Sugared Notes

That is totally unacceptable. Please make JOSEPH PRESLEY & the judge CALVIN R HOLDEN  who let him off (in)famous.

#StayWoke

someone hiring me for work I willingly choose to do is not the same as someone violating me

even if they were violating me (which can only happen if my consent is not respected!) they would NOT “own” me after the violation.

I am still my own, and not anyone’s property, if people have sexual pictures or videos of me.

I am still my own, and not anyone’s property, if people have sex with me.

I am still my own, and not anyone’s property, if people give me money for choosing to provide them with sexual images, phone sex, or actual sex.

I am still my own if the money I choose to accept for sexual acts is pivotal to my survival.

If you refer to sex work as “buying women”, if you say that by doing sex work I “become a product”, you are dehumanizing me. My job - and the fruits of my job, like porn clips - do not dehumanize me. Being sexual for a price does not dehumanize me; I am still a person, choosing to be sexual for a reason that you don’t choose to be sexual for. People like you contribute to a culture that encourages people to see people in my line of work as less than human.

Scapegoating frequently-objectified women for the objectification all women experience at the hands of men is patriarchial respectability politics. It is victim-blaming. And does not teach anyone to treat sex workers or anyone else with real respect.

I’m offended both as a sex worker and as a rape survivor at the idea that choosing a job that departs from your misogynist ideas of sexual purity is somehow morally equivalent to being abused against my will.

I’m appalled as a rape survivor and as a sex worker that you consistently imply that I no longer belong to myself after having sex for pay or selling cam sessions, and list your inaccurate rape equivalence as the reason. Do you not see how disgusting that is, to say that rape means you now somehow belong to the rapist? Your ideas are rotten all through.

You don’t do trafficking victims a disservice by refusting to call any of us “fleshlights”. You don’t do anyone a disservice by not framing sex work as “girls who sell their bodies”. You’re not hurting rape victims by giving up rhetoric that implies that our bodies become property of our rapists.

That’s what this post is asking you to do - to stop talking like we’re things. Why would you say “but trafficking victims!” to that? Trafficking victims are also not things! They do not benefit from people talking over them and calling them fuckholes any more than voluntary sex workers do!

And decriminalization protects trafficking victims even more, honestly! right now civilian led programs to “rescue” trafficking victims are far more likely to get them assaulted by police, arrested, forced into sweatshops (another kind of trafficking….), and/or otherwise remove whatever autonomy they had already.

Outisders trying to help trafficking victims can start by listening to people who are actually being trafficked - because they are not voiceless, their bodies still exist, and they still have a better perspective on their needs than literally anyone else.

And maybe if you actually care about trafficking victims, start caring about farm labour trafficking and domestic labour trafficking too, because a lot of people seem only to like talking about trafficking because they like sad stories where women get raped a lot, and claiming to be an advocate for oppressed people while refusing to listen to people actually in that situation is not a good way to scratch that itch.

Haters should shut the fuckk up. Gabby Douglas is doing her best to     honorably represent the country that discriminates and degrades her. Shitty people supported by shitty media made this marvelous girl cry. The criticism hurled at Gabby is not only unfair, but dangerous. Why does she have to compete for the country that doesn’t appreciate her?

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Listen now. I get this question a lot and I’ve had enough of it. “How do I make my pussy taste good?” “My pussy looks kind of weird.” “I’m afraid of what he’ll think!” Everybody got anxiety about what their cat looks like, and what she tastes like and how she’ll be perceived and how many visitors she’s had and all this nonsense and let me tell you: don’t nobody care. Stop the pussy madness.

Bitch if you unclench your pussy lips to allow some crusty nigga in there he better get down on his knees and pray to god and thank him for the fountain brought before him and drink from it’s opening. He better put two fingers in and raise his hand to bless the pussy. He better give the pussy last rites before destroying it. He better say grace. He better mark it for freshness. Men have dicks that look like their cousin twice removed. Men got dicks that look like they’ve been transplanted. Men got dicks that look like it was the last one they had in the store in that region. Men got dicks that look like they were on the sale rack for at least two seasons. Men got dicks that look like they were donated by the Salvation Army. Men got dicks that look like somebody donated it to get a write off on their taxes. And men don’t eem worry about what they look like.

If you clean your cat properly, if you wash her and you love her, you know all her spots it doesn’t matter what she tastes like. Bitch dispense with this pretense. You are on this page, on this post because you are a feminist. You believe in the economic, political and social equality of the sexes. That literally means you believe in equal treatment and opportunity. So when a man comes over expecting to get his dick sucked and swallowed knowing his cum burns holes through wool sheets you don’t gotta worry if your shit tastes like a peach or a paste, you hear me?

This is not the pussy olympics. Nobody is going to get a gold medal for symmetrical pussy lips. Nobody is getting glamor shots of their labia majora. Nobody is giving interviews on Ellen for their labia minora. Why are y’all so worried about what dudes think about your sex when he thinks the clitoris is a soft drink? Stop it. Worry about perfecting your ho.

If you want to be sure of something be sure of how to touch yourself and how to be pleased. Don’t fake nothing. Stop it. Get naked and have a conversation with your pussy. It’s you and her until the end. Know that bitch. If she pink, if she purple, if she a ham sandwich or a hoagie she’s yours. Don’t be one of those women who goes to get a surgery over how she feels about some flesh. I guarantee you, a pussy whose face makes you want to cry a man will gladly wear as a mustache seven days out of the week. Stop being so ready to put yourself down over some petty shit. Stop asking gynecologists, fake hos and me about how you can turn your cum into Willy Wonka’s salt water taffy. It’s always gonna taste salty. Your diet will make it better or worse but it ain’t gonna be no coffee creamer. Unlearn your stupidity, wash your ass with plain water and common sense. Masturbate your stress away.