, just for some extra gift money every once in a while. clients will notice if something doesn’t seem like it “fits” your persona, and that includes looking like you’re bored or too “professional”/etc.

demand money up front, and learn to never compromise on terms/safety. if you give in a little bit, douchebags will take advantage of that and press for more. “i’m sorry, but i don’t haggle about our safety / how much my time is worth / what i’m comfortable with. :)” tends to work just fine. be firm, but not rude unless warranted. you don’t want hobbyist gossip to be another thing to deal with.

if you work incall, hide everything with your real name on it, whether it’s first or last. don’t just close the bathroom cabinet door, hide prescription bottles in another room/closet/etc. make sure all mail is hidden or thrown away. got a trophy/medal/notebook/sticker with a name on it? HIDE IT. i don’t even keep my mom’s jewelry box out, bc it’s got her first name on it, and i don’t want a client to have to think about any names not matching the one i’ve given him. clients know it’s not real, but i don’t need to remind them.

again for incalls: get separate bedspreads and towels for use with clients (and sheets, if you take the bedspread off during bookings). no unpleasant mental associations during your free time, and you won’t mind possibly having to throw them away if things get too gross.

get gyno-approved intimate wash and cream to use between clients. don’t use regular soap! baby wipes are a godsend for boob sweat etc. 

write & save copies of your ad and standard response to inquiries that you can just copy and paste whenever needed. save them on your phone as well for easy on-the-go replying.

take notes on clients. name/nicknames, email, phone number, dick size (for choosing the right condom next time), what they wanted to do, if they used up the entire time they booked, if they tipped, if they wanted to shower (to know to have a towel ready next time), what you told them about “yourself” (to keep your lies straight next time)… anything you can think of. the fact that you “remember” all these things about a client will make them think they’re special, and want to come back.

(i use evernote for all my hoeing notes! i’ve got separate folders for ads/responses, clients/flakes/blacklist, and a basic calendar spreadsheet so i don’t need to mark sw into my rl planner.)

THIS SHIT WORKS OKAY, I AM DEAD SERIOUS.

The last time I saw this on my dash, I didn’t think it would happen, so jokingly I wished I could go to a fun. concert.

AND GUESS WHAT, I WENT TO A FUCKING FUN. CONCERT.

I SAW THIS ON MY DASH THE OTHER DAY AND THOUGHT “ITS WORTH A TRY” SO I WISHED I COULD GET A 3DS

LITERALLY LIKE 4 DAYS LATER MY DAD SENT ME A PICTURE OF THE 3DS XL HE BOUGHT FOR ME WHILE I WAS AT SCHOOL

GUYS.

HE FUCKING CALLED ME 20 MINUTES LATER

20 FUCKNG. MINUTES. LATER.

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So often I hear men complain that “No good women tour XYZ city.” That makes me roll my eyes because I have to imagine that these same men have never sat down and tried to figure out how much it actually costs to go on a tour as a provider.

Break it down to one - two - or even three cities over the course of a 7 night tour and you’re looking at an incredibly expensive, laborious, and stressful endeavor. Touring providers have their shit together - we have to. 

If you’re a connoisseur of touring providers to your local city, my hat is off to you. While I do think you should establish a great rapport with a local in your area, it’s always nice to have regular lovers in the cities that I travel to.

If you’re a provider thinking about touring I’m going to break down some costs for you so you can really see what it takes to be a “touring provider” and why cancellations, NCNS and flaky clients can literally make or break a tour for us. 

So we’re going to use my current tour as an example and I’m going to do some speculation as to a few of my costs coming up for the weekend based on my previous trip to Boston (two weeks ago).

Leg #1 

Philadelphia 

Airline Ticket + Baggage Fees + Breakfast & Lunch + Uber to Hotel

$577.10

Hotel Cost + Tips for Bellman + Tips for Maid

$670.50

Dining Out Monday, Tuesday, & Wednesday(am) + Misc. Snacks & Water

$207.00 (Granted this is a little higher because I literally ate my weight in Hotpot two nights in a row but I like food)

Cab to Train Station

$12.00

Leg #2

Baltimore

Train Ticket to Baltimore + Cab to Hotel 

$105.00

Hotel Costs + Tips for Bellman + Tips for Maid

$349.30

Dining Out Wednesday, Thursday, & Friday(am)

$69.00

Uber to BWI

$21.00

Leg #3

Flight from Baltimore to Boston

$250.00

Car Rental in Boston

$186.00

Hotel Costs + Tips for Bellman + Tips for Maid

$1,110.76

Dining out Friday(pm), Saturday, Sunday, Monday(am) + misc. snacks & water

$221.00

Gas for Rental Car

$30.00

Leg #4

Flight back to Jacksonville + Baggage Fees + Breakfast & Lunch

$407.97

ADVERTISING ON EROS & P411 $570.00

Hair & Nails before tour & Misc Wardrobe & supplies $250.00

TOTAL COST ESTIMATED(Food is only Variation): $4,850.63

THE BOTTOM LINE IS THIS

When you NCNS, Short Pay, and Cancel at the last minute you are seriously compromising a provider’s ability to have a successful tour, not to mention actually come away with it in the positive and make money. There is a reason for a cancellation policy because we are IN GOOD FAITH accepting your word that you will follow through with this agreement because we are putting out OUR REAL MONEY to come to these cities to spend time with you.

NCNS and last minute cancellations are unacceptable. When you cancel same day or even the day before you seriously put in jeopardy a provider’s ability to afford to continue to tour. I have been on countless tours where I have broken even. Like, I paid X amount of $ to go on the tour and it was like a sucked all that dick for free because while the trip got covered I didn’t make hardly anything to take home. 

Do provider’s a favor - don’t book if you’re not going to show up. Don’t book if you’re flaky. Don’t book if you think that it doesn’t hurt anyone when you “can’t make it because your car SUDDENLY AND WITHOUT WARNING broke down a mere hour before the appointment”.