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Safety

Anatomy for Rope with IPcookiemonster Shibari Safety by DeGiotto Rope Shibari Safety by Esinem. (Part One) Part Two)

Beginner

How to Coil Rope by @ miniature-minx available for FREE download if you click the link for “get full video” Twisted Monk How-to: over a dozen beginner-friendly faves, including: karada (aka diamond harness or body harness) pentagram harness single column tie basic chest harness strapon harness basic hair tie

@ropebaby​‘s youtube channel, featuring: rope bra basic crotch rope Rope Corset and more!

How to Join Ropes by @wykd-dave​ Futomomo by Degiotto Rope Leg Corset by Ganraptor Hishi (Diamond) Leg Tie by EpicRope

Ties for Partners (Intermediate)

Tying the Wrists Up Behind the Neck by Topologist Hogtie by Twisted Monk Gyaku Tannuki by GanRaptor Hishi TK by EpicRope

Hip Harnesses (Intermediate/Advanced)

Dynamic Hip Harness by Moco Hip Harness by Nina Russ Tobutsuru Hip Harness by stefanobirdofprey Peach Tie by Tifereth

Advanced

Gote Shibari (also called a TK) by Esinem Tengu by Ganraptor Tengu Hishi by Ganraptor Armbinder by Ganraptor

Setina Rose returns for a second hypnosis session.

1) Princess is never to say sorry for things out of her control.

2) Princess is free to speak her mind and respectfully offer suggestions to Daddy at anytime without fear of punishment.

3) Princess must only speak positively about herself.

4) Princess must look in the mirror every morning and verbally remind herself that she’s a beautiful little angel and that daddy loves her more than anything in the world.

5) Princess must never be worried about going to Daddy with any issue.

6) Princess must send at least one picture of herself to Daddy every day.

7) Princess must share all inappropriate thoughts with Daddy.

8) Princess must always ask for permission to play with herself.

9) Princess must always ask for permission to cum.

10) Princess must be naked as often as possible while home.

11) Princess will try her very hardest and never give up or sulk if she fails.

12) Princess will do her best to be happy for Daddy when he has to be away from her.

13) Princess must talk to Daddy and let him help her when she’s sad.

14) Princess and Daddy must contact each other in the morning when waking up and try to say good night before sleeping.

15) Princess needs to make a to-do list at the end of every week. Princess has to remember to check around the house for any unfinished chores on her days off.

16) It is daddy’s responsibility to get his little girl nice and clean whenever they’re together.

17) Princess has to let Daddy pick her outfits for her whenever she decides to go out.

So you have the Daddy part down to a tee… You’re loving, you’re caring, you’re there for her when she needs you and you encourage her to be the cute and bubbly Little Girl she really enjoys being.

But…

What about the Dom?

It’s all too easy to forget that you’re not just her Daddy, you’re her Daddy Dom. Your Little needs you to show her a strong, confident, powerful presence. If she wanted a wuss, she’d date one of the gazillion other guys willing to give her the time of day.

One of the most important qualities a Daddy Dom can have, is being able to take control of any situation, and be in charge, without being bossy or cocky.

Most women won’t admit it, but controlling, powerful men turn them on. This is why nice guys struggle to get the girl.

Take Charge

Let me give an example. You set up a date with your little over a week ago, and the night is finally here. She turns to you and says “What are we doing tonight Daddy?”. Now the nice guy, he replies with something along the lines of “Anything you want princess. What would you like to do?”, and that’s where he fucked up. No, just no. This is NOT what women want. The good Daddy Dom would reply with a solid, well thought out plan. He knows what she likes, and he’s confident enough to put together a night that they would both enjoy.

Know When To Say No

As much as you love her, and want her to be happy, you need to have the ability to say no. You can’t give her everything she wants, whenever she wants it. She doesn’t want that, and you shouldn’t either. She wants to be told no sometimes, she wants her Daddy to be confident enough to disagree with her, she wants to have to fight for the things she wants sometimes. After all, it’s about what you want as much as it is about what she wants. Having everything handed to you on a plate whenever you want it, without any effort, is just plain boring.

Learn To Read Her

Make the effort to get to know your Little, remember all of her little signs and mannerisms. Eventually, you’ll be at a point where you know what she wants, before she wants it. That is sexy.

Be Creative

One of the least sexy things you can do, is be predictable. So she’s broken a rule, she needs punishing. What are you going to do about it? What’s the first thing that comes into your head? Spanking? Then don’t spank her. Spanking has it’s place, but it’s just so overused and predictable, and we all know that most girls enjoy spanking. Is it really a punishment? Know your Little, know what you can do to really punish her, or she’ll never learn. Take away her favourite plush for a while, stop her from watching her favourite shows, make her do something that is a little outside of her comfort zone. Surprise her, keep her on her toes.

