One time I was in Manhattan and I had a lot of walking to do and I was bored and was thinking about this gifset and I thought, huh, lets try it. So I did and I was thinking queenly, murderous thoughts and trying to see if people were more willing to get out of my way when I walked like this and then, I watch a guy pass me, do a double take, then a triple take.

Then he engages me in polite conversation for a block or two, tells me I have beautiful hair, then asks me out of drinks. 

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Honestly, Im not the person to ask about escorting. My ways of doing things would make other people piss themselves.

But, I’ll try….this is based on my experence.

Online Escorting is the fastest and most recent way to start. You get a cheap EscortSite website, a gmail, a $15 virgin or boost mobile phone, put up and ad of Backpage or Eros and your good to go.

I didnt start like that….And to this day I hate that kind of thing.

You can spend THOUSANDS before you get your first client if you not a DD cup, tall leggy (or ultra tiny) Scandinavian Blonde with Blue Eyes offering anal at $200 an hour. Okay thats extreme but what I’m trying to get at is that if you want to get somewhere with escorting you need a BIG investment to start with.

There a girl I know, Started about a year ago now, won’t say how much exact but you need only look at her site to know she must have spent maybe 10K to just launch.

A Custom VedaWeb Site - 1,500ish

Full Length Eros Film Video - 8,000ish (just to film, add in location and its closer to 9, she had a nice place)

Designer Clothes (she was high end, $800 an hour) - maybe 2K?

Photography - 300 (she ran out of money at this point and used Aldo Antonio, lol)

Personal assistant - $500 a week

Did I just go over 10K? That didnt even include ads…

Some girls take selfies, charge 350 and jump into the review boards and call it a day untill they get enough capital. I personally think review boards are toxic and a waste of time. The men there try to control prices all while making you deliver more and more. I went that route at 300 an hour and will never do it again. The amount of times I got blackmailed for good reviews…ugh..Then men don’t want to be screened thinking their review handle is ‘enough’……They do that so they can later blackmail/bribe/weasel their way out of things. If they stiff you, you have nothing but an easily discarded handle to post.

I’m not good at internet escorting….too saturated and frustrating for me. But if your smart about it, it can work for you…I guess…

I make my money in person. I work hotels, bars, casinos, restaurants, heck bookstores and coffee shops and parks and gyms.. If its a place that costs money to be in or has monied men, I’m there.

I’m a very shy/reserved person but it still doesn’t stop me. I dress up in my Donna Karan suit and browse the business or finance section or the New Release sections of a book store and pass out my card to any man who looks too long. I always go the bookstores in higher end places so 8/10 they have money even if they dont look like it.

The info on my card leads them to my website where they get the full monty on who they are dealing with, sometimes they call, sometimes they don’t. When they don’t, I get an email 2 weeks to a year later stating how they have followed my blog and have not stopped thinking on me and every romantic piece of shit you can think on. They make booking right there and then, and every week, 2 week, month, 3 months after. Sometimes it evolves into a friends with monetary benefits thing. They need a last minute date, I get 3K and a whole new outfit and the opportunity to be introduced to new men. If I didn’t work for a month and couldn’t pay my rent, one text and it’s paid for 3 months. 

A few days each week, when ever the heck I feel like it, I waltz into a hotel bar for a drink and eyeball all the men with a smile, eventually one sits close enough and either they talk to me or I turn into a brain dead fool or stunning intellectual and chat them up. Its whatever seems like it will get them to relax around me and respond. They always ask me to come up to their room and I always ask them to give me a reason to. Some do the whole “Arn’t we friends?” to which I say “My friends take care of me” and/or walk away. Some literally open their wallets and I just take what I want. 

I always keep these places on rotation, depending on the city I’m in. I never go to the same place more than 3 times a month unless I’m cool with the head of staff or someone important. To become known is to invite trouble unless your known by the right people. I know a guy who owns a Michelin Star restaurant, you better believe I get free meals If I ask him to hook me up. (I’ve also introduced him to lady friends of mine for other guys but thats a whole different thing)

Also, I guess its important to note that I don’t really get “clients” per say…I get “friends”. A client can abandon you at any given moment, a friend will most likely save your ass when you need it.

It works better for me this way. I don’t get stiffed or cheated, I’m never worried about who I’m with, I make a predictable amount each month and even though I’m on constant alert for dry spells, I honestly have not had one for a LONG while. When one city is dry, I just go to another. Often times I can get a guy to pay for it. The rest of the time someone is just inviting me over. I have never really paid for a ticket to anywhere. Bus, Train, Plane, Ship, never….In fact the only type of transport I have ever paid out of pocket with no reimbursement for in my WHOLE LIFE is the NYC MTA and the Singapore MRT. I actually hate taxis and other things if I have to pay for them. Even with the NYC MTA I think I have maybe spent about $100 in the past 2 years on going around. Not sure but its not much, and I’m here pretty frequent.

I don’t do anything for free. Even if someone just had me travel to them to lounge around their pool I still expect my going rate for it, if I don’t get it within the first few hours, I leave. Sometimes though if someone buys me something I want I wait longer but I have my limits. Money is the #1 thing to me. Someone can buy me a Birkin but if I don’t get the money I came for I have no problem leaving - with the Birkin too.

Naturally, when you make these men more like friends than clients you can get into fights. Oh well, I just try to quench it ASAP. But one thing I never do is return gifts. I hear about girls throwing things at men or returning it and I’m just like “Bitch are you NUTS???” The Fuck you have to show for all that you did for that man? If something bothers me too much to keep I sell it, simple. The man would need to get a lawyer on my ass to get ANYTHING back and I would be rude enough to send him my own lawyers bill if he went that far. Only once has something went that far, a guy had bought a half cute Range Rover for me that I didn’t like and shit escalated and he sued me for what I don’t remember. I just got a good lawyer, threw crazy shit about him in his face got the case dismissed and then sent him the bill. He paid without a word and I sold the Range. A big factor in this was that he didn’t even really know me but I knew everything on him down to medical history and Middle school bed wetting. I always try to do that with each guy.

