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just pray to whoever you speak to.. let her be okay.

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Millie doesn’t just love me.

She watches me like her whole little world depends on knowing where I am.

If I move, she moves.

If I stand, she lifts her head.

If I leave the room, even for a second, she has to know why.

Some people call that attachment-

I call it love that learned my pain by heart.

Because Millie has seen me in places most people never did.

Not the version of me that smiles for pictures.

Not the loud version.

Not the funny version.

Not the version that knows how to make everything look fine.

-She saw the Real One!

-The scared one.

-The sick one.

-The one lying there after being told life would never be the same again.

A lifelong illness.

Those words do something to a person.

They don’t just enter your ears.

They enter your bones.

They change the room.

They change your future.

They change the way you look at your own body.

And when I was trying to understand how to live inside that truth,

Millie was there.

Not asking questions.

Not judging.

Not needing me to explain anything.

Just there.

Her little body pressed close to mine like she was trying to keep my soul from slipping too far away.

-There were days I didn’t feel strong.

-Days I didn’t feel brave.

-Days I didn’t even feel like myself.

But Millie didn’t care what I looked like at my lowest.

She didn’t care if I was tired, broken, scared, angry, sick, or silent.

She loved me the same.

Actually— she loved me harder.

That’s the thing about her. She doesn’t love halfway.

She loves with her whole tiny body.

Her whole stubborn pug heart.

Her whole ancient little soul.

She looks at me like I am the safest place she has ever known,

while somehow becoming the safest place I have ever had.

She saved my life in ways people may never fully understand.

Not by doing something dramatic.

By staying.

By needing me.

-By giving me a reason to get up when I didn’t want to.

-A reason to keep going when everything felt too heavy.

-A reason to take one more breath, one more step, one more day.

When the world felt cold, she made it warm.

When my body felt like an enemy, she reminded me I was still loved.

When my future felt terrifying, she made the present survivable.

That is not “just a dog.”

That is a service animal.

That is a lifeline with Paws!

That is love in its purest form.

And yes— she still has to sit through my pictures.

The poses.

The “Millie, look at the camera.”

The “just one more.”

The camera in her face when she would probably rather be napping, snacking, or judging me from a blanket.

But even then, she stays.

Maybe annoyed.

Maybe dramatic.

Maybe giving me that pug look like, “Are we done yet?”

But she stays.

Because that’s what Millie does.

She stays.

-Through sickness.

-Through recovery.

-Through tears.

-Through panic.

-Through loneliness.

-Through every version of me I had to become just to survive.

She has loved me through all of them.

And the bond between us is not something casual.

It is not cute in the shallow way people say cute.

It is deep.

It is sacred.

It is the kind of bond that forms when one soul saves another without ever needing words.

Millie is my best friend.

My shadow.

My tiny protector.

My comfort.

My witness.

My heart outside my body.

And every day she is still here, still following me, still watching me, still loving me like I am her whole entire universe—

I know I am being given a gift I will never be able to repay.

So I love her harder!

I hold her longer.

I take the pictures.

I memorize her face.

Because she got me through the hardest parts of my life.

. . . . . .

And somehow, even now, this little pug is still saving me every, single, Day!

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Four years.

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Four years of grease burns, late nights, fryer alarms, broken headsets, slammed rushes, and the smell of lemon pepper permanently living in my clothes.

People think jobs like Wingstop are temporary.

But places like that change you.

You learn how to move fast.

How to read people instantly.

How to survive stress while smiling at somebody asking where their ranch is for the fourth time.

You learn who cracks under pressure.

Who disappears during rushes.

Who actually shows up when things go bad.

And somehow…

I stayed.

Worked my way up.

Learned management.

Learned leadership.

Learned how hard it is to hold a team together when everybody’s exhausted, underpaid, emotionally cooked, and still expected to smile through it.

That kitchen was chaos.

Printers screaming nonstop.

Oil popping like gunfire.

Sweat running down your back.

Somebody yelling “WHERE’S THE TEN PIECE?”

Another person calling out.

Another person quitting.

Another Friday night feeling like combat over chicken wings.

But there was something beautiful in it too.

A weird family built out of stress and survival.

Inside jokes.

Closing shifts.

Music blasting after the rush finally died.

Laughing so hard you forgot how miserable you were for five minutes.

That place taught me more about people

than any classroom ever could.

And then one day—

I broke.

Not dramatically at first.

Quietly.

The kind of exhaustion that builds for years underneath your skin until one small thing finally cracks the entire foundation.

And when it happened, it happened hard.

My first real mental breakdown.

Not “stressed.”

Not “burnt out.”

Broken.

The kind where your thoughts stop feeling organized.

Where anger and exhaustion and disappointment all fuse together into one uncontrollable fire.

And yeah…

I told the boss to fuck off.

Honestly?

That part almost felt traditional at that point.

Every job I’ve ever outgrown ended the same way—

like a bridge catching fire behind me while I walked away pretending not to look back.

But this one was different.

Because even after all of it…

I still go back.

Still order the food.

Still crave it randomly at night.

Still smell those fries and instantly remember entire years of my life.

Because Wingstop wasn’t just a job.

