"Why can't jedi get married?" look... I thought the rule was stupid until I understood more about it in depth. on the one hand it was very understanding, on the other extremist. but it's that thing of loving, but not getting attached. so... if a jedi maintained a healthy relationship, knew his priority and was careful with his toxic feelings, would everything be okay? You know. people fall in love, that's where the strongest love comes from in the romantic sense, and then comes the family, which is the cornerstone of everything, our home, happiness and peace. So, wouldn't trying to avoid that also be a very bad way to get attached to this religion that makes you lose your feelings, always hiding from them? running away from what's inside you. It's like that question of the dark side, instead of learning to face this bad side of yourself, knowing how to deal with it, because everyone has this bad part inside, there's no way to get it out. the jedi were practically avoiding that more in a way that wasn't very mature... and you know, the sith chose on their own, through their evil and lust for power, to become an evil being. but what about those who fell just because they didn't know how to deal with a bad feeling? because if he had he would be banned? instead of welcoming the desperate, the deluded, they were more judging and pushing away. so clearly these people were sad and angry and afraid. so I believe that like jedi or anyone in the galaxy, our choices are made by our thoughts, which interconnect feelings. and if everything is a huge mess in you, and you don't know how to deal with it, you end up becoming a disaster, a monster. perhaps there are even cruel monsters who have no mercy and have never experienced love in their lives. but there are also those who were just lost and ended up being deceived, seduced by the dark side, because I thought that was the only way to feel complete. because the "world" said around him that if he did that, he would be damned. no one talks about how much failures can teach us, they just say that failures define us, that they... make us bad people. and hence the perfectionism of the jedi. the perfection they so desperately want to achieve. it prevents so much good from being allowed into their lives...
