Melania

A lot of folks in the comments are talking about writing on themselves or setting phone/calendar reminders. Your mileage may vary on those. You may also want to consider ways to set a habit of referring back to a planner or similar every day/hour.

To get those brain juices flowing, check out this Buzzfeed article on different ways folks with ADHD stay on top of things.

VISUAL BACKGROUND NOISE?!

This white woman’s shocking account of police brutality reveals the importance of the #BlackLivesMatter movement

It has been literal years but every time I see Martin’s tweets posted somewhere and his word is shared as truth while her post is not shared it sort of reiterates the fact that we trust men to speak about feminism more than we believe women who experience it. 

Adding screenshots of her post. His whole post is there without needing a link. Hers should be, too.

I have no idea if anyone still remembers me, though, so maybe I'll tag some people to let y'all know? 💜

You can find info about my wip under # the second chance hashtag!! If you'd like to be on my tag list or anything, just tell me 💙

I’m doing fine, although that corona thing has really messed up everything I worked for :( but now I have more time to write, so I’m back. Just posted two first chapters of the new version of The Second Chance on Wattpad, so I guess it’s official :D

I totally remember Pseudonyms! I guess I read like nine chapters of it? If there’s any source I can read it at, please let me know, I really liked that story!  

Tagged by @atbwrites. Haven’t noticed you tagged me until I went to scroll your blog, so thank you! You slowly become one of my favorite blogs hehe :)

I’m doing this for Sebastian and Allison because they’re my newest major characters :)

1) What was the first element of your character that you remember considering?

Well, The Second Chance flew out of my attempt to write a short story based on ‘Oh, Miss Believer’ by top (yes, you’re right, I’m bad at planning anything when it comes to plot because I love spontaneous ideas, but I’m trying to outline the most important points, I promise!).

Allison: I started writing her as a deeply depressed and girl which Tyler refers to in the song (imo), but when I saw where it was going, I gave her a name because I don’t usually use them in the short stories.

Sebastian: He appeared suddenly, so I guess it was his proffession? He’s a barman Allison met in the bar. I don’t know what else because I have major problems with sticking to characterization because I like to get to know characters chapter by chapter, not immediately.

2) Did you design them with any other characters from their universe in mind?

Allison: not really. I mostly thought of her backstory.

Sebastian: I wanted him to affect Allison during the story in some ways (what is reasonable, duh), so she was the one I thought of, but their personalities in no way affected each other on the stage of creating (after writing the third chapter, I started filling the questionnaire, so that’s what I mean).

3) How did you choose their name?

Me and my future husband love the name Alice and I wanted to use its variation for my protagonist. Speaking of Sebastian, I guess I chose his name because of one character in my favorite game (I swear, if someone ever tries to look for backstory in my characters’ names, I would be so hurt).

4) In developing their backstory, what elements of their world played the most influential part?

I had to choose some tragic events as the reasons of their suicide because that’s how they end up in The Second Chance World, and those events made it vital to create a backstory which shows why they were that hurt. For example, Sebastian grew up as a neglected child before and after his parents divorced, and he stayed with the drug addicted mom because his father’s new woman didn’t want to have Seb around. So, when his deeply loved fiancee died during the last months of pregnancy, his hopes to have a happy, loving family and someone to care of, to give them everything he never had, burned to ashes, and after a few months, he took his own life. 

5/6/7) Is there any significance behind their hair color/eye color/height?

None, at all.

8) What do you relate to within their character/story?

Allison: her habit to eat with bare hands from the open fridge when nobody sees it, her love to the pineapple and sweet corn pizza, and the fact she never tried to ace in school if the subject wasn’t interesting for her, but had good grades for the subjects she liked without much effort

Sebastian: parents’ divorce (which wasn’t as painful to me since my biological father was an abusive alcoholic), scars on the forearm.

9) Are they based of you in any way?

Nope.

10) Did you know what your character’s sexuality would be at the time of their creation?

I consider them both straight, but Seb’s first kiss happened on a party with a guy and he liked it so…I don’t know? Let’s say, he’s bisexual who prefers girls.

11) What have you found is the most difficult art form in creating your character?

Drawing, because I can’t draw/paint.

12) How far past canon events that take place in their world have you extended their story?

To the childhood? 

13) If you had to narrow it down to 2 things you MUST keep in mind while working with this OC, what would they be?

Allison is determined to get what she wants/likes at any cost and she doesn’t like it when something goes wrong but doesn’t show it if it can affect her attempts to reach her goals. Also, Allison is very moody so she has breakdowns which make her feel even worse afterward.

Sebastian is decisive and overprotective, so sometimes he doesn’t involve others in making choices that may affect them. Also, he is trying to get rid of his trust issues and reminds himself to let everyone have a chance, and it makes him be extra kind even if he doesn’t know the person.

14) What is something about your OC that makes you laugh?

Um, nothing yet, I guess.

15) What is something about your OC that makes you cry?

When they express their intimate feelings.

16) Is there some element you regret adding to your OC or their story?

No, I love them both.

17) What is the most recent thing that you’ve discovered about your OC?