Another type of escorting I did when I was 17 was with Truckers. I had graduated from HS at 15-16 and was so lost. I went to school but hated it. I had a older guy friend who did trucking and asked me to come on a ride with him, I went and got $500 for it. I didn’t even do much, just talked, made jokes, whatever to pass the time. I got hooked quickly and started handing out cards to guys at Rest stations, I asked for as low as 200 to as high as 4K. It was fun, I got to see alot of the US on Land. I only did it when I had breaks however and also with only select guys. Id have lunch or coffee or just something social first because alot of guys were creepy. I took the least creepy I could. lol.

I have done so much from such a young age that I don’t even remember most. 

I can’t really help you with which site is the best to advertise on or where you should plant yourself at what bar in what city. I learned what I did by just going out and being ballsy all by myself. Also there is knowing who to know, which I think is luck.

For example, when I went to Dubai I had a fellow respected escort prep me big time before I went. I met her in NYC RANDOMLY. I had seen her online ads and I loved her look, so imagine my surprise when I head to a bar and see a stunning woman sitting around who looks like the same woman online…..I sat next to her and said “Hey is your name……..?” When she said yes, I made a fool of myself telling her how I loved her pictures, her site and we clicked right there. We even did a double the next night, it was awesome. But that meeting was PURE LUCK.

Also in terms of sugar. Do you do online only? Nobody….NOBODY worth knowing is gona have a profile on Seeking Arrangement, all the men there are escort client rejects in my opinion. If a man with money wants a woman he is either gona ask a friend, go to a elite agency / find an elite girl, go to a matchmaker or try his luck in a bar/lounge( or other social place). Your best bet to meeting a serious, respectful, WEALTHY man is the bar/lounge. I have met members of congress, celebrities, super CEO’s and all kinds of men in bars and lounges. The only problem is that you have to go in with a mindset. Are you an escort or are you a sugar baby? There can be no middle ground. A sugar baby is not going to have sex with a man because he offers her 1K right there, that means your an escort. Many ladies mix the two up when they are vastly different means of playing the game.

As a sugar baby your trying to get this man to fund your whole life, as an escort you need him only for an hour for your quota.

No man wants an obvious ho for a mistress, he doesn’t want to know you have 5 others or you work the circuits, thats terrifying to him. He just wants one cute lady to spoil and adore who makes him feel like he is the only one / who makes him feel like a hero /a man

As an escort you ALWAYS meet the “Captain Save A Ho’s” who want to ‘save’ you from this life. If you get a good one, they will fund you and be at your beck and call - so long as you quit escorting.

For a popular example look at V Stiviano. How did she meet DTS? A friend / at Super Bowl, How did she snare him? Girl, dropped her Johns & Peters and told DTS she was all his exclusively. How she kept him so long? Pussy goes only so far, did you see that vid of her and DTS where they are going to a club to “PARTY!”, she provided that man with experiences he would have NEVER done/had on his own. Im not gona go into the downfall but this is the basic structure of how it works. Simple.

Men have different ways that they want to “Save” you. Some just want to throw money at you, some want to help you build a business and watch you grow but its still the same deal. Just know what you want and know where to go to get it. You want to be in Finance, you better start Living on Wall St. You want to be a movie star? You better get to 90201. Pampered Wife Life? Try CT or MA. Political Animal? Ms.Pope whats your DC address?

Here’s a list of advice and tips from various sugar babies. This will work for newbies, and sex workers too. I’ll be updating this list often on my profile so go here for more. 

» 10 Questions To Ask a Potential Sugar Daddy Before Starting an Arrangement 

» How To Be a Pure Sugar Baby

» How To Become a Sugar Baby

» How To Stand Out As a Sugar Baby

» A List of Sugar Sites To Check Out

» How To Stay Safe While Being a Sugar Baby

» How To Be a Kept Woman

» How To Ask For Gifts

» The First Date: 10 Tips To Help You Master the Art of the Sugar Date

» How To Respond to Someone Who Calls You a Prostitute

» 100 “Non Allowance” Questions To Ask Your Pot Or Sugar Daddy 

» How To Cheat Your Way Through Intelligent Small Talk

» Free Background Check Website

» How to Get a Job In The Luxury Industry 

» Why Sugar Babies Are The Next Generation Of Entrepreneurs 

» Internet Safety For Sugar Babies

» Sugar Survival Kit

» Literature For Starting Sugar Babies

» Freestyling Guide 

» What Makes a Successful Sugar Baby

» 5 Questions To Ask Before Agreeing To An Allowance Offer

» What To Say To Get The Allowance You Want

» The Sugar Baby Mentality 

» Allowance Talk

» Closet Classics Checklist

» 100 Ways To Be Elegant 

» Sugaring Research Resources 

» Creating The Perfect Profile

» What To Do With Your Allowance

» Common Sugar Baby Acronyms 

» The Psychology Of Persuasion 

» Invest In Yourself

» What To Pay Attention To On Dates

» Let’s Talk Budgeting

» Online Safety 

» What Is a Sugar Baby?

» How To Spot a FAKE Sugar Daddy

» The First Date

» Allowance & Bank Laws

» I Am Not Attracted To My Sugar Daddy

» Plus Size Sugar Baby

» Sugar Baby Shopping Tips

» The Married Sugar Daddy: Guide To Being The Other Woman

» Underage Sugar Baby: 17 & Under

» Sugar Baby With a Baby

» The Rules Of The Sugar Baby Job

» Tip For Traveling Sugar Babies

» Meeting Your First POT

» How To Handle The First Date

» Best Apps And Websites For A Sugar Baby

» The Ultimate Guide To Being A Sugar Baby

» How To Disappear Online

» The Stress Test

» “What Are You Looking For?”

