A warning to my Exâs future partner
Iâve been sitting on this for a long time. I didnât know if I wanted to post about it or not. Iâve aired a lot of my dirty laundry on Facebook in regards to my ex-husband and our failed marriage. However, what I cannot get past is my silence before put the reputations, lives and families of no less than 16 women in danger. So, here we go.
This might be a long one.
Some backstory:
In 2002 I met Briggs of Scunthorpe, England. We had an online relationship for a year or so off and on. He always found reasons to end the relationship but at the same time manipulating me into thinking he wanted something. I was a really stupid and lonely teenager. The final nail in the coffin came when I went into the hospital and found out that I have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome). I was told by the doctors at the time that I wouldnât be able to have children (this comes into play) because of the PCOS. I know now thatâs not true, itâs just going to be more difficult. However, after telling Drew this he dumped me then and there for the last time because he wanted a family. Drew enjoys maiesiophilia (he has a fetish for pregnant women).
Drew eventually married another American girl. She moved to the UK where she lived with him for nearly a decade. I stopped talking to him and in general forgot about him until Facebook took off. I reconnected with friends from the community where we met. It was pretty fantastic seeing how everyone went on to become amazing people. Unfortunately with this reconnection came Drew. I added him, but rarely talked to him. He tried pulling the pity card with me one time in 2011 when he and his wife were having issues. I didnât pay attention much because I didnât want to get sucked back in. I told him to fight for his marriage if thatâs what he really wanted. If not, end it and call it a day. It was another year before he said anything else to me.
I was going through a rough patch and so was he. For whatever reason I we started talking again. I talked to him on Skype and still to this day I cannot figure out why I suddenly turned back into that stupid fifteen year old girl from when we first met. He sucked me back in. The marital troubles between him and Mandy came to a head and they divorced. I went to visit the end of 2012 and we rekindled our relationship.
I travelled to England again at the beginning of 2013. Once there, Drew stole my passport. He did not want me to leave. I didnât say anything and lied to my friends and family about why I wasnât going back to the US. He caused so much drama in my life that I lost my job and my place to live. I was trapped but the damage was done and I was on my own.
On June 13th, 2013 I made the dumbest decision of my life and I married him. I should have known how this would go when I had to take myself out of my own wedding dress and spent my wedding night in my pajamas cat sitting our neighborâs cats while he played Microsoft flight simulator.
The relationship was horrible. I hid my sadness from everyone and went along with his childish behaviors because I felt I deserved this. I had a few good friends and support in his family, but overall I was miserable as hell.
We had a fight one night. He went to bed, I stayed up drinking putting files and bills together because I was the adult in the relationship. I was using Drewâs computer (mine was broken) and I found a weird email address. Knowing he had a history of hiding credit cards and bills I checked the address to make sure that he wasnât hiding anything. I only found a few ârole playsâ and random porn while looking.
I didnât think to look in the âSentâ folder at all (this was apparently where all the activity was as he cleaned up/deleted a lot from the inbox) I was looking for activity for a hidden credit card or line of credit somewhere. There wasnât any activity on it since we got married (in the inbox) so I let it go. I kept a copy of the username and password and in a file on my flash drive with the bill passwords and what not.Â
In November of 2014 I decided to go back to the US and try to get my own visa to be able to work in the UK so I wasnât dependent on him and we could have more than a few pounds to live off of after bills. Being Catholic I didnât believe in divorce so I wanted it to work. He lost his job and lied to me. He wouldnât answer my phone calls and wouldnât make time to talk. I was done. I told him I wanted a divorce at the beginning of 2015.
Flash forward to 2016 and Iâm going through files and putting together my divorce papers and making sure my name was taken off of all of the bills (I had asked him to do it and found out he hadnât). I find the flash drive with the email and bill passwords/logins. I couldnât remember what one of them was as I apparently didnât label it. Also, I was really drunk. I got the shock of my life when I logged in. I remembered what email it was almost immediately and thereâs recent activity starting from when I came home in 2014.
Going back as far as early 2010âs, Drew had been sending photos off to an e-mail address (âbelly burstersâ) and had them shopped to fit his specific sexual fetish: maiesiophilia (pregnant women).
Drew took it upon himself to collect the pictures of women close to him. These were women who were friends, in-laws, the girlfriends of his close friends, and friends of his ex-wives. He took these pictures from Facebook, Tumblr, our wedding photos, some were private (we were married after all), and several of them were stolen from one womanâs laptop after Drew offered to fix it for her. He basically took photos from whereever he could get them.
Several of the photos were of his ex-sister-in-law who was only 15 years old. Drew also carried around a photo of her in his wallet. He had a very weird obsession with her. Another was only 13 (the same woman he stole the photos from). Every one of the photos were manipulated for his own pornography collection which he shared with other people.
Drew also personally shopped two of the womenâs faces onto porn modelâs bodies and circulated them as well. These women have been victimized enough and I will not go into the details of their photos. Suffice to say they are mothers, teachers, and women with professions and reputations that could be destroyed because of this.
