silly kitty whore

bun’s in tears, his dom hasn’t stopped playing and suckling on his clit for the last hour. it’s all red and swollen and too sensitive, but his dom has been sucking it like a lollipop, fingers playing with his wet folds. suddenly, his dom pops off and looks at their handiwork. “perfect,” they say with a satisfied nod, before they suddenly flip bun over onto his stomach, hand reaching around his belly to spread his lips and ram their cock into them. bun’s eyes roll as they slam harshly over and over into his soft pussy, stretching it wide. their fingers rub bun’s fat clit quickly, until he’s coming, but the cock doesn’t stop. bun’s all overstimulated and crying as his tight pussy is fucked. he can’t move as his dom pinches his clit, grinding their cock into him. he comes again but his dom still isn’t finished. his dom pulls out and asks bun to present himself. with tears in his eyes, bun rolls over, bringing his knees to his chest and exposing his gooey red cunt, twitching. “how much do you want it, bun? go on, show me,” his dom encourages and bun sobs as he begins rubbing his oversensitive clit in circles. it’s so hard to do it on himself, wanting to stop or his hips jerking away, but he keeps his legs spread, two fingers holding his pussy open while their other rubs his clit, head lolling to the side. eventually, his dom is satisfied, and pushes their cock back into him, pumping him until he squirts all over them both

fingering soft baby boy’s pussies ahh. they’re so sensitive, blushing and biting their lip as soon as you rub the pad of your finger on their soft clit, instinctively trying to close their legs, but you gently hold them open. them moaning and panting as the area grows tender and swollen and so wet, their eyes growing teary and whining as they become overwhelmed from the stimulation. edging them until they’re strung taut, back arched and keening as they cry out in frustration, teetering on the edge. holding them down as you suddenly rub their clit in firm, quick circles as they wail. letting them squirt all over your hand as you rub them out. just sweet subby boys with soft little pussies and cute little clits to play with

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And also you're right that while this post is specifically about the asexual experience, these problems affect everyone; desire gaps, whether temporary/circumstantial or ongoing, affect many if not most long-term relationships. And the solution needs to reaffirm bodily autonomy and compassion for everyone, not just carve out a specific exception for ace people. Too frequently I see people and institutions that, even when they're attempting to be affirming, essentially say "Well this is what a committed relationship Needs To Look Like . . . unless you already id as ace I guess" instead of allowing their general idea of what relationships can look like to expand and become less prescriptive.