shrimp time

the tma/tme framework is at best a nearly useless lens to view trans issues through and at worst an actively harmful one. bigotry and oppression don’t work like binary skill checks, especially when they’re based on something as non-obvious as the presence or absence of trans identity, and ESPECIALLY when it’s being used to group individuals as either transfem or not transfem the way it currently is online.

gender essentialism and radical feminism are both bad even if you’re “trans inclusive” about it. people of any gender, cis or trans, are capable of harm. to pretend otherwise is silly.

trans men and mascs do not have systemic power over trans women and fems.

i personally prefer the term anti-transmasculinity (if only because it makes it harder for people to insist we’re saying systemic misandry is a thing) but i also understand that transandrophobia is more widely used, and as such that is the language i will default to.

i think the oppression and bigotry trans men and mascs face are often based around intersections of misogyny and transphobia, albeit different ones than the term transmisogyny refers to. this is fine, transmisogyny meaning the specific intersections trans women and fems face is not necessarily an issue, i just think trans men and mascs should be able to create our own language to talk about our intersection without being told to kill ourselves, whatever that language may be.

trans men and mascs experience misogyny (for the record, so do cis men, but im not sure if people are ready for that conversation yet)

trans men and mascs talking about “womens” reproductive rights and healthcare as our own rights and healthcare are not misgendering ourselves, we are not the ones who decided obstetrics and gynecology and abortion and such were womens issues.

your dysphoria being triggered by people talking about how detransition through forced pregnancy is primarily used against trans men and mascs does not mean it is not a real issue that needs addressing. i would also love to live in a world where i don’t have to think about the dysphoria nightmare that is pregnancy, but unfortunately i do not. much to my dismay my uterus did not shrivel up and fall out the second i put he/him in my bio, and hysterectomies aren’t free or easy to get.

“yeah but those things happen to women not specifically trans men, that didn’t happen because you’re a man it happened cause you were perceived as female so it’s not a trans mens issue” is not a real rebuttal to a trans man talking about how he is impacted by forced marriage, fgm, honor killings, etc. do you think we just spawn in. do you think those things magically stop being problems for us when we come out, because if so i have some really terrible news for you about how all of them work. things can actually be issues for more than one group of people at the same time.

trans men and mascs talking about oppression we face are not “speaking over” trans women or “insisting we have it worse” or anything like that, we are allowed to have our own issues, it is not always about you.

positions on the kink/para discourse that got lumped in with this stuff

thought crimes aren’t real, but they cease to be thoughts when you post them on your public tumblr blog. you can have your kinks and fantasies, but other people aren’t required to stick around when you post siscon or whatever. you’re allowed to have kinks and other people are allowed to think you’re weird. get a journal, or at the very least don’t post your kink untagged on main.

attraction isn’t always a factor in rape and csa but you’re stupid, lying, or both if you say it’s never a factor. “people sexually attracted to children are more likely to engage sexually with children, even if people who aren’t sexually attracted to children sometimes do it too” seems like it would be a no brainer but i guess not.

children are an oppressed class, but i don’t think self identified pedophiles are fighting for children’s rights because they care about children. children’s rights activism shouldn’t start and stop at children’s ability to have sex with you. stop pretending you care about their rights outside of making it easier for you to groom them.

forcefem is a cnc kink and it is not the same thing as trans positivity or just telling people to try estrogen or whatever. same with forcemasc.

maybe don’t equate pedophilia and sexual abuse with transfeminity. maybe don’t say little sister incest kinks are transfem culture. maybe don’t do that.

your blog getting deleted isn’t lynching or social murder or whatever, you did not die in real life because your blog got deleted.

please don’t send me asks about these, my blog is not meant to be about whoever posted rape fantasies this week, these positions are here so i don’t get asks about them.

i am not interested in talking about specific people. that being said if you say some stupid shit on my post i will take a screenshot and drown it. whether i post it or not please rest assured that it is in my camera roll with the water filter over it.

reblogs are not me saying “i agree with this person and everything they’ve ever said wholeheartedly” i do not have the time or energy to go through every single person i reblog from