Melbourne Sugar Baby

I had heaps of trouble deciding on my sugar oriented tinder bio so I’ll try and help the most I can bc I know it’s FRUSTRATING… soo,

SB Tinder Bio Formula:

Keep it short as possible with correct grammar, spelling and paragraphing. Lead with enough to spark a question and that’s it.

Number 1) Education or Career- Don’t put where you’re studying, you can answer this later on in a relationship if you feel safe to do so, or lie - Put your study / profession (or made up one) or goal profession - Law, Fashion, Medicine / Receptionist, Journalist / Future-Doctor- Unfortunately some POTs have the idea that creative professions like model, actress, musician, artist hint towards an air-head. I freelance model sometimes but I would never tell a POT since so many have confided in me saying things along the line of “I can’t stand the model type, I’m so glad you’re not like that” lmao. Good to put down as a hobby, if you like, or something like “I appreciate the fine arts”

Number 2) Goal or Passion- Putting something that’s a little bit quotey and slightly cheesy but is an actual goal/passion of yours is what I put next- What do you want from your self / your life? Common themes included travelling, having an extraordinary life, meeting people, learning, helping the world etc. Just a little statement that signals you’ve got drive.

Number 3) Attributes of a Daddy“Seeking someone X, X and X who likes to/appreciates/seeks/enjoys Y”- X: Use 2 vanilla & 1 sugary describing words/phrases;VANILLA - kind, caring, respectful, fun, energetic, confident, outgoing, decisive, religious… whatever you want your man to be!!SUGARY - Generous, successful, established, career-driven, ambitious, worldly, educated- Y: what do you want your relationship to entail? What kind of things do you like doing that you’d want to do with your SD? What do you want to connect with him about?TOPICS: Law, Politics, Medicine ACTIVITIES: Dancing, Hiking, Exploring, Travelling, Swimming, BoatingDATES: Fine dining, wine tasting, broadway/theatre, art galleries…

Final tip: use synonyms. “Looking for man who likes…” turns into “Looking for a man who understands/appreciates/respects/admires/relishes/enjoys/is partial to…”

This is just my little guide, add in whatever you feel fits and expresses your personality and ideals

In regards to when to bring up the allowance type of thing, I wouldn’t over tinder or text. All you need to do is make sure he knows you’re wanting a SD/SB relationship (and that’s what he’s looking for) - that already implies you’re wanting an allowance (if he’s not a complete fool)

If he is a truely experienced SD, he will bring it up himself. The past two POTs I’ve met in tinder have (but not necessarily dollar amounts until we met in person)

7 Steps to Creating Your Higher Self Persona.

Whether you want to create a sugar baby persona, a more confident version of yourself, or are just bored and want to revamp your life, these are the essential steps to doing so. I would recommend being as detailed as I was in my “ideal high-value man” list.

I wanted to make this because these days it seems that a victim narrative has become cool or a trend

"You are a victim cause you are a woman"

"You are a victim cause you are a person of colour"

"You are a victim for existing"

I feel this narrative is also genuinely disrespectful for the people who have actually gone through something.

The more you cushion your identity with a list of reasons why you are underprivileged, a victim, why the world was made against you etc the more you become a sad blob of anger, dissatisfaction, unintelligence and laziness.

Let's say you're in this bubble, which I know a lot of you are. You have wasted who knows how long convincing yourself you will have a harder time at doing things.

Now what.

What are you gonna do.

Are you gonna do nothing cause you fear some potential rejection that's all in your head.

I call this mentality a mental cap, cause it's like, for example, putting a cap of top of your potential and covering where your brain could expand but now you are covering it so that you can breed your delusions and give yourself an excuse to get nothing done.

You choose what bothers you.

You can break down into shambles by something like an insult or brush it off and see that something in you triggered the defensive mechanism in someone and laugh it off cause

it's really none of your business how someone reacts, it's more of a reflection of them than you.

So many people give the excuse I'm black, so what, so am I, there are probably almost a billion of you either giving themselves the same cap or marching forward.

Things like racism and colorism are definitely not ok and but they wouldn't affect me because again it speaks more of the uncivilised, fragile and infantile mindset of the person, move on like the Goddess you are.