» Ways To Say “No” Politely 

» What To Wear While Shopping With A SD

» Income vs Allowance 

» The Master Sex Worker TV Marathon

» New Sugar Babies, Please Read This

» How To Weed Through Messages & Profiles From A Sugar Site

» Travelling With Your SD

» More Tips For New Sugar Babies

» Hardcore Online Security For Sugar Babies

» Turning A Man Into A Sugar Daddy 

» More Safety Tips. These Could Save Your Life

» Hustle Is A Euphemism For Manipulation 

» Red Flags

» MORE SAFETY TIPS

» Tips On Messaging Someone

» This Lifestyle Isn’t For Everyone

» Free Online Safety Tool

» Red Flags On Sugar Dating Sites

» A Word About Sex And Sugar Daddies

» Calculating The Maximum Allowance A Man Can Give You Based On His Income And Taxes

» Researching Your SD Or POT

» Cash Tips

» Making A Set List Of Your Rates

» What To Say If A POT Date Is Salty And Cheap 

» Sugar Baby Shopping Tips

» 1 Sentence, 7 Different Ways

» 5 Newbie Sugar Baby Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

» Establishing And Arrangement With A Pot

» A Few Tips

» Protecting Yourself

» Messaging A Sugar Daddy 

» When Is It Right To Start Sugaring?

» Control Your Speech

» Never Lower Your Standards For A Pot

» The Money: How To Make Good Money

» A Successful Sugar Baby

» Sugaring Mistakes

» Money 101

» 5 Ways To Showcase Yourself To Your Sugar Daddy

I’m sorry, but I’m tired of seeing you hoes have the same generic sugar baby profiles and wonder why you’re not getting the responses that you want! We always talk about what “sugar daddies” like to mention on their profiles, but we don’t discuss what sugar babies mention on their profiles that no one gives a fuck about or is a lie. 

Sugar daddies don’t give a damn if you’re “hard-working” or you like to volunteer at animal shelters. You need to make your overall profile stand out from the rest and get the money you deserve from these men! You have to sell yourself as a sexy fun bombshell that every rich man wants to have and will pay for. Men are more focused on how good you look and how you can add to their social lives, save mentioning your volunteer work or your love to read for when you already reeled in a POT and you’re already on your date. You cannot sound boring on your profile, sex sells honey! I got time tonight and I turned on my Pandora, so I’m going to give you tips and tricks on how to have a bomb ass profile bitch!

Avoid using these words/phrases on your “about me” sugar profile:

I’m hard-working

I’m a student in college

I like to work out/I’m fit

I like to (insert generic interest or hobby like read or cook)

I like to go out

I don’t go out a lot

I like to travel

I hope to have a career in ______

I’m _____ years old/I’m young

I’m a princess

I love to be spoiled/pampered

I like to go shopping

What to include in your photo section:

There’s a whole new way of writing your profile to make yourself stand out and attract legitimate SDs, and it involves photos. Anybody can talk shit about how great or attractive they are, but you have to show it to get the results you want on sugaring profiles. Walk the walk, not just talk the talk. For example, instead of mentioning how “fit” you are, show how fit you are in your profile photos! Post at least 2 body pictures, one from the torso up, and another a full body shot. Make sure you look sexy and showing some skin, wearing flattering clothes that accentuates your features or a nice swimsuit. You’re a bad bitch with full lips and smooth skin or “exotic” facial features? Show that face off in your profile pictures. Have one or two selfies with a nice glam makeup look and one photo with a natural makeup look. I’ll make another post on how to take and edit photos for sugar profiles in the future. Don’t just mention how attractive you are in your profile, prove it with clear, nice photos as well. Bonus: Keep two or three “private” risque or swimsuit photos of yourself for serious POTs only. Don’t give away private access to your photos to men who can’t even properly introduce themselves. Private photos adds mystery to your profile and can attract more men.

What to include in your “about me” section:

I cannot stress this enough, YOU HAVE TO REALLY SELL YOURSELF! You are the product and you have to convince these men that you are the one they want. It’s best to build up your persuasive writing skills in order to have the best profile you can. 

Instead of mentioning a bland and generic “I like to go out”, give examples of how you like to go out. Saying, “I spend my leisurely weekends on the roof tops of the best bars in the city and sailing on a yacht in my favorite red bikini, maybe you can join me?”, sounds a lot more exciting than “I like to go out and have fun”. It’ll give the POT an idea of what you really like to do and he’ll be willing you invite you out on a yacht so he can see that red bikini in real life. Your college major is nursing? So say, “Helping and taking care of others are a few of my life passions, so nursing became my college major. Let me nurse you when you’re feeling sick or is stressed from your busy career and personal life, by being your fun sugar baby.” 

You’re smart and educated? Say, “I am current on world events and I can engage in intellectual conversations on several topics that can enlighten us both.” You have to include that POT into your interests/hobbies and your social life. He has to imagine himself doing your favorite interests/hobbies with you. If you don’t like going out, it sounds a lot better just to say, “Who needs to go out when we can make our own fun indoors with a nice cooked meal and cuddle while watching a great movie!” You like to travel? Say, “Let’s spend our summers in the Caribbean with cocktails and enjoying the view of the beautiful blue beach and sun.” Get it now?

What to include in your “what I’m seeking” section:

Now this is the part you can mention how you struggling to pay tuition or need help with rent, but please don’t come off as demanding, picky, and most importantly, desperate! Don’t say, “I need help paying for student loans/college tuition”, say, “I’m seeking a generous man that sees the value and importance of a college education, and would love to invest in me to reach my goals and start a successful career.” Please for the love of God, Allah, and Buddha, don’t say, “I want to be spoiled like a princess and go shopping everyday”, that is cringe-worthy as fuck! You sound like an entitled brat. Instead, just say, “Don’t like shopping? I can make the experience a lot more fun and sexy for you as I try on dresses, heels, and lingerie for you while shopping downtown. I can become your personal shopper and spark your closet with clothes that will make you look great!” You want to have your own business? Say something like, “I am seeking to have a business-minded SD that would love to invest in my future business endeavors in _____.” The point is to convince the POT/SD to spend his dough on you and that he will be getting something in return other than sex, like appreciation and gratification. Mention how you will show your appreciation and add value for the right man that takes care of you, by showing physical affection and by other means. That’s the point of a mutually beneficial arrangement. Make sure to put a disclaimer that intimacy will occur organically and when an arrangement is in place, SA salts are notorious for expecting sex on the first date, especially without paying you cash. A real SD is not going to rush into sex and has to prove his worthiness by spending cash in order to get it.

