A Sugar Baby’s Black Book

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💍 I will be in a happy & financially stable marriage. 

You might not like my answer; but read. Read MULTIPLE works. The goal of manipulation is to change people’s perception of you. 

I feel like everyone recommends Ho Tactics and it seems to have been effective. I couldn’t make it past the first chapter though, so I never read it. The works of Robert Greene have great strategy (The Art of Seduction, 48 Laws of Power, 33 Strategies of War) and are a gateway. 

My advice would be to look into Philosophy, Psychology & Sociology which make up Social Engineering (strategy, deception, etc.). To get the ball rolling, here are some works that I recommend in no particular order:

The Prince – Niccolò Machiavelli

The Art of War – Sun Tzu

Hagakure – Yamamoto Tsunetomo

Strategy - B.H. Liddell Hart

On War - Carl von Clauswitz

Influence: Science and Practice (The Psychology of Persuasion) – Robert Cialdini

How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie

Social Engineering: The Art of Human Hacking – Chris Hadnagy

Covert Persuasion: Psychological Tactics and Tricks to Win the Game – Kevin Hogan & James Speakman

Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again – David J. Lieberman

Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World - Jack Weatherford

The Art of Worldly Wisdom - Baltasar Gracián y Morales

It’s Not All About Me: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone – Robin Dreeke

What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People – Joe Navarro

Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage – Paul Ekman

A very important thing before you even get into manipulation is learning how to control yourself and understanding why you think and act the way you do. Here’s some recommendations:

Positioning: The Battle for Your Mind – Al Ries & Jack Trout

Thinking, Fast and Slow –  Daniel Kahneman

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions – Dan Ariely

The Social Animal – David Brooks

The Laws of Human Nature – Robert Greene

Philosophy also plays a major role. I quite enjoy the works, and apply some of the philosophical outlooks of Thucydides, Seneca the Younger, Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, and Zeno of Citium. 

Unlike most SBs, Spoiled Gfs have to work at keeping their man interested in them constantly and long term (because SGFs will have more contact with their SDBF, whereas some SBs may only see their SDs once a month). This can be very tiring and requires a lot of effort so make sure you understand all this before entering a relationship with your SDBF.

So what are the do’s and don’ts of being a SGF (some of these also apply to SBs):

Do have a signature scent

Do have a varied style - keep him shocked by your beauty every time

Don’t become predictable

Do keep up your education and try and get him to pay for as many degrees/training programmes/courses as possible

Do not pay for anything except birthday/valentines/Christmas/anniversary gifts for him (and also that one “I appreciate you gift” that you get him once a year) - you are his girlfriend you should not still be paying your bills

Do have a hobby (so you’re not always in their face)

Do have a business/side-hustle (so they can’t control you)

Do develop some skill sets, dependant on the type of man you’re dating (e.g. if your SDBF is a foodie, cook for him once in a while)

Do maintain a consistent body type (don’t be tempted to get lazy; if you met him with a fugure 8 body he’s going to expect you to upkeep that figure)

Do hire a personal lawyer you can contact on speed dial

Do have a strong group of vanilla girl friends

Do not cheat on him (or at least not openly)

Do have a strong group of rich girl friends

Do have at least one male friend

Do not let him stop taking you out - he should be taking you out even more

Do not let him get comfortable - keep him on ropes (so he feels he has to wife you to keep you)

Do not move in with him (or at least not straight away)

Do tread the careful line between always being around and never being around - you shouldn’t confuse keeping space with being distant and vacant

Do keep the relationship new and fun

Do not get too clingy and do not get all serious on your SDBF unless he initiates it

Do not bring up the dreaded M word first (*in a hushed tone* marriage)

Do not try and control him unless it directly affects you (e.g. don’t tell him to stop hanging out with his friends but do let his arse know if he needs to be spending more money on you 😉🤣)

Do remember your end goal: you want to become a trophy wife - don’t lose sight of the vision and don’t get comfortable just because you have the GF title. You now have to WORK to make it to trophy wife

Do remember you can always leave - if he starts acting crazy you have ZERO obligation to continue with him. You will find another. Don’t let him control you with his money

Feels like a lot right? Like I said before this lifestyle is a full time job, so get to working lovelies.

Never reveal that your an escort on the side, or that you keep multiple sources of income. They will fuck once, pay and leave. These are the type of men that will invest in you, spoil you with diamonds, birkins, cars, vacations & allowances.

Rule No. 1

Be a sexy rich bitch with class & cunningness.

Rule No. 2

Act like a luxury, Dress to kill, Talk with your eyes and movement (keep stillness, remain subtle, make your presence felt tactfully).

Rule No. 3

Be mysterious & ambiguous in answering questions. Never reveal more than they should know. Be unreadable as It will save your life.

Rule No. 4

Keep them interested, Play mindgames, Make them feel wanted but act is you don’t care simultaneously. They’ll do whatever to get your attention.

Rule No. 5

Make them do most of the talking in conversations, but Take over in the sheets. Figure out his insecurities & remember small details he said carelessly. Compliment those areas, say you trust him, make him open up & feel important. He will be scared to lose you.

Rule No. 6

Be feminine, sweet & motherly occasionally. Make them remember that you are reliable & genuine. But disappear few days. Let them know they have to put effort & time in you.

Rule No. 7

Build trust, never reveal your intentions, Make progress adequately, be attentive underneath the surface & plan the right moment to ask (perhaps if his in a good mood that day or intentionally make him feel guilty, MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE HE OWE YOU)

Rule No. 8

Always leave him pleased, show that you are unpredictable & full of surprises. Be spontaneous.

Rule No. 9

Be the best, be unforgettable & lastly

MAKE THEM DIE FOR YOU.

Keep your business private, or you’ll learn it the hard way. Some people are jealous and don’t want you to have a life better than theirs.

Be patient. You have to trust the process and believe that better things are coming, to work hard and harder.

A man’s words mean nothing. His actions mean everything.

Don’t nag, find another better man to do the job, competition breeds perfection.

You’re not competing with other women, your competing with yourself.

No man will live in your head rent free, have a roster of at least 3 guys.

Never give up your hobbies, plans or ambitions for a man. Ever.

Never stop improving-physically (gym, procedures, surgery) mentally (school, tutors, learning languages, reading), emotionally (reading, therapy, medication), and financially (paying down debt, investments, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, etc)

A stingy men are just as bad as broke men.

Closed mouths don’t get fed.

Restaurant first dates only.

You’re single until married.

Goes without saying but

No sex until a relationship and commitment has been established.