Stop listening to the media cause they are getting huge profits from your hero and inferiority complexes and most stuff they document is twisted and exaggerated in a way to rile up the most attention and reactions from people.

There is absolutely no reason the opinion of others should affect you and stop you from achieving greatness.

Comfort is your enemy, 9 times out of 10

Continue improving yourself no matter what

-Work out

-Educate yourself etc

Harness the power from within you so that the external influences have nothing on you.

If there is no doorway, create one

What is it gonna take for you to put your blood, sweat and tears into something you really want.

The route of collecting different caps to wear is way softer and comforting than the route of ambition, tenacity and grit.

Choose which one you wanna be

Tina, whose on her phone while also having the TV on and is consuming media that tells her she's not worth it and that she won't get a job and that she too much of this and that.

Or

Lisa, who has a limiter on her phone to what type of media enters her atmosphere and is outside in the real world, getting things done and improving herself and gaining more power and empowering herself everyday.

Stop letting Victimhood be the reason why you are ineffective, sad and bummy.

If you want it bad enough, you would do something to get it.

Replace negative with positive affirmations and see how your mindset will change.

It's simple

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I see so many people who get caught up in what I call the "level up labyrinth" which basically includes makeup, femininity, 'manifest' repeat

It's like a perpetual state of just focusing on false physicality and "manifesting" the rest

Also don't get me wrong I believe strongly in manifestation but a lot of people use it as an excuse to believe they are doing something meaningful while they sit on their ass all day and say it's coming in divine time.

I and so many others believe that looks play maybe 20% or slightly over in the grande scheme of levelling up. You will not suddenly be on a yatch having fun with millionaires or in a party in Paris just cause you look cute, yet you don't have a formal educational background, don't have basic social skills, don't know how to treat people, have an overly entitled mindset and your only hobby is beating your face and picking dresses.

I love individuals who have depth, personality and drive. People who add a bit of themselves in everything not just desperately playing to an ideal that some "life coach" on YouTube who doesn't show their face gave you or what you think will give you validation, if you think like that book a therapy session quick.

Lets start with the reason for this post

What to do in your level up besides sit and look pretty

☁️ Educate yourself ☁️

You can learn something from anything, whether it's attending a wine tasting event, going to an art exhibit or a polo match

You will always have something to take from the experience

On a larger scale, consider getting some sort of degree or certification as it will help a lot in terms of the respect you get, places you will be accepted into and genuine skill you will acquire.

If you can't get a degree or something like that, take a course in something you're passionate about. Learn a language, learn jewellery making even learning to make jam will be ok.

The more you know the more things you have in your arsenal

Learning to ride horses, play polo, play chess and tennis are also good to know

Even if you aren't in school you should have a little study regimen cause learning never ends, you are always on the climax of finding something life altering !

☁️ Social skills ☁️

Do you know how to engage in a friendly banter in a way it stays enjoyable and you remain memorable? Do you know how to host a gathering at your home in a way you will impress those who come?

The world is full of opportunities for those who have something to offer. I used to be one of those emotional people who would think that people suck and I'm the main character so me sitting in my room on my phone is an extravagant action for the universe, which was such a stupid philosophy, but later my mother had to give me a speech about how I'm not an island and how being a hermit is not ok.

With that she made me slightly more sociable and made me go outside more, forcibly taught be how to use a fork and knife properly, how to set a table and host guests and a very long and in-depth talk about how to handle people in a kind manner.

This helped me a lot as much as I'm embarrassed to admit it😂 Please if you don't know how to use a fork and knife and host properly, go watch a YouTube video now and I recommend learning the European way of doing it cause that's just the start.

Etiquette lessons and courses are also recommend for atleast once in your life

There's so much on YouTube and in books on how to effectively communicate and perhaps manipulate.