Two last things, keep the basic information like your age, location, and lifestyle budget out of the about me section. That information is already stated when you initially filled in your profile. Last but not least, if you’re using Seeking Arrangements, don’t ever ever ever put “negotiable” as your lifestyle budget, that will attract the low and gutter men of the websites. Always have it at least on moderate.

Now go get that money and the man you deserve!

Below are the top five questions I usually get asked and the templates and translations of how i generally respond.

1.”Have you ever had a sugar daddy before?”

- Yes, I’ve had a successful long term arrangement before.

* this lets him know you are experienced and trying to play you will be difficult.

2.”What was your last arrangement like?”

- It was great, we met a few times a month. He was a absolute gentleman. We traveled together and attended events sometimes. I received a monthly allowance, and my expenses were covered for events and travel.

*this lets him know you expect to be treated respectfully, can adapt to different environments and gives him a expectation of your financial expectations. Also this lays of the blueprint of the arrangement you want.

3.”What’s the worst thing that’s ever happened to you?”

-I’ve only had pleasant experiences, I only tolerate respectful and generous men. Anything else is not up to my standards and will not be tolerated.

*that should be self explanatory.

4.”Have you ever met with a man for (x amount lower than your minimum)?

-Yes I am happy to platonically meet for (previously mentioned amount) over dinner or coffee to get to know each other better. Until you are comfortable with an arrangement. I also require my travel expenses to be covered (gas).

* I’m not fucking or meeting you for free, they usually give up and don’t respond.

5.”I get tested regularly and don’t mess with sluts. Lol. So we can fuck raw baby.”

-To protect my health, I will not have unprotected sex. This arrangement will not work.

I learned from a very young age to make people believe about me exactly what I want them to. I learned how to walk, sit, move, and even eat in a way that makes me seem in complete control of myself and my surroundings, even when I’m feeling completely overwhelmed and out of place. I learned to hide my anxieties and insecurities in a way that everyone thought I was always calm and put together. I also learned how to get people to trust me and tell me everything about them by masterfully displaying those very weaknesses. I’ll share some of my tips tonight, these tips might help you seem in complete control, help you get what you want and even who you want ;)

WHEN YOU’RE ALONE AMONGST A LOT OF PEOPLE - If you’re alone don’t stress about the fact that you are, don’t worry about looking like a loser because you won’t. > When you’re alone be sure to keep your posture. ALWAYS TAKE NOTE OF YOUR POSTURE. I cannot stress how important your posture is. Look up how to keep a proper posture. >Snack slowly and take small bites, small and assured sips of your drink. Not too slow, just measure yourself. > Learn how to strut. When you walk across the room to sit, to snack, or just anywhere, don’t slack on your walking. Chin up, stare straight ahead, perfect posture, and have a very slight smile. The world is your catwalk, and yes people will be paying attention when you least notice it.

WHEN SOMEONE APPROACHES YOU - If they’re a close friend you don’t have to worry much about how to talk to them because you know them, but your behavior still matter. > When talking to them make sure you pay close attention to them and what they’re saying. No extreme reactions, unless they truly said something shocking. > Smile a lot, let others see that you can be approachable. Also, they’re your close friend you should be smiling anyway. - If they’re someone you barely know then just breathe in, smile, release your breath slowly and greet them politely. > Ask then questions about their life you have some knowledge about. Ask about their family, pets, children, partners, work/school, make sure they’re the ones speaking more than you are. - If they’re a stranger wait until they’re immediately in your personal space to acknowledge them, then meet and greet them only after they have directly addressed you. Keep an easy smile on your face, and when meeting them change your smile according to the impression you want to make (dazzling smile to charm, smirk to seduce, smile politely for anyone else). > For strangers you don’t know anything about them, ask them about things you are at least somewhat curious about. Ask them about their current standing in terms of job and or studies. Ask them about family and hobbies. Anything you would like to know or need to know to get some info on them. > Make a lot of eye contact, but not too much, but make sure to keep your attention on them. Make them feel that you care about what they’re saying.

WHEN YOU’RE IN A GROUP Besides all the other things about posture, eye contact and smiling, when you’re in a group this is where the whole “pay them complete attention” does not apply. In a group make sure to pay attention to everyone speaking, let everyone have a turn at your attention. People who were steamrolled out of a conversation you ease them back in either by giving them your attention and let them speak to you directly, or if you’re feeling bold politely call out the person or people who steamrolled over them by calmly stating “I’m sorry to interrupt but [their name] was speaking, I want to know what they were going to say.” Don’t do that if you don’t feel confident, or if you care about possibly offending others, you should still operate within your comfort zone so that you can portray a genuine look of collected confidence.

NOW YOU’RE IN, HOW TO GET THEM TO TRUST YOU - This is when you can start showing people bits of your true self. You should have real stories and anecdotes ready for when you get the chance to use them. - Real stories and anecdotes are crucial because believe it or not people are actually adept at intuitively spotting liars. If the stories and anecdotes are real, with genuine feeling attached to them, they can’t spot any lies because they will be the truth. - Manipulating people is not about lying, it’s about using the truth to your advantage. Avoid lying and avoid exaggerating, so that everything you say and do is genuine. - The stories and anecdotes you use must have some connection to the context of the conversation or the person you’re with. Don’t bust out a story of a dying pet when the person you’re with never even had a pet. Don’t talk about how you once failed an exam when the conversation was about this concert he went to with his friends last week. Talk about things in context, and if you have no material for a certain context then don’t stress, you don’t need to have something to say for everything. For every time you talk to them only share one personal story, avoid using more because then that shows too much of you. - You want to show some humanity, but not too much because you want them to still believe that you’re some ethereal and strong entity that could probably crush them if they cross any lines.

This is the part of my guide that wanted to delete itself out of nowhere, so this is a rewrite. It’s under a readmore as well.

I’ve been saying that college is obsolete for a very long time. I dropped out in 2000, because even back then I could see that it was a really poor value proposition. I didn’t predict this because I’m some crazy genius, but because I’m willing to discard emotional attachment and stare plainly at the facts.

