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It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

Time Management

Waking up earlier

Stop staying up all night

Wasting too much time on a certain website?

29 Time Wasting Activities

General Time Management Guide

Creating an effective schedule for your day

How to stop being late to things

Easy to prepare healthy recipes

Make time for your hobbies!!

Making School Suck Less

Prioritization

…what if everything is a priority?

Studying methods

Strategies for students with ADHD

Strategies for students with learning disabilities

AVOIDING BAD PROFESSORS (This too)

Quick and healthy snacks that are good for focus

Finding cheap textbooks

Relationships and Sex

How to tell if someone genuinely likes you

Why relationships fail

Putting yourself first when you need to

Eight differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships

Know the difference in protective and possessive

10 things to know before you start being sexually active

Maintaining a long lasting HEALTHY sex life

Considering a friends w/ benefits relationship? read this!

Money Management

Are you spending too much money on ____?

8 Tips on Saving Money

Steps to take in starting a budget

Mobile apps for budgeting!

Buying a car

Tips for buying a house

…and apartment

25 Wastes of money

Even savvy savers make these mistakes

Getting / Keeping a Job

Getting started with LinkedIn (This is important!)

Interviewing etiquette

Creating a resume

Starting your career before you start your career

Workplace etiquette

Shitty boss?

Waking up with a hangover…

Getting ahead in the workplace

Physical Health (Diet and Exercise)

Exercise helps with mental health

General Men’s Health website

General Women’s Health website

Gym Etiquette

Micro changes for macro results at the gym

20 foods to help trim belly fat

How many calories should you be consuming?

No gym? Try these at home work outs

Great diets for men

Great diets for women

Miscellaneous (Better you…)

Stop forgetting things

Stop cursing

Keep your car stocked

Stop smoking

Deal with the police responsibly

Love yourself

Know when to shut up (This is from a Christian outlook btw but it would probably still help whether you’re religious or not)

Stop talking shit about people