Jia Qiu Relationship Headcanons
- Well. First off, he is just aΒ gentle giant. I definitely think it takes him a long time to fall in love, and he would have to trust / know you a lot. I don't see him just being into casual stuff. So by the time you do get together, you pretty much have already been on the verge of being in one. And then this leads into:
- I've seen a few things on here where he uses old courting methods, like giving you gifts, which I thought was so sweet. I love that. That's so him. I think he would be discreet, especially at first, unless you'reΒ oblivious, but in that case he would also be making the first move I'd imagine, even if it might start subtle.Β
- In the same way, I think he also really likes to receive gifts. He's very sentimental and gifts are stuff that would last forever (hopefully) so then he takes super good care of it, no matter what it is. Then I imagine you should be careful gifting him something like clothes and jewelry, especially if its expensive (he would take anything even if you just made it out of twigs anyways) because he would subconsciously use it less out of fear of losing it, or something happening to it.Β
- So yes he loves very, very, very deeply, and gets very attached. Like I said though, it just takes a while for him, which is reasonable. He is also nonchalant about it. He just doesn't always express love in conventional ways, but you'll always know he loves you in some way.
- I just don't see him being all over you all the time, especially in public, but I also don't think he cares either. Like yeah he would still hold your hand, and kiss you or something, just not fully making out, and I don't see him initiating it, you'd probably have to hold his hand first most of the time.Β
- Random thought: he would get really flushed if you kissed the scar on his face (or anywhere else he definitely has a ton) but that would be so cute. And then he would also kiss you back somewhere, probably your hand, especially if you have a noticeable scar there too.
- Adding on to that if you caught him on a particular night, maybe he would let you trace scars on his back, or arms.
- He would maybe tell you about them if you ask, probably not all, some are so old he probably doesnβt even remember anymore.
- Also, despite his improvement, and leaving behind his resentment, the incident definitely never left him still. Yes, again, he's still pretty calm about it nowadays, and doesn't affect him anywhere near the way it used to, he just lived a rough life for a long time after anyways. Sometimes you will see that more aggressive side of him come out that he has repressed for a while. (Not directed towards you)Β
- So sometimes he gets particularly broody too, Iβd imagine. It's really rare but it happens. And he has a few other old stress habits that might resurface butΒ in a milder way. He probably draws circles on his hand or runs his nails (gently not like scratching) down his arm. And it might even take you a while to see that side of him, but given the fact I said he'd have to trust you a lot and know you a while in the first place before getting involved in anything romantic, maybe you will get to see it pretty early on since it won't be like you've only known him for a month before getting serious? He really wouldn't show it to anyone else.Β Zilu has probably noticed just because she's got good senses, and Zigong is smart, plus they're around all the time so it's probably just them + you that has seen and noticed it. But even still, they've just not seen it to the same extent as you, not anywhere near.
- Then he probably also gets a little clingier than normal. If that's the right word. I definitely don't think he would want to be alone during it, given the sadness stems from being alone and losing the ones he loved.Β
- You being there would just remind him he isn't that alone. I see him getting deeply sad over it, but it passes, and I don't see him getting angry or snappy at people over it. Like I mean he wouldnβt get angry over it, if he does, he wouldnβt take it out on you either, he would just internalize it. But at this point, I think heβs done getting mad over it. Like I said, just not anymore. In the past definitely, but heβs a lot more content with it now, and instead, he just gets sad.
- Like seriously he is not as nonchalantΒ as he seems. He definitely loves his person incredibly deeply. He doesn't even have to always say it directly. Sometimes he just points out little things that remind him of you, maybe he just saw a particularly pretty cloud, or a flower. He sees the beauty in everything.
- He's pretty busy too. I imagine sometimes if he ever has downtime, maybe he would sketch something or even write a poem, or letter even. I don't see him being crazy for poetry, but if he gets bored and yearns enough then he would make something small.
- On that note as well, I feel like he likes fancy pens a lot, and ink. He also probably likes cute plates? He's old okay. But I feel like he has a really nice collection of writing utensils, mostly pens.Β
- He's not really a big talker at all, but he can be. It doesn't matter though, because at least when he talks, it's really meaningful, and he still shows he cares. Like trust me he cares so hard, but he's just like the kind of person who is silent for a while but when he talks it's worth so much anyways. Like Yi Sang. But he is just like that. If you want him to talk more he would, but I don't imagine you asking for that since like I said what he does say makes up for it. But I mean if you asked him to talk about something he likes, he definitely would.
- And then he's also really patient. Maybe to a fault tbh. You could talk for hours about something and he wouldn't tell you to stop. Even while he's working although he would maybe listen/reply less, you could just keep going.
- He's knowledgeable too, and probably yearns for more education so he would be very much willing to learn about what you like. And if he's not busy, or if you ask, then he would tell you about stuff he is interested in, or whatever he's learned that day, whatever heβs working on, something he noticed, something silly that happened, really anything. He would really enjoy talking about his day, especially if you're hanging out in the evening.Β
- Since he's busy, then you're probably getting most of your attention in the morning or at night. 1000% he's an early bird, but if you're also getting up early he would get up even EARLIER.Β
-Β A morning with him would be super nice though. Especially if you both get up early to get extra time in. He's really not rushed with anything he does. I already said he's incredibly patient, and probably enjoys doing things slowly and carefully. You can do his hair in the morning, and maybe he would do yours if he could,Β he just has so, so, so much hair. It would be so fun to swim in. If you asked him to do yours in some way, he would definitely learn. Iβm sure he can do a few things to himself, or from being around his younger siblings, but if it's something he can't do, or you like it done a specific way, then he would let you show him for sure.Β
- In the same way, I think if you had a long day or something, and you asked him, he would give you a bath. Who wants to take a bath when they're in a bad mood? No One.Β But mostly he would just wash your hair for you. He just likes to take care of you a lot, especially if you're having a rough day.