Be Unique

So you like to call her your little princess. Your angel. Your baby girl. Well guess what, so does every single other Daddy Dom. As much as any girl enjoys being called a princess, it sure does take away from the experience. Be different, do something unique that’s special to the two of you. That makes the bond stronger. Think long and hard about things you can do for her that no other guy can do for her. Give her something to brag to her friends about.

And most importantly, remember one thing…

DD/LG Is Not Just About Sex

Sure, sex is great, but so is feeling loved, cared for, protected, looked after, knowing someone loves you for you and not just your sex organs.

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~HELLO FRIENDS!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I would like to welcome you all to my super special self-care masterpost for all of you super special cuties out there! Unfortunately, it’s common to dislike ourselves and feel a little lower than usual. When that happens, it can be very difficult for us to acknowledge our worth! But never fear my darlings, because here are many ways to look after yourself, even if you’re feeling a little down. Best wishes and lots of love! ♥♥♥

Dealing with depression and feeling suicidal

Dealing with depression

6 Steps for beating depression

100 reasons not to commit suicide 

50 things to love about life that are free

The best things in life that are free

40 breathtaking places to see before you die

101 most beautiful places to visit before you die

Reasons to stay alive blog

Adjusting your life for recovery

Natural treatment for depression

Tempted to quit antidepressants? 

CrisisChat

IMalive

7 cups of tea (venting)

BlahTherapy

Mental health chat rooms

The Thoughts Room

The Dawn Room

The Comfort Spot

It will be okay

Make everything okay

Emergency compliment

Changing your life

Gives me hope

KittenCam

PuppyCam

omfgdogs

Cat training

Dealing with self harm 

Stopping self harm

20 reasons to give up self harm

Deciding to stop self-injury

Self harm information booklet

Limiting the damage of self harm

fataltotheflesh *trigger warning*

Alternatives to self harm

146 things to do besides self harm

25 alternatives to self harm

Make a happy box

Basic care for open wounds and burns

Self harm safety

Caring for self harm wounds

Caring for cuts

Caring for burns

Fading and covering scars

Dealing with loneliness and break-ups 

The nicest place on the internet

Brownie in a mug recipe

Comfort food recipes

Movie masterposts

7 reasons why it’s okay if you’ve never been in a relationship

Getting over a break up

6 healthy ways to get over a break up

When you’re the only one not in a relationship

27 perks of being single

6 scientifically proven perks of being single

More perks for singles

Is your friend dating your ex?

10 more ideas to help with loneliness 

10 things to do when you feel lonely

23 things you can do when you’re lonely

Dealing with loneliness

Making friends

Becoming a magnet for friends

How to cope when you feel left out by friends

Dealing with anxiety and stress

Treatment and care for anxiety

Dealing with panic attacks

Overcoming panic attacks

Progressive muscle relaxation

3 effective anxiety breathing exercises

Anxiety relief

Overcoming OCD

10 things you need to know to overcome OCD

Stress relief games

Rain sounds

Nature sounds

Ocean sounds

Coffee sounds

More calming sounds

Paint with sand

Stress relievers

The Quiet Place

90 seconds relaxation exercise

Weave silk

Rainy day simulator

Create your own forest

Dealing with bipolar disorder/ manic depression

Helping your loved one through a manic episode

Helping a loved one with bipolar disorder

Dealing with bipolar mania: help for caregivers

7 ways to deal with a manic depressive person

Dealing effectively with depression and manic depression

Simple tricks to deal with anxiety and mania

5 tips for coping with mania

Coping skills for bipolar disorder

50 natural ways to manage and cope with bipolar disorder

10 small steps you can  take to improve bipolar disorder

Dealing with hallucinations and schizophrenia 

Helping a person with schizophrenia 

Treatment and recovery for schizophrenia 

60 methods for coping with hallucinations

Helping someone cope with hallucinations

Coping with schizophrenic hallucinations and delusions 

5 ways to quiet auditory hallucinations

A practical guide to cope with hearing voices

Helping people who hear voices

Strategies for coping with distressing voices

Dealing with eating disorders

Why do we have to eat?