Amidst all of this with the other womenâs photos I found that Drew had taken our wedding photo and had it shopped as well. He spread it around while pretending to be me. He started an online relationship with a man in the US while posing as me. He sent the photos of the women and of myself to the man while telling him not to show anyone else and to keep it between them.
When the other man asked Drew if he wanted to Skype (keep in mind he is pretending to be me) Drew always made up an excuse as to why he couldnât. Drew told this man that âIâ was pregnant with âDrewâsâ child. âDrewâ was an LCP in the British military and was injured in Iraq. He sent this man pictures of himself as âproofâ when the âproofâ was just photos of Drew at an airsoft course. (Drew also now claims disability benefits and doesnât workâŚbut he can afford airsofting equipment).
There was also a nice story traded around where âDrewâ raped âMeâ in an airport bathroom. Other photos of myself he used were from varying times in my life, many of them from when he was married to his first wife and we werenât together at all. More of them were from when I started losing weight and sent him photos. A proud moment of my life and he turned it into fetish porn.
Nice guy, huh?
I spent a month putting all of the photos together, matching the emails with the woman in them and trying to track them all down. I notified them all as well as confronting Drew about the account. He admitted to it and in the same e-mail asked me if we could keep this between us. He then messaged everyone involved and the only things he was concerned with was if they could still be friends.
I apologized over and over to the women involved for not having put a stop to the account when I found it.
He never apologized. Not once.
As a group, we decided to file a police report with Humberside Police in the UK. I really want to thank them for taking us seriously and looking into this. They could have laughed at us and not looked into it at all. We were really hopeful. We spoke with a detective and she took all the information we had. It was in their hands. We were so hopeful.
For the first time Drew would be held responsible for his actions. For the first time he would have to own up to what he did. For the first time there was no way he could wiggle his way out of trouble. For the first time he wasnât going to be able to be bailed out. Our hopes were so high.
Then we were dealt some devastating news. There was no crime. They spoke to Drew and told him he was very close to being put onto a sex offenderâs list. The detective told us that he was âremorsefulâ and it seemed like he wouldnât do it again.
This is the thing about Drew Briggs; He has NEVER been held responsible for ANYTHING he ever does. Something always comes along and bails him out. He has no sense of responsibility. At all. So much so, I deal with his saint of a mother over the divorce because it âstresses him outâ too much. He is a 32 year old male and his mother handles everything for him. She is a very kind woman who puts up with so much insanity from him. She deserves better than the hell he puts her though. But she is a mother. A motherâs love is deep and I can understand her support of him. That doesnât change how I feel about her.
The reasoning behind this rambling rant is simple: He got away with it in the eyes of the law. Heâs completely free from this. Yet those pictures remain out there somewhere and thereâs nothing stopping him from doing this again. I want people to be aware of this.
With everything going on in the world today, where womenâs rights are being called into question and everything we do is scrutinized and weâre constantly held responsible for the actions of others against us⌠I want there to be something out there telling OUR side of the story. His photos werenât used as spank bank material. His reputation isnât on the line. His safety wasnât put into jeopardy. If we have to be held accountable for every little thingâŚso should he.
I talked to a few women about thisâŚand each one agreed to put the story out there.
This is not the ravings of a crazy ex-wife. This is the truth with so much evidence to back every claim up. I put every bit of this in our divorce papers in the hopes that the next girl he cons into being with him will at least have a warning.
Drew Briggs of Scunthorpe, North Lincolnshire, England is not a man to be trusted.
Drew is an avid gamer on steam. Â
Steam ID# Doryu Fanael
76561197989588355
Heâs also gone by several different names on there:
Ass Smarse
Sames Junderland
faszkalap kapitĂĄny
The Filth Wizard Bropunzel
Bropunzel
Oberst Doppelpunkt
Captain Drex
Brother Drex
His tumblr is http://lenientbees.tumblr.com
He may have opened another facebook account under the name Wojtek Bear or Bear Wojtek. Drew also has been known to  be part of the Furry community and identifies as a bear. He usually uses the name Wojtek or Bear Wojtek or some variant. He is obsessed with Russians and their culture/language. Drew will claim he speaks many languages but in reality, he can barely speak English.
Drew may or may not have long, bleached blond hair. He fancies himself a copy of Solid Snake from Metal Gear and could possibly have a mullet.Â
UPDATE: Drew has apparently moved from Scunthorpe to Hull. This is second hand information so I am unsure how reliable it is. But there was a report of a giant skip outside our old home full of trash and rats.
UPDATE: Apparently, Drew has been engaged 3 times since we divorced and is currently engaged to a Psychiatric Nurse in Hull. For her sake, I really hope the message of what a life destroying piece of shit he is reaches her. Everything about our marriage and the things he did are included in our divorce papers. Itâs all there, black and white and I still have every shred of evidence to back it up.
UPDATE: It's three years exactly since the divorce papers had been finalized. I'll keep updating this for as long as I need to. It's been speculated that he's living in Lincoln. We're not 100% sure as he's not spoken to his family sans his mother (99.9% of the time its for money) in years. Just be safe if you come across him. He's just trash to the highest degree.












