when we say trans women are male and trans men are female, we are not saying they deserve to be discriminated against or that their dysphoria doesnât matter. we are saying biology exists and matters in certain contexts.
when we say we wonât date trans women because weâre lesbians, we are not saying trans women donât deserve to have happy, fulfilling relationships. we are saying that we are not romantically or sexually attracted to them and so that neither of us would have a happy, fulfilling relationship if we dated.
when we say we are gender critical, we are not saying everyone should be gender-conforming. we are saying the opposite, that men and women should be free to dress and act however they like instead of being forced into certain gender roles based on their sex.
when we say female-only safe spaces are important, we are not saying trans-only or mixed safe spaces arenât also important. we are saying that based on our biology, women have certain shared experiences and face specific oppression that we deserve to be able to discuss among ourselves.
when we say one thing and you hear another, that isnât our fault. when youâre ready to listen to what we actually believe or to have a genuine discussion, weâll still be here.