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you can't just excuse away the harm you're enabling with "i didn't know," or "i don't want to talk about that, i just wanna vibe and look at pictures of people eating each other!" that is still enabling, that is still causing harm, and that's just proving to hurt people that there's no one they can trust and when it comes down to it, no one will stick up for them when they open up about the things they've suffered. it's always the victims who are wrong for standing up for themselves or calling attention to people that have been or are still doing harm (especially if they aren't cordial and nonthreatening in the way they talk about it, even though they have every right to be upset), because there's no way your favorite artist could do something bad! their art is too good! their writing is too well-done to be made by someone bad! so it must be them who's wrong, because the abuser said so and the victim was mean! why don't we all attack the victim for daring to open up and nitpick how they did it, because surely that is what prevents people from being hurt! ignore how nobody's actually done any of these things, btw (and if they did, they get ignored immediately).

at worst, these people are callous and cruel and are abusers themselves. at best, these people are enabling harm to be perpetuated because they don't want to acknowledge it. or they're too scared to be dogpiled too, or whatever other reason there is. this culture this community fosters needs to die out or people will continue to be used and abused.

YOU WERE NOT THE VICTIM WHEN YOU WERE GROOMING CHILDREN AND SETTING THEM UP TO BE SEXUALLY EXPLOITED BY ADULTS. the fact that you keep acting like this was entirely out of your hands and that what you did wasn't that bad, or that it didn't happen, or that people who were effected deserved it because "if something bad happened I would have known. you should have told me" as if you had absolutely zero power or agency in ANYTHING that happened unless it was brought to your face.

And make no fucking mistake here, you aren't qualified in any capacity to be a mandated reporter when you made a fetish space for children to take active part in (even if you claim it to be nonsexual "95% of the time".... as if you should even talk to kids about your fetishes AT ALL even if it was 100% nonsexual) and then go "lol my bad I'll stop doing that" when those children end up being groomed or sexually harassed by people in YOUR SCOPE. Then you act like it's entirely normal to still be in contact with minors despite displaying behavior that directly endangers them. Were you afraid to report any of what you saw happen in your spaces, Ama?

and your statement saying that you didn't actually groom one of your victims who's been actively posting about her trauma regarding it is outright disingenuous. talking to a child as an adult about fetishes, whether it's something you see as innocous like vore- or any other topic that's widely regarded as a fetish like tar pits, feet, stink, whatever- is inherently grooming behavior. whether you "didn't know she was a minor" or not doesn't fucking matter. you displayed that it wasn't an issue for you to talk to minors about vore in the first place, and that afaik the only reason you stopped was because you kept seeing children in your spaces talk about sexual topics, and that people kept telling you that your behavior was allowing children to be hurt under the guise of protecting them. the victim also talked to you about being in highschool, and that didn't raise ANY alarms for you that she was a child? especially for how many years she brought up being in school?

either way, even with your apologies of hurting people all you say is "well I didn't mean it/it wasn't entirely my fault ("I was trying to do a good thing by letting kids in a kink space to protect them" and "why is the blame being put squarely on me, there's other people who have done wrong too"), sorry if I hurt you or made you uncomfortable." you don't go into why what you did was dangerous and why what you did harmed children.

Of course there's other people in your scope and groups who have also done this shit (see: earwiggy/trashcat, voraciouspanda, vore-scientist, etc etc etc etc.). I haven't forgotten about them either. They're horrible in their own ways, with what drawing incest vore with children, incest vore of real life people, one having even harassed one of my friends when they said that incest vore made them uncomfortable. They see nothing wrong with their own contacting children to show them this content.

I don't know what the hell your problem is, but those are some very, very serious allegations you just dropped, and I won't stand for this kind of bullshit anymore. You see, some of us freaks have been drawing and writing about vore since LITERAL childhood. Since WE were children. No grooming, no nothing. If you have an issue with that, that's a you problem. Some of the people you've listed are people I happen to know EXTREMELY personally. YOU on the other hand, know nothing. All you know is pointing fingers and being a royal asshole in doing so. It's the dangerous kind of high school level pettiness.

