post scriptum

But again they are also trying to prove that romantic love is real.

Romance is so often painted as a “womanly” thing but it’s also painted in a way where it can’t be activated if a man isn’t present. I think that’s why some people have an easier time acknowledging male homosexuality because while they use it to fuel their homophobia it’s seen as a real thing: He IS gay, he is gay because he has romance , he is womanly because he has romance, he is gay because he is womanly.

But with two women it’s more like she did something gay. It’s not seen as a real and fundamental part of us. It’s seen as a reaction.

Because lesbians have to deal with the intersection of sexism and homophobia a lot of lesbian texts will bring up culturally and societal relations with men and how men impact them, even if it’s not in a romantic sense , but that level of detachment always has a way of unintentionally painting men as something our sexuality orbits , even if it’s trying to resist the pull. It’s something I very much dislike about a lot of lesbian media. It can’t just be “I find women hot” there is a feminist analysis so often overlaying the exploration of attraction that taints the experience. It’s not just that she is attracted to women, it’s that she is a attracted to women and thinking of heterosexual dynamics and what she is being liberated from. I do think there is a place for lesbians to explore the joy of not being restrained by straight gender roles and responsibilities but it’s so difficult to relate to at times. Obviously I’ll see some straight people and thing damn, dodge a bullet with that while being gay. But I’m not thinking about men when I think about how hot women are. I’m just thinking women are hot. I’m not thinking I’m choosing this woman because we share the load, unlike if I was with a man, I’m thinking I’m with this woman and we do happen to share the load.

Because it's Tam Lin. Because she took a Scottish legend and just fucking distorted it. Instead of a fairy tale about the strength of a woman who, with her own willpower, pulled her lover back from the dead, we got a story about an "abuser" who is an abuser because the author says so.

Because I hate it when an author drags something into their text to "artistically play with it" and doesn't play with it.