Luckypupboi

"Why there isn't more trans men in history, contributing to queer advancements?" damn I wonder why people who were previously women that were forced into marriages and into being property either of their fathers or husbands would have a hard time coming out as a trans man. Truly a mystery. Oh wait you're also telling me people that lived their whole lives as men but were outed after they died are actually lesbians that did that to scape sexism? That's so cool. What more are you wrong about.

ya i want to be tucked in and kissed on the head and given my favorite stuffie like a little kid ok and what about it

Age regression is always portrayed as this pure super cute, electable comforting thing in social media and I’m sorry but, I’m tired, there’s sometimes it’s not. Sometimes age regressing is extreme feelings, it’s hitting your head and screaming in pain and laying on the floor and kicking and wanting it to stop. Sometimes it’s shaking in anxiety, biting your hands and stimming uncomfortably. Sometimes theres no comfort, sometimes the triggers are not good, and that’s fine too. Age regressing does not mean pure state, it means a much younger one. Just that. It can be violent and ugly too

“Where are the trans men in history?” See. When you're born a gender that was forcefully married off, who had to live most of their life indoors, when you had to raise children, and had a lobotomy if your family thought you were a tad too odd, it's kinda hard to come out as a trans man now ain't it.

To be entirely honest, I do not think the discomfort some people feel being around masculine presenting butches, transmascs, and trans men is purely a lingering trauma from cis men that they cannot help. While I think it certainly can be, or can contribute- I believe this line of thinking often functions as an excuse to refuse examining that what many are actually uncomfortable with here is gender nonconformity.

Its in the best interest for trans people to learn the difference between an actual transphobe, and someone who just isn't up to date with the latest terminology

Hey, full offense, but if you're a white, passing, able bodied trans man who has enough access to financial and medical resources to transition medically, and you make an effort to talk over trans men who aren't as privileged as you when they say they don't benefit from the patriarchy, you need to pull your head out of your ass long enough to notice that the world doesn't revolve around you.

yall will be like "all trans men rape and abuse the trans women in their lives, and are also inevitably going to detransition and become terfs. you never hear about trans men getting raped by a trans woman, because they all rape and abuse us" and then i was like "ok hey so thats not true. i was raped and abused by a trans women and then had several other trans women fetishize and support her because shes a trans woman and im a trans man. i also know a lot of other trans men who have had similar experiences. we are forced into silence by the trans community because we're told we'd be giving "ammo to terfs and transphobes" if we talk about it. i didnt talk about it publically for 3 years in part due to that. if youre going to say this shit about us then im going to set the record straight" and yall took that as me saying that all trans women rape and abuse trans men because thats what y'all think about trans men and are projecting. do you know how many trans women i know in my personal life? do you know how many trans women im friends with/married to? i was raped by two trans women and one of them wasnt really in her right mind so i dont even necessarily blame her, i know so many other trans women, so no, i dont believe that all trans women are rapists and abusers. and if you actually knew any trans men in your personal life (if trans men were comfortable being around you) then you wouldnt believe your stupid shit either

"Do you want trans men to be treated like a different kind of men????" Hmmmm yea. They have uteruses and vaginas so they need different medical care. They also have high rates of sexual abuse and there's no laws in place of protecting trans men being physically abused. Like yea, we do need them to be treated like a different kind of men because they are a different kind of man.

i feel like it's absolutely crucial in the social justice world to take "he a little confused but he got the spirit" and similar sentiments/situations as a Win. intent is so much more important than saying it right the first time! if someone is approaching with scuffed language and incorrect terms but they're visibly being as polite as they know how, that person is a friend and should be treated better than what their words might invite in someone else's mouth.

someone who's confused but who's got the spirit has the best thing, which is respect. the other stuff is secondary. I'd take someone who's messing up but doing their best to treat me respectfully any day over someone who's using the right words to do me wrong.