The Art of Seduction

The Laws of Human nature

The Art of War

The 48 Laws of Power

How to Win Friends and Gain Influence

Etc, the list is really never-ending, it's just about if you are going to go and do the research

I hope I'm not coming off Anna Beyish in this segment 😭

☁️ Looks ☁️

I know if the intro I said that only focusing on looks alone is not the best thing to do but you can't deny it's a useful part

I have noticed with people who obsess on their looks as their 100% personality trait they begin to go into IG baddie territory where they want to conceal their natural appearance and every imperfection they have, which I'm pretty sure isn't the goal for the people here reading this.

With your makeup, develope a short routine (Less than an hour everyday) where you might conceal little things you don't like but in the end with makeup the goal is to highlight your features not to undermine and cover them.

All six looks are amazing and the people who did them are talented, but pick which one, top or bottom, who you would like to represent and who you think would be taken seriously and approached more (in a respectful manner) in a live setting .

Same with dressing, nails and hair

I'm a big advocate for natural and subtle beauty and as much as some of you will disagree, it's the truth.

Natural well taken care of blown out hair will always be ahead of a bodywave install wig

A toned physique will always be ahead of the bbl lipo body

A well curated collection of clothes founded by collecting quality basics will always be ahead of 3 closets full of fashion nova deals

Stop trying to chase for unattainable standards which you hold yourself by (no one forced you at gun point to tell you to look like Kim K or Paris Hilton it's just you who probably needs to get off the internet and walk outside and look at the real world) and start taking care of yourself.

☁️ Stop claiming your manifesting and go do something productive ☁️

You want a significant other but won't go outside but I bet you will talk to a candle about it (and let's not leave out the fact that you probably aren't even mentally ready for a relationship you just want someone to be a bum with so you don't feel alone)

You are manifesting your dream body but you are sitting watching TV (and let's not even talk about how certain bodies are impossible for certain people because of genetics and your skeletal structure)

You want to get money but you are just breathing doing nothing hoping the universe will convert your carbon dioxide into cash ( someone: air is energy and if I focus enough I can put the energy of my divine breath into manifesting money 😩😩😩🔮🔮🔮🔮stay woke guys) 🙄

If you wanted something you would get up and get it not say it's coming to you because you wrote it down.

True manifestation works hand in hand with action, manifestation is also a very tedious process that is so much more than giving yourself a headache by trying to stress your brain saying you are channeling something.

Manifesting should be the last option after you have gone and done something about what you want to achieve.

☁️Fitness and health☁️

People love to spend their money on unnecessary makeup, hygiene products and anything they can get their hands on but will not pay for a gym membership.

A healthy body is a happy body ( good health causes the creation of hormones and reactions that raise optimism )

We can not deny a healthy weight, balanced diet and moderate exercise is the best for you

I see glorifying obesity as the same as glorifying being underweight and anorexic, they are both different sides of the same coin that can only be bypassed is someone has a disease or condition that makes them that way.

Look at the risks for both

And please don't take this as me being fatphobic I'm just saying it how it is

Think about it

Anyways that's all for now

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Too many.

NHL, PGA, a few NBA, and some MLB Players:

Where I met them:

Private clubs, steak houses after dark, happy hours after games, promotional events for their teams, after practice near the rinks they play at, at golf clubs for all three, at country clubs, through friends with lots of hook ups, and sometimes just through sheer luck.

How I got them:

Talking about their stats and their team, talking about upcoming games, asking about them and allowing them to talk about their prowess on and off the field, offering to show them around town and take them out on dates that I planned if they're not from my town, inviting them to my events with my friends, and showing off my skills and showing what I'm good at when it comes down to it, they like to be worshipped and fawned over and I know how to do that very well, I'm good at admiration and I'm good at stroking many things, not just overinflated egos.

Who I know:

Without naming any names or giving away any hints, I've hooked up with a Chicago Blackhawk, an LA King, a Boston Bruin, a Dallas Star, a Montreal Canadien, and a Toronto Maple Leaf. Sorry not sorry, I love hockey guys and they rank at the top of my ranks for professional athletes. I went out with a Seattle Mariner, an LA Dodger, a New York Yankee, and a Chicago Cub as well. I only know these men and have access to them because one of my good friends is totally into sports and wants to level up and marry a pro athlete and her job puts her in very close proximity to them and gives her total access.