School is oturageously expensive, leaving graduates with a debt (or net expenditure) of tens of thousands of dollars– sometimes even one or two hundred thousand. There are some things that are worth that amount of money, but for many people school isn’t one of them. In fact, apart from very specific cases, I think that school is a bad thing, not worth doing even if it was free.

That’s not to say that school has no benefits whatsoever. It does, and although I left with zero additional skills after my three semesters there, I had a good time and benefited from the social aspect. The problem is that you can’t just compare college to doing nothing at all. You have to compare it to what you COULD have done.

Let’s say that when you turn eighteen, it’s a good idea to take four years to develop yourself. College is one way to do that. If we were to construct an alternative way to do that, what could it look like? One of the biggest weaknesses of school is how inflexible it is, so one of the greatest benefits of designing your own curriculum is that you could come up with one that uniquely suits you. That said, here’s a plan that I think would benefit many people MORE than school would. Let’s call it the Hustler’s MBA.

1. Learn poker. To an outsider, poker seems like a form of degenerate gambling. It can be, but that’s not its nature. One of the most valuable skills I’ve learned in life is how to assess hundreds of factors, choose the important ones, evaluate them to make a decision quickly, and then execute that decision. Poker teaches this extremely well. So does pickup, incidentally. Poker develops your logic like nothing else I’ve experienced, and it develops your math skills to a lesser degree. It also teaches a skill I can’t quite define, but would best describe as learning how hard you can push. I’ve found all of these skills to be very useful in life.

Poker will cost you money at first. Let’s say $5000 in the first year. After that you’ll be able to make between $45-60 per hour for the rest of your life. That’s about $85,000 per year, which adjusts for inflation because as money is inflated, the stakes to keep the game interesting will go up. You will also receive “raises” because you’ll always improve as a player and be able to play better stakes. If you’re dedicated to poker, getting this good is virtually guaranteed. I’ve been through the process and it’s not particularly hard. Can school guarantee you a job that pays this well?

Besides being able to make $85k/year, you could also play for six months and make $40k a year. Ultimate flexibility. I don’t think that poker is the best career in the world, because it doesn’t give back to society, but I do think that it’s an excellent backup plan. Knowing that I can always support myself playing poker gives me the freedom to work on big projects without fear.

2. Travel a lot. For the first year, learn a foreign language that interests you. Start with three months of Pimsleur tapes, then get a local tutor. That should cost about $1000 for the first year, and will yield results FAR greater than a class in school. After the first year your self-education will be paid for by poker, so start traveling for three months every year. That should cost around $8k at the most, probably more like $5-6k. When traveling, education comes to you in the form of perspective. You understand other cultures and other people, and will get to practice your foreign language in its native setting. I would also combine travel with watching documentaries about the history of that place. I learned a lot about Rome after visiting, and now I’m kicking myself for not educating myself first.

3. Read every single day for at least an hour. Books get lumped in with other reading like magazines and blogs, but they’re actually far more valuable. The amount of value an author compresses into a book is often astounding. There are books I’ve paid $10 for that have completely changed my life. If you read for 1-2 hours on average, you’ll read around a hundred books per year. I do this now and find it to be one of the most valuable uses of my time. Read at least 50% non-fiction, but fiction is good, too. In school you would probably read 12 books a year at most.

4. Write every single day. Write blog posts, work on a book, write how you’re feeling, or write short stories. I don’t think it really matters. Writing every day helps you develop and refine your thoughts, as well as learn to communicate with others. Almost any field you’ll go into will require communication, so you may as well get good at it. After you write, record a video yourself explaining what you wrote. This will help with public speaking and conversation. After the first year at the very latest, start publicly posting your work. This teaches you to ship and to integrate feedback.

5. Learn to program, even if you don’t want to be a programmer. Programming develops logic and efficiency, amongst other things. Even an intermediate understanding of programming will allow you to be a creator. Programming languages are the languages of the future, so even if you aren’t a programmer yourself, there’s a good chance you’ll be working with them. Speaking someone’s language is nice when you’re working with them, right?

6. Do something social. College is really excellent for making people social, and it’s the one aspect in which don’t expect my plan to exceed school. If you’re a guy, consider getting into pickup. If you’re a human, take group art classes, yoga, dance, or go to meetup groups. Social skills are some of the most important skills you can learn, and they can only truly be developed through social interaction. This interaction has to be in person, too… online chatting can be beneficial, but it’s not enough. Traveling will help you be social as well, especially if you stay in hostels.

7. Eat healthy. When you eat healthy, your brain functions better and you’re safeguarding its longevity. Developing yourself is at least as much about good habits as it is about learning skills. And like all habits, the earlier you start, the better. I’d say that the minimum to shoot for here is cutting out all sweeteners and refined grains. Besidses the obvious health benefits, eating healthy will help you build discipline, which is an absolutely essential life skill.

8. Follow curiousity and spend money on it when necessary. These things that I’ve included so far are the baseline– the new liberal arts education. They leave you plenty of time in your day to follow whatever you’re interested in. Don’t force it and try to learn investment banking because you think it would make a good career. If you’re interested in butterflies, learn about butterflies. The rest of the curriculum is enough to make sure that you’ll always be able to provide for yourself and will be a well rounded person, so consider this section your speculative learning. Maybe you’ll find something you’re passionate about, which will become your career, or maybe you’ll just become a really interesting person who knows a lot about a lot of things. Either way is fine. Don’t be afraid to spend money on tutors, classes, equipment, seminars, or travel.

9. Start a business after two years. With a full two years of self-education under your belt, you should have something useful to contribute to society. School makes you go from sheltered learning mode straight into real-world career mode. I think a better way is to have a transition, and to couple productivity with learning. Having that habit will ensure that you continue to perfect your craft as you get older. Your business can be anything– a tech startup, publishing books you’ve written, giving speeches, making clothing and selling it online, whatever you’re into. Read some business books before starting it and try to make money. One of the most common complaints I hear from graduates of traditonal school is that nothing they learned was actually applicable to real ife. Everything you learn from starting a business IS.

