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I was already thinking about how cool the loveless label is before what happened yesterday, when I was asked out to a date for the first time.

I saw "loveless" as something empowering, as a sign of protest. In a world so filled with amatonormativity and expectations, where our existence is questioned and we're told "you'll find the right one someday"

It's a big giant middle finger

"Fuck you I don't need that. And it's okay"

I do feel strong things for my friends, I had a strong squish at least twice in my life that made me question if I was truly aromantic

But is it love? I care about them, sure. But love has such romantic connotations. It's like I have to make up for my lack of any attraction and that's why I say I "love" my friends

Because in the eyes of society, I'd be just an unfeeling monster if I "didn't even love my own friends".

But you know what. I am human. And others are open to see me as not one. I am human and I know that. A human who is repulsed by sex and romance and isn't sure if the feelings for friends should be called love at all

It shouldn't matter. We don't need to broaden the definition of love so aromantics can be included. It's there because society thinks love is what makes us human and they are repulsed by the idea of other humans just not feeling it, that's why they have to make up reasons why they actually still are

Love is not what makes us human

I'm not sure if I completely qualify for loveless, since I do feel safety, admiration, fun, joy, support, concern, care, challenged with my friends

But "loveless" feels liberating

It's like taking off a mask and a promise to myself that I don't have to lie anymore

#aromantic #loveless #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #can other loveless people please comment on this?#aro

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ink-the-artist

the long awaited sequel

currentlycryingaboutlancelot

today I learned that in 2008, the city council of florence overturned dante’s sentence of execution if he returned from exile. yes, dante’s inferno dante, who died in 1321.

but the funniest part of this is not that they were debating the exile of a man who has been dead for over 500 years.

the funniest part is that the vote was 19-5. five people voted to uphold dante’s exile.

stabethadeathwhisper

The objectively funniest part of this is actually that the city that holds his remains, Ravenna, refused to give his remains back. This was a ploy from florence to have his remains moved back for the tourist money and its been ongoing for a long time. Florence had a fake tomb built in the city to trick people into visiting, and have tried to force the return of the remains.

His actual caretakers have been very steadfast in keeping them hidden, moved, or generally out of reach to respect his choice in life to never, ever, ever return to florence, even when he was first offered the chance to return. This is at this point an almost millenium long feud that florence is really, really mad about losing

mysteryteacup

so basically the five people who wanted to uphold his exile were in the right

real-language-facts

invented a new word today. its 'plagiarism'. im a genius i know

headspace-hotel

I think that starting to see the people around you as "NPC"s or as less complex or sentient than you are is the beginning of a dark path

And it starts with making jokes stereotyping people, even if they seem like silly stereotypes like "haha queer person with lots of piercings and silly name," but ACTUALLY it starts with seeing people around you as "types" of people at all

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mangora

Aromantic tumblr users will go “we need more aromantic characters” and fandom users will cheer like “yes, yes, of course! oh, splendid!” and then the aromantic users will be like “btw this semi-attractive main character is aromantic” and the fandom users all inhale sharply through their teeth with their fingers on their chins and go “um, romance favorable…right?”

ch0co-c0rn3t-lov3

DO NOT DOWNLOAD TUMBLR it will install a virus on your device called tumblr

alastor-insanity

Dude

#if I were Charlie this would bring me out of the panic attack so fast #just so I could scream and claw at this guy 😂

deactivating-s00n-deactivated20

tumblr users’ obsession with self-reporting (especially as a weird form of penance) needs to be studied

deactivating-s00n-deactivated20

you don’t need to tell the world you still like Harry Potter because it’s your comfort movie or because your dad read it to you when you were little or something like that in response to a post about the harm continued monetary support of Harry Potter causes. you don’t need to tell tumblr all the myriad of reasons you don’t like rap under a post about how rap is often misrepresented as ultra-violent or overtly sexual and misogynistic because of racism. No one on tumblr has to know anything about you. no one has to know you still read your old Harry Potter books or that the only rap artist you like is Eminem. No one is going to say “oh of course you’re the One True Good Person with a Good Reason!” when you say that rap is difficult to listen to because of your auditory processing disorder or you’re only a part of the Marauders fandom. Just keep your shit to yourself and don’t embarrass yourself under other peoples’ posts.

lebada

funniest possible reply and its not even on purpose

crimeronan

-charlotte zhang art installation at the alice gallery

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as per request, banana for scale

fagstaynight

some people on the internet have only been on here for five minutes

cowboyspones

i will never get over this one i’m afraid

indolentjellyfish

tiny glass aphid

aforest2006remaster

yesterday i made a beetle out of soda tabs and wire. we took the bus home.

whatstrangeloops

I liked this post so much I made a pair of my own!

grausampossum

My partner and I made our own too!

fantasmadebarovia

there is nothing more important than a dear friend you can be a huge fucking asshole hater with

fantasmadebarovia

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serafour

...What year is this?

I was wondering why no one is speaking up about this, but then realised I'll have to be the one.

Alastor in a straitjacket

I love Alastor but the image of Alastor in a straitjacket reinforces the harmful stigma that equates mental illness with being dangerous and evil.

The straitjacket is not even a hannibal lector reference without the mask, its just a straitjacket.

The straitjacket is a very triggering image for many people implying that those with mental illness are 'supposed' to be restrained.

The straitjacket is a negative symbol and icon for mental illness.

A few examples: It was removed from sims 4 as a instability icon

A Gucci straitjacket fashion show was famously protested in 2019.

In the UK and Australia government agencies have previously stepped in and removed straitjacket Halloween costumes from shelves.

This is actually distressful. Will there be a ton of Alastor cosplayers in straitjackets at public conventions, and will Amir the mental health advocate be posing with them??

I tentatively raised this in two discords. One person told me they did not know the historical context of the straitjacket at all until I explained it.

In another discord with 1000+ people, I receive 0 public responses and 7 dm's from distressed people.

They all said the same thing that they are afraid to speak out because the stigma is so strong.

(I have this person's permission to quote them) One of them confided that the straitjacket is very triggering image for them because of their mothers condition, which they keep secret because of the stigma. The stigma stereotype that is being reinforced by images like: a literal devil in a straitjacket.

Another said their 'heart sank when they saw it' 😟

Everyone is afraid of cosplay happening.

Everyone said they were relieved to see someone else say something about it.

The fanart isnt even being tagged as nc (which is where it belongs, niche interest for adults not marketed to teens in a major high street store.)

I'm really disappointed in the HH fanbase, because we've somehow created an environment where people feel they cant speak up about ableism and mental disability and stigma and suffer in silence.

I was excited to hear they changed something about the t-shirt and facepalmed when it was all about the shipping crap.

Our fanbase is one where the fans will launch a thousand ships if Husk has the wrong stripe on his hat but total radiosilence over ableist imagery and enforcing stigmas that hurt the vulnerable and it's starting to embarass me.

Even if there is no call for Hot Topic to change the t-shirt its painful to see no conversations surrounding it, with all the noise has been about the shipping instead of what matters.

Anyway I'm making this post for the upset people who dm'd me, and hoping to create at least one search result for 'straitjacket Alastor' that represents a different viewpoint. If you are also affected by this please reach out too.