It was a chapter.

A messy one.

An exhausting one.

A formative one.

A place where I learned leadership, pressure, loyalty, burnout, people, conflict, patience, and my own limits all at once.

And no matter how chaotic it got…

no matter how badly it ended…

It still holds a weird permanent place in my heart.

Because sometimes the places that nearly destroy you

also help build the strongest parts of who you become.

And honestly?

Those hot lemon wings still hit every single time. 🔥🙌❤️

1:00 AM

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The kind of hour where the world feels emotionally unguarded.

TV light flickering across the room.

Silence thick enough to hear your own thoughts moving around.

And then that commercial came on again.

The St. Jude one.

Little bald heads.

Tiny hospital beds.

Parents trying not to collapse on camera.

Children smiling anyway.

And instantly—

I heard her voice.

“Those poor babies…”

Grandma Shirley always said that.

Every single time.

Doesn’t matter if she was tired, hurting, confused, aging, repeating herself—

when those commercials came on, something inside her still lit up.

She wanted to help them so badly.

Not for recognition.

Not for praise.

Just because her heart naturally reached toward pain.

That generation was built different.

People who quietly gave pieces of themselves away

without documenting it for applause.

And I remember all the times she mentioned donating.

“Can you help me do that sometime?”

And me?

Too busy.

Too distracted.

Too convinced there would always be more time.

That’s the cruelty of death.

Not always the loss itself—

but the inventory it forces you to take afterward.

Every delayed phone call.

Every “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

Every moment you assumed life would patiently wait for you to catch up.

But, it doesn’t & tonight, felt different. I felt her prompt me, urge me. “Brady, Call for me.”

I’d been sitting there for six straight hours.

Emotionally motionless.

Mentally exhausted.

Just existing.

Then that commercial came on…

and it felt like she walked into the room again.

Not physically.

But unmistakably.

So I grabbed my phone immediately.

No hesitation this time.

Reached for my wallet.

Made the call.

Twenty-five dollars a month.

Not from me.

From her.

In her name.

And when the confirmation went through,

I completely lost it.

Because almost a year later—

she finally did it.

Grandma Shirley is finally helping those children she always worried about.

Somewhere, somehow, the kindness in her heart kept moving forward

-even after hers stopped beating.

That’s what love really is, isn’t it?

It's Not flowers.

It's Not speeches.

It's Not this social media grief performed for strangers.

Love is continuation.

It’s carrying forward the unfinished goodness

someone you loved, left behind.

And suddenly I realized something that hurt deeply:

This photograph was never just a picture.

It was evidence.

Proof that for one brief moment in this collapsing, temporary life—

I got to stand beside somebody genuinely good.

Look at her smile.

-No performance.

-No ego.

-No image to protect.

Just warmth.

The kind the world is running out of.

People spend their whole lives chasing importance.

-Money.

-Status.

-Attention.

Meanwhile, my grandmother’s dream

was twenty-five dollars a month

to sick children she would never even meet.

That’s a soul. That is a SOUL!

And now every month when that donation leaves my account,

it won’t feel like a bill.

It’ll feel like her heart still reaching into this world

trying to comfort somebody one more time.

And maybe that’s how people really survive death.

-Not through graves.

-Not through urns.

But through love that refuses to stop giving,

even after the person is gone.

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Nobody discusses the moment before rage.

-Not the yelling.

- Not just destruction, but something more profound.

-Not the aftermath either.

•The moment right before..

When your jaw locks so tight-

-it feels like your teeth are grinding into powder.

When your concept starts narrowing,

like the world is slowly being devoured from the sides in-ward.

When every sound suddenly becomes sharp..

Wayy too Sharo!! 🔪

•A clock ticking.

Someone or Something breathing…

A voice repeating the wrong sentence-one too many times. Ugh.

And something ancient awakens inside of you. From where you attempt to never even yourself with its power anymore.. But yet..

-its Not confidence.

-its Not strength.

-its Pure, Unfiltered, Raw.. Thoughtless RAGE! From deep below!

Iiits basaack!

Pure, stripped-down, animal wrath.

The emotion d that doesn’t feel “emotional” anymore—

-it feels like it's chemical.-

Like your blood stopped being blood and turned into electrifying fixed electricity.

-Head to toe-

Tunnel VISION!

That’s the terrifying part..

Because once it starts……. People, disappear.

Consequences evaporate. 💥

You stop seeing faces

and start only seeing those threats.

-Every humiliation.

-Every treason.

Every moment you stayed silent.

Every juncture when you should have EXPLODED!!

-it all rushes outward at once!

like a dam finally giving out.

You're body knows before, You're mind does - and that's the justification!

•Hands shaking.

•Chest tightening.

•Heart punching against your ribs.

-like it’s trying to evade first.-

And then comes the thinking:

“If I let go precisely now…

-I just might Not come back from it.”

That’s the periphery..

☽/☀︎

The exceptionally precise periphery..

The place where a person recognizes..

Fury is more than merely an emotion.

It’s sacrifice.

It’s evolving to be something.

you spent your whole life -trying to prevent.

And the worst part?

For one divisional second…

“it”. senses. mighty.