This is a modern curriculum that, on average, will produce people better prepared for real life than college. Obviously, it won’t work if you want to be something that requires certification like a doctor or lawyer. The beauty of it is that it has a negative cost (you will make money due to poker, and hopefully your business), and can be funded initially with $5000 for poker. A few months into the second year, you will have paid off the poker debt and begun to self fund your life.

Will this work for you? There’s no guarantee, but I see people work pretty hard at school, and if that same effort were put towards the Hustler’s MBA, I thnk the chance of being self-sufficient and prepared for “real life” is about 90%. I’d estimate that non-laywer/doctor college is somewhere around 50-70%. So, like anything, this plan is not totally foolproof, but I think it’s a lot better and cheaper than the alternative.

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Money is important

Women are being told that they might miss out on a good man if they only look at money. What kind of man looks at ugly fat women instead of hot women for fear that he might “miss a nice girl.”?? Give me a break.

98% of these preacher types who preach about how insignificant money is, only do so because they are broke.

If they think that money isn’t so important then why aren’t they attracted to the broke-looking woman?

When men see a woman, they don’t wonder what type of person she is. They don’t care about her GOALs and aspirations in life or how they can aid her to achieve her vision. When they see a woman the first thought that runs through their minds is: how can I get with that?

We can’t stop men from approaching us; We can’t stop men from being men. The best that we can do is position us in the types of settings where they’re of a better grade. 

I didn’t create the game but I’ve come to terms that it does exist; so I’m forced to play it calculated.

Move Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Life is about challenging yourself and going after the things that most people only dream about.

You live life to the fullest when you realize that it’s not about settling, but rather constantly setting GOALs and pursuing them.

If you do what you have always done, then you’ll get what you always got.

You have to constantly step outside of your box. If you get comfortable doing something that previously made you feel uncomfortable then it means that you have grown and it’s time to tackle new grounds.

The more you take risks, the easier it gets.

instead of steering away from higher classed or expensive environments because you feel out of place, push your pride aside and go for it! Get right up there in the mix because that’s the only way you’re going to learn new things, make beneficial connections and meet influential people.

No one else knows that you are nervous unless you allow your jitters to get the best of you. Even if you feel out of place, just play it off and never let people see you sweat.

Wealthy people are among you, you just have to start participating in the same activities and festivities as they do. Visit art museums, science centers, fund-raising events, and auctions.

Never underestimate the Power of PRESENCE. 

If you’re looking for a guy that is a bit loose with his money then target gamblers. NASCAR, casinos, dog tracks, and Horseracing tracks are great spots to find them.

Be on a Power Player’s team. Find out who the most powerful or influential people in your community are and find a way to be included in their circle.

Associate with positive, business-minded individuals who are constantly striving to reach new GOALs. There’s a great chance you’ll learn from them just by being around them on a regular basis.

The only thing that will impact your life between now and next year is the people you meet and the books you read.

First Date with Your Target

Never ask a guy what he does for a living unless he asks you first. You can coax it out of him but don’t flat out ask, because you’ll make it way too obvious that you are interested in his finances.

“You handle all that by yourself?” “How long did it take you to learn?” or “Can you teach me?” Tell him how smart he is, guys are suckers for compliments.

Massage his package and you’ll have him only for that moment, but massage his ego and you’ll have him for a lifetime.

Celebrities are most sought after when very little is known about their personal lives. Follow their example and keep your personal life to yourself. Your target doesn’t need to know about it

Once he asks you what you are looking for, tell him things that are important to most women like: being respectful, honest and spontaneous. Just make sure that the last thing you mention is generosity; you have to make it very clear to him that you like to be spoiled and you can’t tolerate a cheap man. 

After you’ve listed that last requirement just stay silent and pay close attention to his response. 

If that approach is too direct for you then just tell him a story of a guy that you previously went on a date with and how cheap the guy was and how much it turned you off.

Make sure you tell him that you have to stop at the gas station for gas. If he doesn’t offer to pay for your gas when you both get to the pump, ditch him because that’s already sign #1 that he’s cheap.

Get the Things You Want Without Giving It Up

Men work on our terms and on our time. Never forget that. Most of them will do anything for IT.

we can weaken them with our curves, and our words, but the effects last longer when we do so with our minds.

Getting their financial favors for sex is easy, getting them without having to give IT up? Now that’s the challenge.

You may get lucky and find an LP who doesn’t expect sex, probably because he thinks that he can’t get it. Having a meal with him or walking by his side is good enough. 

There are guys out there that don’t mind if you are not sleeping with them. The only thing that matters to him is that his friends and everyone else thinks that he is getting some action.

How To Ask For What You Want

To get the best results, I’d suggest asking face to face. It will be even harder for him to tell you “no” if you are in public, so don’t be too shy to ask him for things in the presence of other people.

They want what you have and if they tell you “no” then there is a big chance that they won’t get it. Telling you “no” would mean that all the money they spent on dinners, movies and courting you in general would have been for nothing (so that isn’t a smart move on their end).

Guys aren’t mind readers. When you start telling them what you need and start asking for what you want, you’ll be surprised at how much you’re able to get out of them.

Never ask a guy how much of his money you are allowed to spend. Let him stop you. Some of them will even resort to charging it on a credit card if they can’t afford it.

Men might say “I just met you and you want me to take you shopping?” Yet it would never be too early for them to sleep with you, right?

Say that you’re tired of the repetitive “dinner and a movie” and instead “I want to go shopping.” Good luck to him trying to see me a second time if he dare says “no.” 

In many cases if you pay attention to the nerdy guy or the awkwardly dressed fellow in the back, you’ll get more out of him than the popular guy because the popular one is already accustomed to the attention. 

Studies show that people are more than likely to grant requests on Fridays. Maybe because it’s payday or the end of the workweek and most people are typically in a happier mood.

If you decide to ask through a text message, then send him a sexy picture mail right before you pop the question and watch how the likelihood of him giving you what you want shoots through the roof.

To a GD, NO never means NO, it simply means NOT NOW.

“Never accept the first NO for a final answer.” Apply this lesson to all aspects of your life.