-Β Idk what breakfast he would eat. I definitely think he can cook too, and would have no issue with doing it, but he's not really.. amazing at it? Sometimes it turns out really good, and sometimes it doesn't. And he drinks tea of course, not really a coffee person. If he wants caffeine/energy he drinks caffeinated tea. But in general, I just think he enjoys herbal, floral, fruity flavored stuff like that. Idk. Maybe that is just his breakfast.
- Imagine if you learned how he liked his tea and made it in the morning for him.. so cute (other way around would happen too)
- Adding onto that again to say he's definitely observant, and will learn little stuff about you like that very fast, and keep note of it if he can. Especially for gifts later.Β
- For his little habits, he straightens his clothes a lot (I imagine he doesn't like them to be wrinkled or unkempt in general, he cares about his appearance for sure, just nothing like insane, but you know he's a "noble man" so yeah), or fixes his hair a lot if it's in his face (it is). He used to bite his nails a long, long time ago, but he doesn't anymore.Β
- I don't really see him being really fidgety either, just mostly small stuff like that, like I said, unless he is stressed, then maybe he'll regress into a milder form of the old habits. Also, if he's reading something and is getting tired, he will slowly tap his hand on something, like the table.Β
- I feel like he also has shaky hands for some reason. Just naturally.
- He's really warm, I had to say that, but you have to sleep a foot away from him in the summer.Β
- Back to more general affection stuff. So other than gifts, like I said, he's sentimental, so I think he enjoys quality time a lot too when he can get it in, which is indeed normally during mornings and nights, but if you both had a day off then he would almost 100% make sure he could just dedicate it toΒ doing something with you, doesn't matter what, literally you could sleep together for 24 hours straight) and he would be happy as a clam. He's such a yearner, he just loves you so much. Billions must love β€οΈ
- And as for physical touch, he doesn't at all mind it. I just don't see him being INCREDIBLY physically affectionate, at least not all the time. If he feels playful or something, or more clingy, then yes, or if he knows you particularly really enjoy it, he would do it more often. Definitely also does it more often as time goes on.
- He is also quite verbally affectionate I'd say, again just more in a non conventional way. He would probably rather write something, and sometimes he just says something so beautiful, and so poetic and romantic that you're just stunned, and he just kind of goes on like nothing happened. Does he know it affected you? Maybe!Β
- For more physical affection uhh sorry hes such a fucking chud yearner (‘£sorry) that he just admires every bit of you a lot, so I wouldn't say he really has a specific body part that he likes most, but maybe hands if I had to say. Or face of course! I don't see him as a chronic lip kisser either. Wouldn't it be so cute if he kissed the top of your head or your eyelids. Which he definitely would. Back to hands then, I think he would also kiss the individual fingers and your palm, not just the top of it.
- Now back to night time since I did morning time. Well I keep saying he's the biggest yearner so again, he might be a lot closer to you around that time, especially if he was to come back more tired than usual.
- Itβs just nice to unwind with him pretty much anytime. Heβs just so calm and chill that I feel like if you had a bad day, his energy would cancel it out (unless you both had a bad day then uhhhh Yore fucked) but again I feel like his "bad days" are usually not so much agitating and infuriating, he just gets a bit more sad and resigned. Now it's not like he never gets pissed off or something, he's just way better at keeping that in and getting over it, and most of his negative feelings would be gone by the time he gets back and sees you.
- He doesn't at all mind showering together either, in fact, he quite enjoys it. It's something nice to do together, either in the afternoon or morning. But like, good luck trying to reach the top of his head if you want to wash his hair.. and he might take up 95% of the tub.. His head probably touches the shower head.Β
- Overall, it might not be the most enjoyable experience, but it wouldn't be horrible either, it just depends if you're willing to tolerate it. (He won't be offended if you don't.)
- And back to scar tracing, I definitely think it makes him sleepy. I don't know if he'd fall asleep on the spot or anything, but like he just loves and trusts you so much that he'd nod off while you do it at least. Probably the only thing stopping him is that thing when you fall forward when you get tired, and when it happens it jolts him (and you) awake. Woah!
- And for sleeping together, well first of all, who doesn't want to sleep on top of him? He really doesn't care, he doesn't have like a specific way he likes to cuddle or sleep. I think if you're a cuddler, awesome. If not, thatβs fine, especially because I said too, he's so warm that in the summer it might be best not to sleep super close to him anyways! Unless you don't mind waking up sweaty.
- Personally, I do think actually he prefers to sleep next to you (especially if he's in a mood), even though he won't be hurt or offended if you don't want to for whatever reason. He's probably gonna be the one holding you most of the time, but again, if he's sad or frustrated, maybe he would fall asleep on your chest, or you trace his back while laying on your sides, until he falls asleep like that. Or if you played with his hair in some way too, he would fall asleep really fast. I definitely think he enjoys having his hair played with more than he lets on (as if he's not asking you to do it every morning!)
- He does also have a very loud dad snore, so have fun with that. On the bright side, it takes him a long time to actually fall asleep, so most of the time you'll end up asleep before him, and you won't have to listen to it, at least not for very long.