Allison: she never washes her mug until she needs to use it again.

Sebastian: he is a clutter hoarder, and he hides everything in the drawer under his bed.

18) Favorite OC fact?

Allison: she is still a child inside despite all the bad things she was through.

I took the blades out of a razor. It almost made me sure I could get deeper scars and they’d hurt longer.

No self care routines and journals will keep you from damaging yourself if you need to feel pain. Or if you want to replace the mental pain with the physical one.

I did it to stop thinking of my fight with my closest person ever. He always tried to make me feel better, and I… Just didn’t think I deserved it. No matter how much I tried to make myself more productive and less depressed, it never helped. I’ve been bleeding for a long while, and it’s not about my scarred arm. I was just dying inside. Lots of diseases, depression, anxiety, made me hopeless and I just can’t change it. I think, hope isn’t all in our minds, it’s in our blood too. And when we bleed, we lose it even faster than we thought because we see we don’t get better.

I was laying in my bed and still felt the blood coming out of my wounds. A half of my towel was covered in red from my attempts to stop the bleeding, and I was glad I didn’t change into my pajama before getting in bed. Black hoodies hide the blood way better than thin pinkish sweatshirt.

I called him to ask if we were over, and when he heard me crying, his first question was, ‘What part of your body did you cut again?’. He knows me so well. But I lied and said I didn’t do anything because I knew he would do the same thing to himself.

I hid the blades inside of my shower sponge and I hope no one but me ever finds them.

I was afraid to go outside. I was afraid I’d commit suicide in some isolated park. That’s what I wanted to do, to kill myself outside the house. But it might get even harder. What, if reincarnation was real and the next life would be even harder? Would I get stuck in a suicide circle looking for a better place, a better situation? Or would it wake me up from a dream and give me a better life?

I wasn’t sure I was ready enough to check. You can call me too weak to die, or strong enough to live, I don’t care.

I just want everything to get back to normal.

1. Do not keep them in pairs. Hamsters are loners - keeping them together often results in stress, fighting, injuries and death. They are very happy alone. 

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2. Minimum cage size

dwarf hamsters: 30 x 20 x 20 inches (80x50x50cm);

bigger hamsters: 40 x 20 x 20 inches (100x50x50cm)!

NOT like this: 

Living in cages like this for them is like a human living in an elevator - a lot too small and even dangerous! 

For them it feels like this:

Behavior like this is a signal for stress because the cage is too small or that they need more bedding:

Better:

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3. Your hamster (always!) needs a hamster wheel - and it must be a lot bigger than you might think! 

Hamster must be able to run with a completely straight back

on a closed surface

with a closed back wall! 

NOT like this: 

Results of those wheels are: spine problems, backache, stress, injuries! 

Minimum wheel size for dwarf hamsters: 9-10 inches. 

Minimum wheel size for bigger hamsters: 12 inches! 

Better: 

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4. Do not buy them plastic tubes (at all): 

Those tubes are not suitable at all: Hamsters get stuck or suffocate in them easily. 

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5. Your hamster needs enough bedding to dig and build tunnels.

NOT like this:  

Better: 

Your hamster will be extremely happy and dig around and build tunnels all day (night). 

A study also found out that (golden) hamsters need up to 12-36 inches of bedding, so just do your best do give them the highest amount of bedding possible. :)

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6. The less plastic the better! 

NOT like this:

Plastic gets swallowed, splinters, can injure or even kill your hamster. 

Better: 

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7. Hamsters ALWAYS need a sand bath.

Hamsters love rolling around in the sand, for them it’s like showering. How would you feel without a shower? 

You can use those little baths as toilets, but you still need a bigger sand bath!

Better:

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8. Hamsters need a house with at least 2 or more chambers to store food, sleep etc. Also make sure that your hamster does have enough hiding places like coconuts, small houses, toilet rolls! 

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9. Do use unperfumed toilet paper for nesting material, don’t use “hamster wool” -> it can tangle around a limb and seriously hurt and even kill your hamster! 

NOT like this: 

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10. Never ever ever put your hamster or any animal in a hamster ball. 

They can’t get out, might suffocate or panic, might run against furniture and seriously injure themselves. The ventilation is terrible, your hamster can’t see/smell/hear enough or use any of their senses properly.

In some countries they even discuss about banning those by law! 

Even if you think that “your hamster has fun in it” - please don’t use them! 

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Please reblog and spread this information.

Pet stores often are very misinformed and sell terrible cages and have little to no idea how to keep a happy hamster - please be careful when trusting them. In the end they often just want to make money - and the hamsters suffer. 

Please adopt, not buy hamsters - there are too many hamsters in this world that we need any more breeding. 

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MASTERPOST: Cheap Cages And Supplies For Hamsters - IKEA

~ more to come ~

(Sorry for the spelling errors - I made this post in a rush.)

So, I thought I’d be a part of this. 

Tagging some mutuals: @unholyhaz @devin-marie @marvel-lock @spideywideysenses @spiderkat1248 @cautiouscalum @asmilinghopelessromantic

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