When all else fails, resort to whining (in a cute, feminine way of course), because most guys will agree to just about anything to shut you up.

Be Wise With Your Money

Before you purchase an item, take the time to ask yourself: “Is this an asset or a liability?” assets help you and liabilities hurt you in the long run. 

An asset is anything that you own that has exchange value, meaning: you can sell it for a profit at a later date. 

A liability on the other hand, is anything that puts you in debt or anything that depreciates in value.

The biggest mistake that the poor and middle class make is accumulating liabilities because they think they’re assets, so know the difference? For the record: car rims, clothes and jewelry are liabilities.

By having expensive or expensive looking items, you attract an expensive crowd, so they have their place. Just keep in mind that purses, cars, and shoes are not the GOALs. They are only tools of the trade that will aid in getting you closer to your GOAL

Never let anyone know how much money you actually have. You always have to have a secret stash that no one knows anything of.

The wealthy know that there are many legal ways to avoid heavy taxation, for example, by owning your own business you can “write off” many expenses.

This is the shortest secret to explain but don’t underestimate it because it’s one of the most important. Owning your own business is like a having a shield against Uncle Sam. 

It doesn’t have to be a huge company either, in fact it can be a little business that you run on the internet. 

Having a registered corporation comes with many tax advantages; when it’s time to do your taxes you can write off a lot of expenses such as eating out and traveling legally.

1. Visibility Is The Key

The secret is to go to right places and be in the right social circles And to avoid men that you see that don’t have a good life perspective to offer.

No matter how gorgeous or attractive you are, if you are not in a right environment, all your efforts ain’t worth a dime.

Even the most beautiful woman will be forgotten if nobody can see her. If you don’t let your surrounding notice you, then your night failed. 

Always stand somewhere where everyone can see you, and where you can flirt. not to hide in the dark. Let yourself be noticed! Always keep your visibility, woman! 

I learned how important it is to be in a strategic position in the club – always somewhere in the center, or next to the bar where everyone was coming to take a drink.

When offered a drink, always say thank you, smile, and raise a glass in his direction, even if he is on the other side of the club. Look him straight in the eye, and let him feel your power

If someone seems strange, pushy or aggressive, say no to the next drink he sends and ignore him completely. He’ll get the message

A real lady never leaves the party last – she leaves it among first, letting everybody think she has better things to do. 

2. Select your Targets

Don’t give your phone number to any guy, just collect all of their business cards, names and phone numbers. 

Say: “I am sorry, I do not often meet men in clubs, so if you don’t mind, I would rather take your number and give you a call these days”.

If you go out with every cute guy that asks you out, you would waste your life on endless dating.

You have to be smart, and do a pre- selection at home. First google them at home, and then decide who you will call. 

It also makes you more desirable and unreachable, when no one gets your number, but it is you who is choosing!

Check his background, possessions, and then if he is worth it, meet him.

Always pretend you’re clueless about him, he mustn’t ever realize you where scanning him.

When a guy doesn’t want to say clearly what he does for a living, he is either nobody, or a liar, or a criminal. Anyhow, remove him. Only play safe.  

Until MM doesn’t buy you something, he is fake. EVERY MM IS FAKE UNTIL HE PROVES THE OPPOSITE 

3. Maintain a good Reputation

Feel free to date several men parallel until you chose the one you like. Usually you will have either 5 admirers or zero. That’s how these things roll in life 

But be Quiet About Your Game. Always be a bit reserved about your interactions with men with your friends. Not too many people should ever know much about your love life, because people love to talk. 

No man wants to date, as in a serious relationship, a girl he find promiscuous. To buy her stuff even less likely. 

Even if you dated and slept with hundreds of men, men will always be men, so never be honest about it. 

Crazy stories from college, threesomes and sex in public are details you are sharing with your girlfriends, never with your boyfriend. 

Who knows how many good relationships I destroyed with my wish to be over-interesting… 

Present first the best things about yourself, leave the trash for later.

In order to make MM (man of means) want to invest in you, you have to seem as an unreachable “not-everyone-can-date- me” kind a girl. 

Therefore, try to date men in different states and cities. If all your partners are from the same place, the stories will inevitably come.

Ex MMs have a great part in your reputation, so never neglect them, always stay friendly with them.

This way they will just spread the word about me being a nice, modest person, with real feelings. MMs talk between themselves, trust me. 

So save yourself, and treat them all nicely. At least they should think so. 

I learned you have always to play nice, cause you never know who knows who and who is connected to who.

Delay Sex - Don’t be too easy

Why on Earth would he spend his money and time on you, if he realizes you would sleep with him straight away?

If you sleep with him immediately he will not have any reason to invest anything in you, since you already gave it up before he even had to try. 

He kissed me and proposed to have a second wine at his place. I kissed him back and said I would rather see him some other time (so here I was giving him a positive signal), than to rush into things (here I am a good girl).

On their second date, Mr. Congressman offered her to take her to a weekend in L.A. She refused, because she knew it was a strictly sex invitation. 

When a MM invites you to a trip only after few days of dating, know it is usually a booty call, and he will probably ditch you afterwards. 

She said no to him, and she claims to this day that this refusal was the reason he stayed with her. 

She emphasized to him that she needs first “to get trust into him”.

Say “I do not like to rush into things” and that you would like to get to know him better, because “I really like you”. 

Say you are currently experiencing financial difficulties, and sex just isn’t or you mind. His reaction will tell you everything. 

I’ve only seen Mr. AD and Mr. Maintenance twice each and they’re already spoiling me. Even though I haven’t received cash yet (from Mr. AD anyway... Mr. Maintenance gave me $$$), I’ve still been taken to lunch, dinner and got gifts.. and decent sex lol. All I’ve been doing is playing along. They want sex? I give it to them. I want them to get me lunch and gifts? They give it to me. Since these men aren’t sugar daddies, I can’t ask for money straight up. But there are ways you can slowly change that.....

