Don't wish on a star, reach for one!

It’s almost impossible to change someone’s mind using facts. 

This happens due to ‘motivated reasoning,’ a psychology term that refers to the way people usually believe whatever they want to believe and use the flimsiest piece of evidence to justify that belief, even when there is plenty of verified evidence to disprove it. 

1. Start by being kind and gentle with yourself. There are plenty of people who would love to criticise … So be your own protector and your own best friend.

2. Choose self-love over self-hate. Many people find they veer between these two extremes – but over time gravitate more towards one or the other (through automatic thinking and their inner dialogue) … So actively reject self-hatred, and consciously exercise self-love.

3. Stop being harsh and judgmental, and accept your imperfections. We’re all flawed and broken, and we all make bad mistakes.

4. Start enjoying who you are, and being comfortable with being alone with yourself. Embrace solitude, and the chance to be with “you”.