forever thinking about that girl at my uni orientation who, after being told to pour out her water bottle before entering an event, looked at me and said "they tell us to stay hydrated and then make us pour out our water, this is like totally kafkaesque" and then poured out what was very obviously an entire water bottle full of whiskey. hope she's doing well.

"protect trans kids" just means "begrudgingly support 17 year olds" a lot of the time.

also i think there is a larger issue at play here, which is how white-liberal ideology around the construction of "proper" behavior has done a number on how conflict vs. safety, and safety vs. comfort, are conceptualized in collective spaces, where for example any confrontation or interruption to actually address something potentially unsavory is seen as an escalation, borderline an act of violence the way it disrupts everyone having a good time, and "letting it slide"/moving past something/redirection is seen as a de-escalation and the righteous choice of "not taking the bait" or "being the bigger person" or whatever self-pat on the back. that is not what de-escalation is. conflicts and disagreements aren't inherently dangerous, and trying to prevent the existence of conflicts by entirely ignoring the issue because confronting it is uncomfortable and we do not want to "escalate" is not how safety is achieved.

But this is genuinely a shitty act against humanity.

you can make most fandom drama disappear with this one cool trick

GET THE FUCK OFF TWITTER

some of you dont actually love trans women you just want to fuck them. you’re not an ally you just have unresolved futanari fantasies

see the thing is that once you actually do believe that trans women and cis women are more similar than different everything sorta locks in. in this case, it's the idea that objectification and sexual attraction aren't any meaningful support for trans women, the same way they aren't for cis women. remember that trend a couple months ago with like, the guys who performatively carried around feminist literature to try to make themselves seem safe and approachable to women to try to get laid? it's kinda like that. you have to actually be a (trans)feminist you can't just do it for the sex

i hope every aroace person who is tired of romance and sex being falsely made out to be the center of everything has a good day today

When we choose to avoid history because it's Problematic or Says Bad Things, we are choosing to divorce ourselves from understanding how we came from that time to this one, which makes it even more likely for the cycle to repeat, with no one but a few people with shelves of old books aware that it's happened before.

Some people blame solely the racism (specifically against people with darker skin) and misogyny in fandom and the prioritizing of white guys on the Source Material. Then in Sinners the most popular guy is the white guy thats the personification of racism assimilation that doesn't appear in half the movie, a movie with 2 michael b jordans and increible black characters. In the locked tomb (book with mostly women) Silas and Colum, 2 white charas who are family and don't appear that much in the first book, have more fics than Coronabeth and Judith, a white woman and a black woman who keep appearing in the story and one of them canonically confessed her love to the other. In BG3 there is more fics with MC X Gortash (light skin bad guy that makes a tiny appearance in act 2 and then appears more in act 3) than MC X Wyll (Black guy who is literally one of the main characters in the game that is also impossible to skip, while you can completelly miss Astarion or Gale on accident). In Dragon Age: The Veilguard Davrin (the black guy) was the guy with less fics before the game was out when no one knew the characters so you couldn't judge in writing or content. In the Bridgerton show the most popular ship is the only main one who features 2 white people, etc etc like it just keeps happening and saying "its the source material, fandom just works with what it has" is just not true. And finding excuses why Every Time Actually It Makes Sense that the fandom would focus in the white guys no matter what show is justs doing mental gymnastic instead of admiting racism and misogyny exist everywhere, including fandom.

you can make anything aromantic. as a matter of fact, you should