1. Let them get what they want first then tell them what you want

There’s a lot of other blogs that have articles up saying to tease them a bit, don’t give it up so easily and to make them beg for it. I find that works to a certain degree. Eventually, they will get either annoyed or bored and see other girls. Most guys claim they can just “find another girl on the app anyway”. Remember, they don’t know you’re a sugar baby, so you need to act like a spoiled girlfriend first. That you NEED and WANT certain things to look good, feel good, etc!

2. Insist that what you want is what you want and he’s either going to take it or leave it (it being you!)

You need to let him know that if he wants to carry out some sort of relationship with you, he needs to be able to compromise. Set the record straight. Make him feel guilty about having sex with you and letting you go home empty handed. Let him know that he’s not the only guy on the app and that there are other men waiting for him to slip up so they can go out with you. Let him know what he’s missing (obviously other than the sex; care, love, support, everything else he didn’t receive in life).

3. Be what he never had

This is pretty self explanatory but I’ll give y’all some examples. Example: Mr. Maintenance goes on about how much he and his brother weren’t as close with their mom, so I try to act like a mom lol. Mr. AD also mentions how his parents weren’t really around to take care or him and his brother. This man literally doesn’t put his seatbelt on when driving, so whenever I’m with him I always remind him to. Now he wants me to come over every week. To break it down, his parents weren’t around, he wants me around more often.

4. If you act like every other girl on the app, they will treat you like every other girl

You can still be a sugar baby while seeing vanilla men, just don’t make it so obvious. Play that elegant, sophisticated, sexy, spoiled woman that no one else can touch but him. Make him feel as if he’s the only one in the room. Be present (don’t check socials or text anyone while with him unless it’s an emergency of course).

Whenever I’m with Mr. AD or Mr. Maintenance, I leave my phone in my pocket or bag and check it briefly every hour or so.

Also note that not every guy is going to want to give you cash.

Mr. Maintenance gave me $120 because I told him I want to get my nails done with friends for my birthday 🎂 Mr. AD, however, wants to get me a giftcard for the nail salon instead . I’m not sure if Mr. AD is just not comfortable or doesn’t trust me with cash yet but I mean how can you have fun kinky sex with someone you don’t trust? Mr. AD takes me out to eat (recklessly spends money on food) and wants to go on trips with me while Mr. Maintenence wants to spoil me in general. So far he bought me that weekly planner and gave me cash; he also talks about trips but idkkkk

When with vanillas, mention:

spoiled, spoil me

(“Dont you wanna spoil me, daddy? 🥺)

want, need

(“I need/want this!”)

have

(“I wish I had; I have this but...”)

buy

(“Can you buy me this please? 🥺)

Feel free to add more!

Cheers,

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so recently, within the past 2 months I have successfully become a spoiled gf, this (surprisingly) was a whole lot easier than I thought it would be, but using this technique (that I kind if made up) I broke it down into some simple steps :)

STEP ONE: Pick someone you wont mind spending a considerable amount of time with

- Realize that this isn’t a sugar daddy, this man wants to have a full on relationship with you, therefore you will be spending a large amount of time with him so you WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM. So just make sure that he is someone you can handle without wanting to strangle after 45 minutes.

STEP TWO: Charm the fuck out of him, then have him open up to you

- You have to make him want you, be alluring and kind. smile at him, laugh at his jokes, compliment him on shit that you might not even care about. Right now you are selling a prophecy, an introduction to a relationship. Make yourself sound as interesting as possible but leave him always wanting more, always have him talk about himself more than you talk about yourself. try to pick up on little things and get a read on his emotional status and how he chooses to react to certain situations, learn about him so you can mold yourself into his dream woman. Once he sees your “genuine” interest in him, he will start opening up to you and THIS is where you’ll really need to pay attention.

STEP THREE: Find out what intimate part of his life is missing

- THIS IS KEY LADIES AND GENTLEMAN!!! You will have to figure out what relationship related snippet is really missing. In my case my sugar boyfriend (ill call him T) was married for 10+ years and never really got what he wanted out of the marriage and was constantly lied to, but ended up staying on behalf of his 4 step kids. after getting divorced he dated a stripper who just used him for his money even though he supposedly had “genuine” feelings for her. After learning about his tragic love history I came to the conclusion that what he really needed out of a relationship was mutual affection and to feel valued. KEEP IN MIND, THIS STEP CAN TAKE A WHILE AND INCLUDES LOTS OF TRIAL AND ERROR. So after coming up with my hypothesis of the lack of value and affection, I decided to put it to the test and did 2 simple things in order to do so. first, while he was at work, I called him to see how his day was going. You would have thought I was god himself calling because he was so happy to hear from me and to hear that I was thinking about him and that I took the time out to call him and let him know that. Second, I cooked him dinner. One day while I was staying at his house I decided to surprise him with a very basic meal (frozen salmon fillets and sautéed bell peppers) and yet again, he was so happy and excited at the fact that I had done that for him. This is when I knew I was on the home stretch

STEP FOUR: Focus on the missing intimate piece, and make it your specialty

- This is what has him keep you around, doing the things that he needed but never got. don’t get me wrong, I’m not cooking this man dinner everyday, instead I switch it up and substitute certain actions. He loves affection, so when we’re sitting on the couch together ill lay my head on his lap, or hold his hand and stroke the side of his face. I’ve learned that simple shit like that makes him incredibly happy, which makes him incredibly generous.

STEP FIVE: Get Spoiled

- Now after giving him a taste of life with you in it, you need to give him a taste of how much your life costs. By now he’s showered you in nice dinners and gifts on the whim, but you’re here for the kill, you want a access to the finances and for him to get you whatever you want. For me, this was by far the easiest step out of all of them, I told him I wanted to go shopping and that I needed some stuff from Lush and Sephora (he had no idea what either of those places were) AND HERE IS WHERE YOU GET HIM. Make sure he sees how expensive it is just to be you, talk to him about your favorite products and what you need and use on the daily (hype them up in price too, like if you need foundation and you usually use L'Oréal, rave about the Gorgio Armani foundation instead) make it seem like your mere existence is expensive, by now this man wants to take care of you and wants to keep you in his life and therefore will do what it takes to keep you near and dear. Once he see’s how “hard” it is to be you, he will make it easier