I know this isnโt something you want to hear, but I think itโs something you need to hear: sometimes someoneโs inability to love you the right way is not their fault. If you are the first person to show someone pure, genuine love, they may not know how to reciprocate because theyโve never experienced it before. In turn, they may not know how to give it back. This doesnโt mean that itโs your job to teach them, that you have to tolerate it, or that you deserve it, but Iโve found it incredibly helpful in my own healing to understand that sometimes people arenโt hurting you or treating you poorly intentionally. Sometimes people will self sabotage good things because they donโt think theyโre worthy of it. Sometimes they just donโt know what to do, so they ruin it, whether that be by running away, being disrespectful, or causing pain. Sometimes, people still have their own growing to do. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, itโs just that you happened to be there in the collateral damage. I donโt say this to justify any of their bad actions, but to offer a different perspective that may aid you in forgiving and ultimately reaching your peace.
โ alhwrites