Not because it’s correct.

Not because it unravels anything.

Because after being forgotten, disregarded, taunted, injured, cornered— for SO Long..

Irritation finally makes you feel it's unthinkable to take over finally.

Just Like the terrified interpretation of yourself,

simply perished,

and something ruthless took its place.

Your hearing dulls.

Your skin burns, searing.

Your thoughts stop ringing like terminology

and start communicating like an IMPACT!

•Break.

•Hit.

•Destroy.

Drive them to finally COMP-RE-HEND YOU.

That’s the juncture the public should fear.

-Not noisy outrage.

-Not the resting Bitch Face you be been wearing all day.

•The kind where YOU unexpectedly becomes quiet.

because they’ve traversed beyond FEELING entirely.

A human being positioned there physically present—

but mentally already in A spot encircled in gloaming..

And perhaps the most alarming part of all

is acknowledging how limited and Short the cord really is!

between living like a civilized person…

And slowly coming to be the very specialty that pain stood attempting to develop. All Along. .

RAGE!

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I spent years becoming whatever kept the room comfortable.

Too Loud?

Shrink yourself.

Too Soft?

Harden up

Too different??

Edit it.

Hide it.

Put a mask on it.

Bury it-

beneath Sarcasm, Sex, Humor, Rage, Substance and yes, Even Charm.

Whatever onset was quickest!

People talk about finding their identity, like it’s some clean, soft sunrise you wake up too with Peace and Hope in your Chest and Soul.

But No, for very few that is ever the case. Identity is Violent, a wild animal, or a Roller coaster.

It's Ripping labels off of your skin that were forced on by family, friends, strangers, lovers, and Fear.

It's realizing half of your personality was built as “crowd control.”

I became who everyone tolerated best -

•a performance.

•a shifting version of myself.

•a survival response wearing expensive words.

I did however learn how to read rooms instantly -

•who would be judging.

•whod be desiring me.

•who would weaponize my vulnerability the moment I let it breathe, then take it, Use it, Abuse it and take advantage of it!

SO. I adapted. EVERY TIME!

Until, one day I looked at myself and realized I had become fluent to every-one and completely foreign to myself!

That's the Horror no-one talks about. Not Heartbreak, Not Rejection. It's Dis-Connection from your Own Soul!

•The Softness.

•The need for love without conditions.

•the frightened kid hiding behind the fake confidence.

So you sharpen yourself- make yourself untouchable before any one gets the chance to make a wound first-

You become Irony!!

•Distance

•Sex appeal

•Mystery

•Dishonest

ANYTHING except honest, bc honest = dangerous, And underneath all of it was a real human exhausted from all the performance.

A desperation of a man hiding, in plain sight trying to figure out which part of him is the real deal, if any at all!

So now I'm I'm unlearning survival and learning identity, every moment of every day.

•slowly

•painfully

•definitely with hiccups along the way.

Maybe that's what identity really is. Is the person left standing or down on his knees, still trying or asking, Begging just how to figure it out, after every mask becomes too heavy, to bare any longer.

And- That man learning his Identity, and unlearning survival on the daily, is me and 92% of those around me. .

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You want the truth?

It hits when the door shuts— that dull, padded thunk—

like the building just swallowed you whole.

The lobby hums wrong.

Fluorescent lights flicker like they’re deciding whether you’re worth keeping.

Carpet smells like old rain and something chemical, something that never quite left.

This place isn’t a home. It’s a holding pattern for people who didn’t land where they thought they would.

Down the hall—3B— the a** hole couple.

Two men, sharp voices, sharper silences.

Not the soft kind of love you see online—

this is teeth. This is slammed cabinets and

The “don’t start with me..”

echoing through vents like secondhand smoke. They don’t break up.

They just… grind.

Day after day.

Love turned into friction.

Across from them— a door that barely opens. The recluse.

You smell him before you see him— that semi-permanent sticky smell, sweet rot, also, something synthetic also lingers.

Time doesn’t move in there.

He answers the world in fragments—

half a face through a crack, eyes that don’t quite land on you.

Inside, it’s always 4 a.m.

Inside, he’s somewhere else..

And then there’s the noise—

no origin, no pattern.

A thump.

A drag.

A drop.

Like something heavy being moved

that shouldn’t be there at all.

You wait…..Nothing.

You question it— then it happens again.

This building doesn’t just house people.

It distorts them.

Every floor is a different version of stuck.

A girl crying into her phone in the stairwell—

not loudly, just enough to make it worse.

A guy laughing too hard at nothing

through paper walls at 2 a.m.

Someone cooking something that smells like hope,

but it never quite reaches your door.

And the floors—

cold, like they’ve never known warmth.

Like nothing good ever settled long enough,

to leave a trace.

You start to change here.

You feel it.

You talk less,

You listen more-

Not because you care— because you can’t escape it.

Lives bleed through outlets, the vents, the ceiling.. You learn your neighbors’ worst moments, without ever knowing their names.

And the worst part? It becomes normal.

The thumps.

The silence.

The tension.

The way every person here is holding something together, with nothing but habit, and denial.

You tell yourself it’s temporary - Everyone does.

But, the building knows better..

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