Total Finance Men:

Where I met them:

Private clubs, coffee shops near major financial centres and firms, happy hour on Friday nights, at sporting events, at steak houses and popular seafood restaurants near their financial firms, and in financial districts. I've had a lot of success in major cities when it comes to finance men and I'm happy to talk about it if anyone has any questions for me.

How I got them:

The main thing that you need to know about TFMs is that being a finance man is like being in a fraternity, most of them were in frats anyway and now they've moved on to Alpha Gamma Goldman Sachs. Knowing how to allow a man to indulge in complete narcissism and just talk about himself and all of his accomplishments and achievements, talk about his interests, and fawn over himself is the key. You need to be able to throw in some self deprecating humour and you should be ready to knock him down just a little bit whenever necessary to keep him coming back for more but finance men are easy to hold onto and they're always around and making money.

Who I know:

If Goldman Sachs, GreenHill, JP Morgan, Morgan Stanley, Deutsche Bank, Credit Suisse, Barclay's, Perella Weinberg, and CitiGroup came out with a roster of their young and older investment bankers, I would be right there with a highlighter marking off the names of the men I've known and who've taken me out. I hate to say it (no, I really don't) but young investment bankers are some of the easiest men to get practice on, keep around, and make obsessed with you. I'd highly recommend trying out a man in IB or finance if you're in a large city and want a start.

Doctors and Lawyers:

Where I met them:

Private clubs, coffee shops near hospitals and courthouses, at high class steak bars and restaurants at odd hours, at happy hours right before the end of the night, at conferences I've conned my way into, and during internships through my uni.

How I got them:

My major is in law and so I've had ample opportunities to meet lawyers. I worked as a legal secretary at a law firm and I know how to talk about law and about cases, I know how to keep work going on and keep minds off of work, and I know how to make life seem easy and fun. When it comes to doctors, I know how to talk about medicine and how to ask a variety of interesting questions, I know how to let them talk about themselves, and I subscribe to the belief that all men are narcissists with sky-high Zeus level egos so I let them steer the conversation and I manipulate them and the vibes to the best of my ability once I've figured out where I want the night to go and I let them think they're leading me.

Who I know:

I carried on an affair with one of my law professors and got an internship at one of the best firms in Great Britain when I was in my freshman year, I know a lot of lawyers and junior associates in some of the top firms and I'm close with a lot of the private practice boys who went to my university for medicine. I'm really not a huge fan of lawyers because they can be useless and they're too close to home but doctors? I love doctors. I've been hooking up with the son of a gynecologist on and off since I was 16 and it's some of the best sex I've had in my entire life and he's got some pure talent when it comes to the body of a woman. Anyway, I highly recommend doctors and I would avoid most lawyers.

Diplomats and Politicians:

Where I met them:

At my Law internship and at my Embassy Internship, at fancy restaurants near consulates and embassies, at diplomatic dinners, at events organised by work, and through friends of mine and their connections.

How I got them:

International relations, baby. Every man wants to play the field and they always want a taste of Japan. But in reality, I know how to talk about what's popping in the world, I know how to keep them interested, I'm usually the only beautiful and young woman in the room that isn't attached and is willing to play the games that need to be played, and I know the world of diplomacy, how it works, and how to work it in my favour to get the men and women that I want interested and keep them around for my own pleasure and personal use, it's easy to climb to the top once you have an idea of what you're looking for.

Who I know:

Men aren't always my main course, sometimes I find myself dating and sleeping with both men and women and I do it very well. I keep to threesomes, get what I want from both husband and wife, get my money from her husband and then have his wife take me out, and I do it well. I'm good with hooking up with just men and just women too but I prefer to be Switzerland and be the 'neutral' party between two countries. I've been working the international relations circuit for years and I know how it works, I know a lot of the younger men dreaming of life in international relations in D.C. or the White House, and I know a lot of aspiring politicians who I dream of one day coming back to ruin with a fury, I could be their first sex teacher and their first sex scandal.

Private Pilots:

Where I met them:

Airport lounges, airport restaurants, and high class locations next to private and public airports with a lot of traffic. I was a whore for airports at one point and I'm still reaping the benefits from those poor life decisions to this day and I don't regret them, I have so many frequent flyer miles and I have a lot of free flight passes now that I know how to network well.