It's bullshit like this that scares people into silence about actual abuse and predatory behavior and, I'm gonna be honest, makes YOU sound like you're hiding something yourself. In my experience, it's people who raise massive stinks over this kind of stuff that have the most shame about some deep seeded insecurity or unhealed trauma that you are dragging other folks into. It's not cute. It's not funny.

We can go rounds and rounds about whether vore is sexual or not, if vore is a fetish/kink or not, or insert other thing here. I've seen this discourse rise and fall over the past at this point almost 15 years. I guess muppets eating each other is sexual. I guess scenes from Dragon Tales are pornographic. Dude, it's a fucking STORY. And many of these stories employ vore as plot devices, exploring dynamics, and establishing trust between characters. Or, god forbid, some people use vore as a way to cope with really fucked up shit! The only people making it weird is YOU and people with this narrow minded black-and-white "holier than thou" attitude. I suspect this is a virtue signal to go OHH NOOO LOOK OVER THERE AT THOSE DANGEROUS FREAKS GROOMING KIDS when NONE of them have EVER put children in ANY kind of dangerous or compromised positions. This behavior isn't helping to protect anyone! Everybody's gotten so "save the children" oriented that it's made everybody fucking paranoid. Get a life, dude.

YOU WERE NOT THE VICTIM WHEN YOU WERE GROOMING CHILDREN AND SETTING THEM UP TO BE SEXUALLY EXPLOITED BY ADULTS. the fact that you keep acting like this was entirely out of your hands and that what you did wasn't that bad, or that it didn't happen, or that people who were effected deserved it because "if something bad happened I would have known. you should have told me" as if you had absolutely zero power or agency in ANYTHING that happened unless it was brought to your face.

And make no fucking mistake here, you aren't qualified in any capacity to be a mandated reporter when you made a fetish space for children to take active part in (even if you claim it to be nonsexual "95% of the time".... as if you should even talk to kids about your fetishes AT ALL even if it was 100% nonsexual) and then go "lol my bad I'll stop doing that" when those children end up being groomed or sexually harassed by people in YOUR SCOPE. Then you act like it's entirely normal to still be in contact with minors despite displaying behavior that directly endangers them. Were you afraid to report any of what you saw happen in your spaces, Ama?

and your statement saying that you didn't actually groom one of your victims who's been actively posting about her trauma regarding it is outright disingenuous. talking to a child as an adult about fetishes, whether it's something you see as innocous like vore- or any other topic that's widely regarded as a fetish like tar pits, feet, stink, whatever- is inherently grooming behavior. whether you "didn't know she was a minor" or not doesn't fucking matter. you displayed that it wasn't an issue for you to talk to minors about vore in the first place, and that afaik the only reason you stopped was because you kept seeing children in your spaces talk about sexual topics, and that people kept telling you that your behavior was allowing children to be hurt under the guise of protecting them. the victim also talked to you about being in highschool, and that didn't raise ANY alarms for you that she was a child? especially for how many years she brought up being in school?

either way, even with your apologies of hurting people all you say is "well I didn't mean it/it wasn't entirely my fault ("I was trying to do a good thing by letting kids in a kink space to protect them" and "why is the blame being put squarely on me, there's other people who have done wrong too"), sorry if I hurt you or made you uncomfortable." you don't go into why what you did was dangerous and why what you did harmed children.

Of course there's other people in your scope and groups who have also done this shit (see: earwiggy/trashcat, voraciouspanda, vore-scientist, etc etc etc etc.). I haven't forgotten about them either. They're horrible in their own ways, with what drawing incest vore with children, incest vore of real life people, one having even harassed one of my friends when they said that incest vore made them uncomfortable. They see nothing wrong with their own contacting children to show them this content.