mental health sideblog

The so-called "inclusive" system community when you aren't immediately a fully fleshed out separate system who can hear each other clearly at random intervals and not only when you're actively listening and can always tell who's fronting or in co-con and who can't function as a singlet most of the time and always realizes when they switch and always has total blackout and noticeable amnesia between alters where each alter is their own unique individual with their own identity and hobbies with 0 overlap of other alters and you use I/me sometimes instead of we/us exclusively: 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

you know “my mind created people in my head because i was miserable and lonely but they were just me” is the most basic, obvious, plural experience ever, right? it’s important to me that you know that?

Really fucking lukewarm take; Anti Endos do not belong, nor should be posting in plural tags.

System roles are like a lot of labels, they're useful as self-descriptors to help both yourself and others better understand you but, when applied as rigid, prescriptive boxes that all must fit neatly into, they become unhelpful at best and often harmful and restrictive.

if you need someone to tell you this let us be that person: yes you can still be a system if your parts are just different versions of you. yes you can be a system if you have trouble communicating or cant communicate at all with your parts. yes you can still be a system if your parts dont have names of faces, but are just feelings and states of being. yes you can still be a system with no set host, or frequent fronter(s). yes you can still be a system without being able to tell who’s fronting at all times or if youve switched. plurality looks different for everyone, dont just assume that because your plurality doesn’t look like someone else’s that what your experiencing isn’t plurality.

treat endogenic systems seriously

your system literally can look like anything. it can have only introjects, it can have no introjects, it can have only non human members, it can have only members that look exactly like the body, it can have only littles, it can have only ageless members, it can have a full system of members that all have only one type of role, it can have a million members, it can have only two members. there is no set way systems have to look! they can present however your brain deems necessary for you!

The being a "singlet very interested in systems" to finding out you ARE a system pipeline is real

Additionally: Thank you endogenic/non-traumagenic systems for curating spaces and fostering a little culture that finds joy in plurality. It was life-saving for us, personally. Seeing others choosing plurality and loving being plural made it so much easier to become more functional, because we wanted to be more like you. Your complexities and vast experiences are important. Your existence is not trivial. Your experiences are not invalid. Your existence is important and we want you here, entirely as you are <3