How I got them:

My sister is employed by Emirates and so during my breaks. I used to fly to see her a lot and she gave me all of her tips and tricks for how to her an executive level pilot and how to talk to men who work in aviation. Her number one tip to me is to not treat them like they're Top Gun and make them work to get you, force them to pursue you, let nothing they say impress you and make them yearn for you, and reject any obvious sexual advances, offer them more and then refuse to elaborate, and lead them on and make them feel crazy until you finally decide to give in and let them have a taste of the sweetness you keep hidden away when they start to lose all hope.

Who I know:

I know a few private and public pilots and I've worked on maintaining my connections and working towards getting what I want. It's how I fly most of these days, if they have a flight leaving from an airport near me then I usually get offers to be put on standby so I can fly to where I want to go and be where I want to be. It's actually super hard to get ahold of a pilot and maintain any sort of relationship with one that doesn't have to do with casual sex and so I sort of stay away from them unless I want to use them because they're a lot to deal with and dealing with them drains a lot of my physical and emotional energy and I don't really want jetset men and jetsetter vibes interrupting me or my aura right now.

Prostitute [center of a triptych of Three Beauties], Mihata Jōryū, 1830s, Minneapolis Institute of Art: Japanese and Korean Art

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Commit to the task. Focus on doing, not avoiding. Write down the tasks that you need to complete, and specify a time for doing them.

Overwhelming ourselves by setting ridiculously high goals for what we want to achieve on any given day is like taking the high road to procrastination. Split up big projects in bite-sized pieces and set achievable daily goals.

People procrastinate on a task because they feel, at some level or another, intimidated by that task. It really all boils down to your emotional perception of a particular task. Accordingly, if you want to stop procrastinating, you have to change how you feel about a task.

Don't be a perfectionist (yet). Second-guessing our work, doing the same things over and over again and spending way too much time on research and preparation can severely damage the effectiveness of our work. But even worse: it can keep us from getting started in the first place because we know exactly what our perfectionism will make us do — and we already dread it.

Stop yourself from spending 80% of your time on the last 20% of the project to get the details right by reminding yourself over and over again that “done is better than perfect”. Furthermore, make it a rule to get started on something as long as you have 70% of the information, 70% of resources and are 70% sure that you will succeed — because you can never by 100% prepared for anything.

Sometimes we are simply not that interested in doing the thing we need to do. You have two options:

1) Don’t do it and focus on the things that are actually more important in your life or

2) Find a strong enough reason WHY you want to do it

Other times our procrastination is actually a defense mechanism to keep us “safe” and in your comfort zone. Whether we are afraid of failure, success, other people’s judgement or the unknown — our fear is subconsciously holding us back from doing what we need to do.

There is different strategies for different fears, but what usually works very well are the following fear-busting strategies:

Get clear about what exactly you are afraid of: Imagine the worst case scenario, realise that it is not that bad and make a contingency plan for what to do when it actually happens.

Practice mindfulness through meditation, yoga and journaling to calm down pointless worrying and overthinking.

Make it a habit to go out of your comfort zone: The more steps you take towards the things you are afraid of, the more your fear will turn into confidence and catapult you forward.

Develop a deep trust in god/the universe. Trust that you are on the right path, that you are being guided every step of the way and that everything that is happening is for your ultimate good.

To your success!

A man’s words mean nothing. His actions mean everything.

Don’t nag, find another better man to do the job, competition breeds perfection.

You’re not competing with other women, your competing with yourself.

No man will live in your head rent free, have a roster of at least 3 guys.

Never give up your hobbies, plans or ambitions for a man. Ever.

Never stop improving-physically (gym, procedures, surgery) mentally (school, tutors, learning languages, reading), emotionally (reading, therapy, medication), and financially (paying down debt, investments, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, etc)

Stingy men are just as bad as broke men.

Closed mouths don’t get fed.

Restaurant first dates only.

You’re single until married.

Goes without saying but

No sex until a relationship and commitment has been established.