Why you should eat often + strategies 

The reality of anorexia and bulimia 

Recovering from an eating disorder

Recovery and relapse prevention

The dangers of purging

The dangers of diet pills and laxatives

the dangers of laxative abuse

Physical effects of an eating disorder

Recovery toolbox

Milestones in recovery

Understanding recovery

Making a recovery meal plan

What to do when you feel fat

Confidential eating disorder screening 

Dealing with anger 

Managing anger

Controlling anger

Dealing with anger and impulsivity  

Dealing with criticism

Gruntle.me

Click rocks

Bouncy balls

Dealing with insomnia/sleep deprivation 

What time should I sleep?

Calculating the perfect bedtime + sleep efficiency 

42 simple tips to deal with insomnia

10 tips to beat insomnia 

How to make yourself so tired that you’ll fall asleep

11 ways to get to sleep and stay asleep

Trick yourself into dozing off

Natural remedies to help sleep

Natural remedies for sleep apnea

Restoring restful sleep

10 steps to recovering from insomnia 

Recover after a sleepless night

How to fix snoring

How to pull an all nighter and still do well in an exam

Health benefits of sleep

Why sleep is so important

Dealing with sexual assault and abuse

Helping a friend or family member who was a victim

Coping with the after-effects of sexual assault

Man’s guide to helping female victims

Coping with rape

Coping with acquaintance rape

Coping with rape-related PTSD

Dealing with rape

UK helplines for male survivors 

UK male survivors 

When a man is raped (includes how to help victims)

Understanding and helping male survivors

Survivors Chat

Dealing with domestic violence and abuse 

Steps to take if you are a victim of family abuse

Safe house

Napless shelter for women and children

YWCA women’s shelter

Domestic violence and criminal harassment unit of the Vancouver Police Department 

Canadian bar association- family violence

Vancouver coastal health services

Victims info

Domestic violence help

ywca domestic violence help

domestic abuse services

domestic violence resources

Helplines:

Australia:

Women’s domestic violence helpline: telephone (08) 9223 1188 free call 1800 007 339

Men’s domestic violence helpline: telephone (08) 9223 1199 free call 1800 000 599

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

http://www.violencefreefamilies.org.au/help_lines

USA

Crisis hotline: 1-888-7HELPLINE

Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center: 866-USWOMEN

Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

http://www.thehotline.org/

Canada

Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

Assaulted Women’s Helpline: GTA 416.863.0511 Toll free 1.866.863.0511 TTY 416.364.8762 Toll free TTY 1.866.863.7868 Mobile #SAFE(#7233)

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/canada/canada1.html

UK

Women’s Aid: 0808 2000 247

ManKind: http://www.mankind.org.uk/

Worldwide

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/

Learning to love yourself and be happy

21 tips to release self-neglect

9 ways to love yourself

Loving yourself

Let yourself be happier than you think you deserve

Who to fall in love with first

7 reasons to shamelessly love yourself

5 ways to love your body

17 reasons to love your body just the way it is

20 ways to love your body

Learning to love your body in 4 steps

Do I deserve to be happy?

100 reasons to be happy

300 reasons to be happy

Had a hard day?

28 tips to relax

Learn how to relax and sleep like a baby

14 ways to live a more relaxing life

40 ways to relax in 5 minutes

20 ways to relax and unwind

Jukebox time machine

Read any book

Colour quiz

Useless web

Pointless sites

Build a squid

Mario sequencer 

Seaquence

Virtual Piano

Spot the difference

Internet Explorer 6

Falling falling

Staggering beauty *epilepsy warning*

Heeeeey

Dealing with substance abuse

11 ways to handle substance abuse

How to quit smoking

Healthy alternatives to smoking

10 tips to quitting smoking

10 unusual quit-smoking tips

Tips to help you stop smoking

Quitting methods and what to expect- smoking

Overcoming drug addiction

How to beat drug addiction

The best way to quit using drugs

Ways to end drug addiction

How to help a friend quit drugs

Caring for someone with a drug problem

Alternatives to alcohol

Alternatives to drinking

Alcoholism-solutions

Alcohol abuse treatment and self-help

How to stop drinking alcohol

Health effects of alcohol

Alternatives to drugs and alcohol for solving our problems

Substance abuse/alcoholism helplines

US: National Drug Information Treatment and Referral Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

US: Alcohol Abuse and Crisis Intervention: 1-800-234-0246

US: National Cocaine Hotline: 1-800-COCAINE (262-2463)

US: Al-Anon/Alateen Hotline (for friends and family) 1-800-344-2666

UK: Drinkline: Nat’l. Alcoholism Helpline: 0800 917 8282

NZ: Alcohol / Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797AUS: Alcohol & Other Drugs Information Service (ADIS): Freecall 1800 131 350

Australian helplines 

Gender neutral guidelines for submissive orgasm denial/control. 

Submissives should not cum unless told to by their dominants because: